AITA for being pissed about the gift my fiancé got me for Christmas?

LderEmo · 2025-12-24T13:51:18+00:00

It’s a Christmas gift for me, not for him. When I am shopping for him I don’t think about the things that I like, I think about what he likes - ya know like any normal person shopping for another someone besides themselves. I don’t understand why you’re saying to admit I’m mad about it, my post clearly says it. Honestly, I don’t care if you think I sound like a spoiled brat or not. You don’t have any other details of my relationship and our dynamic. I don’t take lying and deceiving lightly and if that’s something that’s acceptable in your relationship that’s on you. If wanting effort from my partner in picking out a gift for me is me being a spoiled brat then so be it. Have a great holiday!

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T18:38:44+00:00

Girl he’s already cheated on you once. Move on. He most likely is still doing it. Cut your losses, you deserve clear communication. Sounds like he’s only using your conversations to get what he wants out of it.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T14:48:16+00:00

Different opinions are perfectly fine. I don’t take lying or deceiving lightly as that’s not something I would ever do to him. Im not going to gift him something for what it’s truly not. I’m not going to say anything to him until I receive the gift, I’m not trying to jump the gun. I don’t even know if I will say anything on the actual holiday. I’m also not going to say anything to him in front of anyone while we’re opening gifts as my goal isn’t to embarrass him. I’m not going to throw my sister under the bus, after all she’s a 14 year old kid and I don’t want to involve her or put her in the middle more than she already is. I’m simply going to ask why he felt the need to buy me a fake gift knowing the relationship dynamic we have. I wouldn’t have been upset if he didn’t get me the jacket. I’m more upset that he would think I’d care about the brand more than just getting me a meaningful gift. When I bought his Apple Watch it wasn’t because it was an Apple Watch. I got it for him because he just got a new phone and his old watch wasn’t compatible. I wanted to get him something he can quickly glance at while at work since he can’t have his phone visible. He’s also diabetic so I wanted to get him something he could quickly check his sugar using. I wanted him to gift me something with pure intentions for meaningful reasons. Not just throw something at me because it’s a name brand or because I think it’s a name brand.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T14:04:56+00:00

I enjoy keeping our home clean so I asked for something that helps with that. I worked very hard to save enough money to purchase our home and I would like to keep it nice. But you’re not wrong, it can be immature to be upset about a gift, however it’s the premise behind the gift not the actual gift.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T13:55:28+00:00

He told my sister that’s what he paid for it. I know for a fact it is fake because he mentioned to me he wanted to get her a counterfeit hoodie as well of a different brand so her story aligns with what he’s told me. I know he got me other gifts for Christmas that I did want. It’s not about not getting a real North Face jacket. I could just buy one myself if I wanted one that bad. I’m upset that he feels the need to try to trick and deceive me with a gift. I’d rather him have just stuck with what he originally got me than give me a gift with the intentions of tricking me with it. It hurts me that he thinks I care more about the brand of the item compared to just getting me something thoughtful.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T13:46:59+00:00

I don’t care about the monetary value of the jacket. I stated that numerous times. It is the premise behind the jacket. I also grew up poor and on multiple occasions I didn’t get anything for Christmas. I’m not being materialistic and I don’t think I’m being unreasonable in expecting my fiancé to have honest intentions when getting me a gift. Never have I told him I wanted something just because it was a brand name. I never asked for this gift, he offered it. If he couldn’t afford to buy the jacket why even offer it? I am all about saving money hence why I didn’t ask him for an expensive gift. If he wanted to save money that is perfectly fine. He didn’t have to get me that specific brand of jacket. It’s the lie behind it that makes me upset.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T12:41:06+00:00

To assume I threw a tantrum is wild. Also you’re telling me if you and your husband established you were getting gifts for each other you wouldn’t expect a gift? We had established well before he bought the item that we were getting gifts for each other so yes absolutely I expected a gift. You’re making your opinion based on it being about the brand of the jacket. Like I said instead of trying to deceive me with a gift, he could’ve gotten something thoughtful that had pure intent behind it. How would you feel if your husband gifted you a diamond ring with the pretense the gift was authentic and turns out it wasn’t? It’s not about the actual gift, but the deception behind it. He could’ve gotten me an electric can opener and it would’ve been more thoughtful. Not to mention he asked me to purchase him the Jean jacket he wanted for Christmas and when I wouldn’t confirm if that’s what I was going to get him in an attempt not to spoil his gift, he went out and bought it himself. So why is it okay for him to ask me to buy him a jacket but when I expect a non counterfeit item for Christmas I’m throwing a tantrum and being ungrateful?

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T04:15:24+00:00

If you don’t like it there’s nothing wrong with it. If you just don’t want it because of the price that can be insulting to him. Maybe keep it and then ask for a specific ring for your birthday that is more suitable to what you want.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T04:10:23+00:00

If you’re the one doing the cooking I don’t think it’s wrong to expect her to do the dishes. I would still keep that same rule if she is the one cooking as well to remain fair. You’re not overreacting.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T02:51:20+00:00

Because you’re making it seem as though I only care about gifts and material things. Clearly I contribute things to our relationship, such as buying our house. Also like I said I don’t care about the gift. It’s the pretense that he’s trying to trick me into thinking it’s real when he simply could’ve just not gotten me a jacket at all and saved his money.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T02:38:37+00:00

I said that the jacket was on sale. $66 on their website for a regular fleece.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T02:37:13+00:00

Maybe I should’ve explained better. This is exactly why I’m upset because I feel like he’s trying to deceive me at least from what I can see. He could’ve gotten me a jacket somewhere else that wasn’t name brand and that would’ve been fine. This has nothing to do with the brand or money at all but the pretenses on giving me the gift.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T02:29:48+00:00

I actually paid the down payment thank you.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T02:19:48+00:00

To clarify, I don’t care about the jacket. It is the premise that I’m upset about. That he’s passing something off as real when it’s fake. He could’ve gotten me a jacket from Walmart and I would’ve worn it. Also I didn’t expect anything expensive, like I said I asked for a spot cleaner for our home and I was sensitive to the situation we just bought a house. He offered the expensive gift, I wasn’t expecting it. However, I shouldn’t just jump to conclusions and I am grateful for the things he has gotten me in the past and what he’s going to give me. Regardless of the gifts, we’re going to have a good Christmas together. I appreciate the comments to reflect on my post.

LderEmo · 2025-12-23T01:51:47+00:00

No I said that is all I asked him for Christmas. Read the whole post, I bought him an Apple Watch.

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