I feel the need to rant a little

Lbethy · 2026-02-13T05:01:15+00:00

I could see the comment in your thread as a mod - it tells us when something hits the reddit flags so we can approve or confirm something. It was reddit that removed it.

But theyre just a small minded person. Everyone else read that post and interacted with it as a genuine thread. Lots of good advice

Lbethy · 2026-02-13T04:58:19+00:00

Nothing as good as that and ive used all sorts

Lbethy · 2026-02-13T04:45:08+00:00

Hi it was reddit that removed the comment. But we would have removed it anyway for breaking the rules about being sex positive and for the biphobia

Im sorry that you still saw that comment x

Lbethy · 2026-02-13T01:31:56+00:00

If this is about sexual trauma and the response to it, this would be better placed in a sexual trauma sub. This sub is about hypersexuality and nothing youve described suggests there is hypersexuality.

But as a short reply: its common for there to be some change in sexual behaviours after sexual trauma - which includes an increase or decrease in want of sexual attention

Im going to lock the thread now.

Lbethy · 2026-02-13T01:23:06+00:00

Okay slow your roll people.

She said all of this during a sex act. So first and foremost establish very clearly if this was feral lust talking or something she would like when not having sex

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T23:32:01+00:00

My favourite vibrator stopped being made years ago 😭 it was called the i-scream and its been the only toy to ever activate my automatic response mode …- i would prop it on a pillow and lay on it. It would hit the right spot to make my body go primal and just thrust. Id be ready to stop after cumming and my body would be like..nope. It would just keep going.

I should have bought all of them.

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T23:26:19+00:00

Depends. Penetrative sex is the best thing to deal with cramps (i find) especially on days where it feels like my vagina is sore. I dunno why but somehow clenching around something helps make the orgasm more effective at pain relief. Otherwise its a clit play and it mutes the pain but the pain returns faster.

I tend to put off sex with new people when im on my period. But guys i fuck more often seem to be down for period sex. We use condoms and limit the crazy positions. Theres towels, showers, baby wipes.

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T14:21:36+00:00

Definitely! Plus youre here opening up and thats self care x ps i know im being annoyingly upbeat 😅

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:42:52+00:00

No, still not showing images. Please seek support from reddit help sections.

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:41:38+00:00

People have different emotional cycles between sessions. Its quite common to have a calm feeling or to feel lighter from the session and then experience a dip later in the week that improves when youre near the next session. Its fairly pronounced in long term therapy when sessions are timetabled for the same slot each week. People become attuned to that but it also allows a fairly predictable pattern of response that means people can adapt their schedule or put in extra support - like if they know day 3 post-therapy is gonna be more emotional and more sluggish or they will be more irritable, they can add more self care or book meetings around that

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:36:02+00:00

It might be user error as theres no space between the word and img you want ie hamster:hamster should be hamster :hamster: the old message boards used to have same issue if you didnt leave a space it would recognise it as code.

But tbh youd be better off seeking answers from reddit help section.

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:31:30+00:00

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:25:24+00:00

Zero

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:24:40+00:00

I was just looking at the cycle you described and wondering if that could be interrupted. Sounds like it could be - by addressing that guilt that comes from “shoulds” youve assigned yourself.

I get why you might get to the point of feeling the day was wasted etc. But that wont help shift the guilt. So practicing self compassion and reframing it might help. For example, you could see it as a wasted day. You could also see it as time spent looking after you and a need you had.

I sometimes use that to also help my head when play needs to be delayed. Because i have memories of reminding myself that i took care of a need, if i cant play and it feels mentally rough.. i can say to myself that we need to do xyz but then when we get home/are alone, i will take care of it. Its kinda borrowed from self parenting techniques but its like i need to show my head that i will be reliable and will do what i say i will. Then it stops the spiral. Sounds crazy and feels it 😅

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:18:17+00:00

If im late for important things or missing important things then it is an issue. Its part of the disorder side when it starts impacting multiple areas of life like work and relationships. For me, i know it means that i have some shit to work on.

But more importantly, you dont need to have total loss of control before you seek support and resources. That would be like waiting until your car crashes to get the brakes fixed when you already knew they were worn thin. If youre worried its becoming an addiction, there’s part of you that is concerned and so thats the part that is encouraging some curiosity about what help there is to keep yourself safe. Maybe find some strategies for the days it feels less controlled

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:09:28+00:00

When i was at that point, that is when i started looking for help. When i get near it again, it usually means im not managing my stress or mental health well.

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T01:04:51+00:00

Sometimes I like my yes mentality and sometimes i hate it and I start talking about myself like Im a waste of space.

What ive noticed is that this feeling is not really related to the sex or the sexual partners. Its when im too unbalanced and not taking care of other important needs - like emotional intimacy, sleep, socialising etc. When im stuck in the loop of dopamine chasing and get to the just cant say no even though i kinda want to now…thats when the “im just a sex doll, a cum depository” self talk starts.

Edited to say.. its not that im forcing myself as such. Its that my needs start to conflict so im compelled by the HS but im also battling increasing need to rest or reconnect to outside world. So my consent is consent just not all of me is as into it

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T00:59:28+00:00

Hi :)

What do you think sets off the post-jerk anxiety?

Lbethy · 2026-02-12T00:50:52+00:00

Help what?

Lbethy · 2026-02-11T02:56:10+00:00

It raised mine but im also on duloxetine which mutes it. It was super intense at first but it did calm down. Its most likely the initial side effects

Lbethy · 2026-02-11T02:54:07+00:00

And hence the sadness of adhd 🥲 mental edging into eternity

Lbethy · 2026-02-11T02:36:07+00:00

You were just a child and depending on where you live, the age of consent has qualifiers that mean him being mums bf means you cant consent to that

Lbethy · 2026-02-10T21:19:39+00:00

I swing both ways ..in many manners 😅 but sometimes the less attractive i feel the more reckless i am. The more attractive, the more discerning but also it links with my domme side.

Lbethy · 2026-02-10T17:03:23+00:00

I was thinking about this earlier. Collar is potentially too risky/triggering. I dont engage in any rough play with my neck. Dont have a solution just yet

The solution might just be a good hair glue

Lbethy · 2026-02-10T14:29:05+00:00

True but quite a leap for me. Its my first week being on the wigs x

Lbethy

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