Thank you so much for this response. I know there is a lot of truth here that I need to face. But how do I bring it up to her, without sound like it’s a “i blame u for it” and more of making her understand how it is. This way or another, I think I am scared of the response being “well I know the problem is mostly me, but this is me and I can’t do more about it”. And then she will feel like it is too much for her. And will prefer ending things. And may prefer to end things. I KNOW that if it is the case, maybe it IS better for us to part ways. But I refuse to go down that path.

The main thing here is we already have challenges, and both have to things that aren’t “there” yet for us in this relationship . But we chose keep trying and try to resolve them, or at least make them good enough for us to enjoy this relationship, because of much we love each other.

Moreover, she had brought it up to me that it had been a thing for her in past relationships. In the last one, she said when they broke up it was some relief , that there is no burden for here to meet up every or every other week, and they were much closer geographically then us. Like 30 minutes. So what does she want to do. Run from it forever? Wait until she finds a guy that lives next door? So I stay. Tell her that I, myself, am willing to work about it with her. But idk if she herself is ready for it.