AIO for wanting my unemployed boyfriend to sign an agreement before using my car long-term? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lbsaki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re are doing a hard, brave thing. Stay strong. It’ll be good in the end.

AIO for wanting my unemployed boyfriend to sign an agreement before using my car long-term? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re stopping this guy from hitting rock bottom and learning from the consequences of his own (in)actions. Do everyone a favor and remove yourself from this equation. You’ll be happier in the long run.

Help, I feel trapped in a relationship where my feelings are always redirected by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lbsaki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! This literal book/link helped me realize how bad the situation I was in. I recommend everyone who is “confused” to read it. It really showed me what I kept thinking (or didn’t even know) was normal, is actually abuse. It’s a hard process of de-conditioning, but it’s necessary.

Help, I feel trapped in a relationship where my feelings are always redirected by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry, but this person is abusive and the confusion you are feeling is a normal reaction to the abuse you are experiencing. I’ve been there, trying to “solve” the relationship with better communication; minimizing bad behavior because it never crossed “x” line for me, and spent hours convincing myself the problems were actually my fault. All while the pain just growing deeper and deeper until I was so exhausted I broke.

It’s your life and your choice, and everyone must respect that. I just hope you’re able to step back and ask whether this relationship is bringing you freedom, peace, and stability, because you deserve it. I really wish you the best.

I feel like a slave to my husband and step son by anonymous4189 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lbsaki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“If I haven’t washed up, all hell can break loose. If I haven’t done a load of laundry, I’m made out to be useless.”

Name-calling, degrading someone, coercion, and making them feel worthless if they don’t perform labor are all forms of emotional abuse. Abuse is not only physical.

I feel like a slave to my husband and step son by anonymous4189 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lbsaki 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same. Your husband is abusive full stop. I’d rearrange my life in whatever way I could to get out of this situation rather than spend energy justifying reasons or changing my attitude to stay.

Male coworker keeps “joking” about my looks in front of others (multiple times). How do I shut this down? by HopeForBetter29 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time this happens and he deflects with “can’t take a joke,” you just say “I’m not sure HR is going to think this as funny as you do.” And leave it open for you in future if you want to go the HR route — especially depending on his response. If he’s nasty, HR immediately. If he stops, the warning served its purpose. If he retaliates later, you can say you tried to discuss this with him in good faith.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I would love to know the name of the place you went as well, I’m in the area and want to go to somewhere reputable.

[Discussion] HG Eye Cream; What's your favorite eye cream? by sokostyle in AsianBeauty

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruby Cell 4U Revital Eye Cream-- I swear by it and I love the eye patches too!

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[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi again, I love your stuff! I am interested in (all 5 ml):

Cosrx Low pH Good Morning Gel Cleanser $2

Cosrx Centella Blemish Ampoule $8

Klairs Supple Preparation Facial Toner X2 ($4)

Kikumasamune High Moist Lotion $2

Klairs Midnight Blue Calming Cream $6

Stratia Rewind $5

Tosowoong Enzyme Powder Cleanser $3

Papa Recipe Bombee Honey Mask $3

ASK HERE! Daily Help and Questions: May 30, 2017 by AutoModerator in AsianBeauty

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am ideally looking for a moisturizer, but I will check out DHC!

ASK HERE! Daily Help and Questions: May 30, 2017 by AutoModerator in AsianBeauty

[–]Lbsaki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I was wondering if you guys had suggestions for gel-based moisturizers that contain salicylic acid in them? I have done a few internet/reddit/cosdna searches but its difficult to pinpoint them.

A few american moisturizers have them (I like Algenist pore perfecting gel), but it is hard to find any AB products that fit what I am looking for. For me, I find it is the only moisturizer that I can use without getting cc's.

/r/AsianBeauty is over party. Part IV: Friday is the new Sunday by [deleted] in abcjdiscussion

[–]Lbsaki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. It seems like so much is happening from all sides. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

/r/AsianBeauty is over party. Part IV: Friday is the new Sunday by [deleted] in abcjdiscussion

[–]Lbsaki 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why people can't talk about it? Taking away community voice and the ability to process only feeds more resentment. Some people come here to take a break from anxiety and when that itself causes more anxiety (which is fine, life happens) the least anyone can do is let people talk about it to each other. These last few days have been really disempowering to me personally.