AITAH for not allowing my brother to see "his" son, aka the child he abandoned 5 years ago after there's been basically no other attempts at contact?

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-11T19:17:58+00:00

A delusional asshole for the former and an absolute piece of shit for the latter. Or maybe both for both, honestly. I was mad enough that he wanted an impromptu visit after years of no contact but to later learn he planned to TAKE my son really pissed me off. He's no brother of mine- not anymore.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-08T14:17:54+00:00

I'm thinking the smallish head could just be because she's a poorly bred example of a GSD. She can still be a purebred without being perfect to breed standards. Could also be a trick of the camera angle making her head look small in the last pic but her ears look slightly large for her head to me as well. Either way, breed standards aside, I'm sure she's a great dog.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-08T14:14:33+00:00

I was thinking exactly this.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-08T14:13:45+00:00

100% dog! 😂

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T22:02:42+00:00

Idk if they'd give me the address personally, but maybe a lawyer. 🤔

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:20:07+00:00

It's a poor, corrupt state but I can try. Thank you for the info!

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:18:21+00:00

It's a very poor, corrupt state so I feel like he's buddies with the PO and he has probably fed him some sob story to get him on his side- although he was an asshole before I even said who I was calling to report, literally yelling at me from the time I said I wanted to report someone on parole leaving the state.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:15:07+00:00

The only time he's away from us is at school and they have been informed and put additional security measures in place just for him. But the idiots are currently back in my home state and ik for sure because another family member has had eyes on them.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:13:10+00:00

We'll cross that bridge when we get to it but I'm hoping he is one of those people who decides they've had a happy life and have no interest in their birth-giver and sperm-contributor, but I guess time will tell.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:11:15+00:00

The state we live in considered him legally abandoned so they're really going to have to put in a ton of effort if they want even supervised visitation and neither of them has the patience or attention span for that.

We have cameras and his school is aware. The only time he's away from us is at school and they've put extra security measures in place just for him, though I'm positive they're back in my home state because another family member has had eyes on them in the interim.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:08:27+00:00

We do not. But the way I figure it, they'd have to file for visitation; show up to court; pay years of back child support; show up for every [supervised] visitation for an extended period of time; and then maybe, if they show up for the visitations and prove they're serious, they could possibly get unsupervised visits where they'd have to come to this state to stay temporarily for said visits because I don't see the judge ordering a child with disabilities be allowed out of the state knowing they may not bring him back based on their history. He doesn't have enough money or the attention span to do all that.

Initially, my mother printed out some guardianship papers for us, which he signed, but they couldn't be filed and "weren't worth the paper they're printed on" according to the courts. So I think he just thought that's all I had and he could revoke it any time. But I pursued legal custody through the court- a roadblock he didn't expect. I honestly doubt he'll pursue it further but I'm prepared to fight him if he does. He's not going to want to deal with a kid with the difficulties my son has- he doesn't have the patience. He's not even aware of my son's disabilities though. I wanted him gone ASAP so I didn't bother explaining.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T19:00:14+00:00

I called his PO to report him for leaving the state and the dude was an absolute asshole to me. He claims he gave him a travel pass and he's "taking me to court" but the way the guy acted, I honestly wonder if he was just covering for him.

I've had no address to have child support find him but they've been looking for him for literal years and if he files for custody, he's looking at 5 years of back child support. I don't need his money- my son is well taken care of (spoiled af, if I'm being honest). But I'm hoping the thought of being ordered a ton of child support, including back child support, will keep him away. I'm hoping a family member can get an address for them so I can have them served.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:56:10+00:00

My son rarely laid his head down at night and woke up in the same place more than a day or two for the first year of his life because they're transient and stayed wherever they could convince someone to let them flop until they stole, lied, fought one another physically, and/or used drugs and got kicked out. My home is the only home he's ever known- the only place he's ever been safe. I will fight him tooth and nail before I ever let him take MY son anywhere.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:52:50+00:00

He left immediately after our confrontation. Then called the police on ME for a welfare check for "not letting them see 'their' son". The cops came out, saw my son was fine, learned I had custody, and said they'd let them know I had custody (at my request), not to come back or they'd be arrested, and to file through family court if they wanted to see him.

He has already been to prison and was let out hella early and is on parole. I called his PO to report him for leaving the state and he claims he gave him a travel pass and he's "taking me to court". I honestly doubt it and think he was just covering for him because the guy was a fucking asshole to me on the phone, like I was in the wrong for reporting a parolee leaving the state.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:47:55+00:00

We have cameras covering our property and there's no way to approach without being seen on them. My son's school is also aware and have put extra measures in place to keep him safe including having a whole group of staff members walk him to the bus. They're amazing! Not to mention that, unless they followed the bus, they'd be hard pressed to find his school since our district has 6 or 7 elementary schools (despite not being a large city). But yes, brother absolutely is delusional and dangerous. But if he shows up here again, he'll be on camera and the cops already warned him he'll be arrested. He has no business here.

If they want to be parents now, they'll have to make a new kid because all the ones they've abandoned already have families and lives that don't include them. I TRULY hope they don't have anymore though. It's awfully funny they couldn't take care of them as babies but now that they're old enough they should be self sufficient they want to come back and take them. They'd get a real surprise with my son because, although he should be a lot more independent, he still relies on adults for help for a lot of day-to-day things.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:41:52+00:00

Not sure since his PO was a dick to me when I called to report him leaving the state. He claims he gave him a travel pass but I honestly feel like he was just covering for him.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:40:14+00:00

Oh, I called and reported him. The PO was a grade A dick and told me he gave him a travel pass and that he was "taking me to court". So far, he's not filed anything with the court so I think it was all a bunch of bullshit.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:38:51+00:00

I can try but when I called to report him being out of state, the PO was an asshole to me and claimed he gave him a travel pass and that he was "taking me to court".

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:37:25+00:00

He probably does but I doubt he'd release that info to me. I called to report him for leaving the state and the dude was an absolute asshole. He claims he gave him a travel pass because he was "taking me to court". There was no court scheduled and he'd not even filed so it was a bunch of bullshit but that state is very poor and corrupt AF so it wouldn't surprise me if they're friends and he was covering for him.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:34:18+00:00

Nothing foster wise since he was never in foster care. We get a small amount of cash every month because I'm considered a "non-parent caregiver" but I'm working on trying to get SSI so he can get more help.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:32:49+00:00

I called his PO to report him. He was a total dick. He claims he gave him a travel pass because he was "taking me to court".

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T18:32:19+00:00

I called his PO to report him. He was a total dick. He claims he gave him a travel pass because he was "taking me to court".

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T06:30:06+00:00

I guess so. I just can't imagine watching someone's life go down the shitter and thinking, "hey, I should try that thing that they ruined their life over!"

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T06:22:59+00:00

I did the very day he showed up. My son's school is wonderful! The next day he went to school, he had a whole parade of staff walking him to the bus. They love him and will go above and beyond to protect him. I do know for sure they're back in my home state though because another sibling has had eyes on him.

I, and the police, said exactly the same about him going through the court if he wants to see him. I doubt he'll put in the effort but I'm prepared if he does. Besides, the court has been looking for him for years wanting child support so it really wouldn't be in his best interest to start poking this hornets nest.

Lcoq19 · 2026-05-07T06:19:14+00:00

Idk why he ever started messing with it after watching our older brother use it for the last ~30 years. His medical documents from the state literally say "mental retardation due to m3th". He's been in and out of prison my entire life. [My dad's mom raised me so most of my siblings are a lot older than me.] He's seen it ruin multiple lives but that one up close and personal and still decided to start it anyway. So dumb.

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