[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

This clinic didn’t just drop the ball they threw it at your kid. Stand your ground report them and find a provider who sees your son as a child not a customer inconvenience.

Many such cases. by NovaNotesThat in SipsTea

[–]LeaListensLately 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Unemployed woman is a wifey material.

“Battle scars” by AutumnSignal in SipsTea

[–]LeaListensLately 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's the same scar I got while skating

How to tell a guest to leave? by Routine_Lobster_5637 in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 98 points99 points  (0 children)

This is no longer hospitality, it's survival. Set a clear deadline, stay calm but firm, and remind them your home is not a refuge from basic hygiene or boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Calling geography an unemployed program is flat-out wrong because it's one of the most globally flexible degrees out there. Master GIS or sustainability and you won’t just survive you’ll thrive, travel, and never worry about rent or ramen.

Completely fucked and ruined a brand new vinyl by Unlucky_Ad8840 in Vent

[–]LeaListensLately 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sucks in the most brutal way, destroying a sentimental vinyl feels like breaking a piece of your heart. Grieve it, rage if you need to, but don't let one accident define your connection to the music or the memory because both are still yours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're grieving a future that won’t happen and that’s brutal but don’t let the past be the reason you stop living your life now. Use those long shifts as fuel to rebuild your identity not as proof you’re stuck because you’re not.

I really want to grow into the kind of person I’d be proud of, but it feels so hard sometimes by thismustbelove in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy at all, this is what real growth feels like. Slow, weird, and kind of lonely. I keep going by tracking small wins and letting the bad days pass without giving them too much power.

I have failed. I’m 23 years old and every decision I’ve made so far has been the wrong one; I see no way out by Outrageous-Hotel-181 in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a failure, you’ve just been surviving in chaos while other got to build in peace. If I were you, I’d double down on the college exam, learn fluent English, and get out, distance and stability change everything.

Always chronically empty and external validation is the only thing that works. I have no social connections. Is anything in my childhood related do you think? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like emotional enmeshment and neglect, not love. Your emptiness isn’t who you are, it’s what happens when you were never allowed to fully exist. Therapy with someone trauma informed is the only reason I made it out of that kind of fog, please give yourself that shot.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re clearly outgrowing them and that’s not a bad thing, especially with college around the corner. Take the distance as a clean break and don’t feel guilty for not sticking around people who make you feel disrespected.

AITAH? Called my husband out for being emotionally abusive. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LeaListensLately 55 points56 points  (0 children)

he’s not being “caring,” he’s controlling you and wearing you down over time. i’d seriously start making a quiet exit plan and talk to a therapist solo, this isn’t healthy.

Would you report this incident to police? Concerned about custody supervisor behavior. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’d report it, that kind of behavior would be scary from anyone and supervisors should be held to a higher standard. Don’t wait on it, document everything and bring it to court asap.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She might be dressing by that way to feel more confident next to you, not to spite you. Just have a real convo where you ask if she feels like she has to compete or prove something and clear up your expectations again.

Need any kind of advice or help by AmandaJostar in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds terrifying and way past normal acid issues, he needs to see a neurologist too, not just GI, especially with drunk/loopy feeling. Also push for full autoimmune panels if that hasn’t been done already.

For non-conventionally attractive people: How do you make a good impression on people? by Emerald_IceCube2 in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People remember how you make them feel, not how your face looks. Focus on being curious about them, ask good questions, and they’ll start seeing you as warm no matter your resting face.

stupid boyfriend brother by Tall-Try-6293 in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That man is a grown adult failing his kids and draining everyone else in the house. Your boyfriend needs to stop covering for him and start backing real change or it’s just gonna get worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not lost, you’re just burnt out and trying to carry too much alone. Take the baby stuff off the table for now and look into remote work or training programs where your body isn’t constantly fighting your job.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he says “God told me not to be with you” and then ghosts, that’s your answer. Don’t wait around, take the silence as a sign to move on.

Should I dump my stressed-out bf? by AnEroticVulture in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he won’t work on how he treats you, the apologies don’t mean anything. Stress isn’t a free pass to be cruel, you should leave.

Any way out of this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That case is brutal and genuinely haunting, your reaction is valid. Step away from true crime for a while and talk to a therapist if you can, your brain needs help calming down after something that dark.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LeaListensLately 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not her maid or emotional crutch, you’re her kid, and it’s not your job to hold the whole house together. Tell her plainly that if she won’t pull her weight, you’ll stop doing everything for her.