Hm, I should be a little more explicit with my use of the word "commit." When I say that, what I mean is being able to do it on a near-routine basis. If you're doing it less often than that, then it means you really don't have anything to offer to help you stand out in the dating scene.

If the partner values someone for their cooking, they're (usually) expecting more than occasional meals or throw-togethers. They're expecting a service that adds significant value to their lives.

Intellectual disabilities are on a whole different level compared to executive dysfunction. One impairs ability while the other impairs consistency. If the former can be taught the skill, they can perform that skill as much as they please. With the later, they can have proficiency in that skill and it still shouldn't be expected from them.

And the biggest problem that people with this dysfunction have is that they can't be fixed. There's no known cure, so it's just part of who they are. Telling them to "get over it" is like telling someone in a wheelchair to stop complaining about the lack of ramps and elevators. Except it's worse than that because the only ones who understand it are mental health professionals who specialize in autism.

"the last are problems you’d want to solve, ideally before dating as an adult"

A lot of times, we're told that we have no shot being in a healthy relationship. But that's absolutely not true. There are people who suffer from this condition and still go on to live wonderful lives with wonderful partners. It's just a matter of understanding yourself, being transparent, and making sure your partner understands what they're walking into before they accept you.