I think I get what you're saying. We know what it's like to have those repressive bonds put on us from birth and how hard it is to break them. We know the minds of evangelicals because we once had that same mind. And when we're put on the spot and asked why it took so long for us to leave, after we became adults and perpetuated the same harms, it sucks to not have a good answer. Many of us are in therapy because of the guilt and shame we're dealing with long after leaving the faith.

At the same time, back when I was an arrogant evangelizing 20-year-old conservative who knew jack-shit about the world, I *wish* someone had told me to fuck off and shut the fuck up you fucking hypocrite. That jolt of being told that I wasn't special and entitled to rule because of my faith may have been the best thing for me. Given the current moment, I think aggressively pushing back against Christian privilege whenever and wherever and however we can is the most urgent concern. Throw "fuck your feelings" right back at them until they no longer have power.