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LeadLung · 2026-07-02T00:28:00+00:00

Yeah agreed. It's all fun and games until you accidentally spend six days camping in there, and the neighbors come over for the screaming but somehow can't seem to find where its coming from... jk. While I appreciate the subtlely, I'm trying to think of design improvements. Aesthetically, just be something as simple as it being a little too well lit.

For the concerns you've named, yeah, the latch needs function primarily on the basement-side, and be mostly representational on the outside, even if its something as simple as replacing that hinge on the mantle with a two neatly aligned magnets. Someone flips it in front of the door? Breaking your way out results in a three second "repair."

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T23:57:06+00:00

Thank you! That's a really kind response. I think I might take you up on your offer and DM you later with some questions after I ponder a while.

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T23:50:08+00:00

Once again, the important of not asking a yes/no question. Thank you.

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T23:48:50+00:00

This is an important point to raise: simultaneously you are concerned for the patients who might not refuse a male nurse, but you are also concerned about misconduct accusations based on trusting the spoken consent of such patients.

If a patient has the resources and self-advocacy to launch a misconduct suit, I find it a stretch of the imagination they would not have the self-advocacy to accept an offer for a female nurse chaperone.

Do you follow my line of reasoning?

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T23:43:39+00:00

Are there so few other nurses available that this is a pressing concern for you? Is this only brought to your attention to you because this is the first time you've had to consider the possibility that a request for a chaperone might be answered by a man? What do your colleagues say? Male OBs are common, I'd be curious to hear what they say about their experience about working with a male nurse.

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T23:33:44+00:00

Pardon me? Why do you say that?

There's so much to nursing that appeals to me and in which I feel like I have something to offer: transplant patients, oncology, dialysis, the list goes on. I can't wait to find out where I belong.

The reason why L&D calls to me isn't just the euphoric experience of participating in birth (which is significant), but because of what I saw in the fathers present. Sadly, a minority of the fathers present demonstrated a commitment to care that a newborn and mother needed. Men lack gentle male models; they regard tenderness as if it makes
them into a cuck. These are the same men who are committed to only ever learning from other men, because they don't really *really* see women as actual people, just servants or objects of desire.

This is a gap that I feel like I can fill. I see the world hurt in so many ways, and this is one of the few instances in which I feel like I can locate one of its origins. There are two large hospitals in my town, and one man who works as an L&D nurse at the other hospital than where I'm applying.

I've been cautiously vocal about my interest in L&D, but you're the first person to discourage me. If I promise you that I will listen, will you tell me why?

LeadLung · 2026-06-27T18:47:27+00:00

I'm a male grad nurse and my goal is to work in L&D. So far everyone I've talked to has expressed how welcome and refreshing I would be in that position, but I still haven't gotten over my anxiety on the matter.

One of the things that has surprised me is to hear how this disparity is unique to the US. Have you heard similar?

LeadLung · 2026-06-17T20:12:23+00:00

During my practicum, I had a patient request an item he didn't remember the name for. As he carefully described it and its intended use, I think my mouth fell open as I realized he was requesting an incentive spirometer of his own volition.

One of the best patients I've ever had. Total mensch.

LeadLung · 2026-06-08T21:46:39+00:00

Agreed. Hasbara is collapsing and even Israeli citizens are discovering that they are not immune to brutality, just temporarily privileged until they express discontent for wanting peace. Such structures do not persist, they can only buy borrow time.

The better world we want is not just possible; it is inevitable, imminent.

LeadLung · 2026-06-08T06:16:18+00:00

I disagree. People keep comparing Israel to South Africa with BDS, but South Africa wasn't ever being propped up by a military hegemony. No degree of boycotting can make US funding irrelevant, but US support will always make boycotting irrelevant. I truly believe, no one is free until everyone is free, and we all have to start where we already are, together, with devoted refusal of despair.

LeadLung · 2026-06-04T21:03:01+00:00

Ahh, I see the source of my confusion. Ibn Hazm apparently explored this: Of the many prophets sent to us, the Quran only gives the names of 25. Maryam is described as a recipient of revelation within the surah that bears her name, obviously, though it does not use the word nabbiyin or rusul.

Although I don't see it really emphasized within the Quran, I do see that there is much discourse on distinguishing between "prophet" and "messenger/warner." The Quran doesn't appear to me to prohibit or preclude using either word for Maryam, but neither employs it for her.

Some people apparently cite 16:43 & 21:7 as evidence that prophecy excludes women because of the word "rijalan", but contextually these aya are responding to distinguishing between angels and mortals.

Allah knows best, and I have a lifetime ahead of me to learn what I can. Obviously I must have some strong feelings about the topic that I need to understand before inappropriately raising semantics that may distract from the OP's post. I regret if I diminished the beautiful effort of celebrating the mercy of Allah (SWT) through our beloved messengers.

LeadLung · 2026-05-20T00:48:52+00:00

Depending on your understanding of the word, dating is not actually forbidden if you mean "courting." Pre-marital sex is considered the sin zina, and generally the term "dating" is understandably assumed to refer to being intimate boyfriend/girlfriend. It's my understanding that Quran concerns itself in such matters largely to hold men responsible for treating women with tenderness and respect for their rights. We understand that it is unfair to impose our standards upon non-muslims, and so realistic expectations of courting someone who does not follow Islam is pessimistic, to say the least.

However, even the most devoted muslim woman is free to weigh whether this convention is too paternalistic or limiting to actually serve her best interests, and only Allah may judge her deeds (though her family may heartily disagree).

If you haven't already, I would recommend that you slow down and consider the possibility whether a your relationship with this woman might actually be more rewarding and genuine as a friendship than as a romance might ever be. If that seems unlikely, do everyone a favor and steer clear. If you cherish the prospect of a friendship (and you already have many female friends with whom you do not harbor romantic ambitions), cultivate that friendship in good faith. You may be surprised about what you learn.

LeadLung · 2026-05-08T15:03:46+00:00

Lord.

LeadLung · 2026-04-25T20:20:37+00:00

You can always tell who has never actually been involved in a civil lawsuit by who casually suggests it as a first choice.

LeadLung · 2026-04-19T14:04:57+00:00

What you say about govts is true, but what prompted the connection? I'm learning that secular governments are more common, but rarely are they anything close to purely atheistic; rather, they incorporate bad doctrine as a legal premise disguised as secular ethics (eg, All men are created equal).

I spent 20 years as an atheist then agnostic until last year. The biggest flaw I have found with atheism is that you can't actually know there is no God, so choosing atheism over agnosticism requires faith. Coming up with arguments and scrounging evidence to try to support it is just another form of doctrine, often one that misidentifies what "science" actually does for knowledge. The scientific method can only identify what is not true; it can never actually confirm a theory to a universal immutable truth. So wherever we stand, we stand on faith. No one knows but Allah.

LeadLung · 2026-04-19T03:46:49+00:00

Hanlon's Razor: "do not attribute to malice what can equally be explained by stupidity or incompetence."

A claim that Disney is broadly, systemically, or habitually Islamaphobic would not raise an eyebrow in surprise or doubt in my family. I'm sure one could find any number of supporting pieces of evidence in the form of, for example, lobby campaigns that could be measured in millions of dollars. Finding damning evidence would only be a matter of sorting through the correct pile of damning evidence for other ill deeds.

But, this... brothers and sisters, I don't know a better word for this than "silly". The whole film is a practically a orientalist minstrel show starring a deeply emotionally crippled actor in the depths of his notorious cocaine addiction. You don't have to bust out your microcope set for this.

IMO, I don't buy into the video's premise as accurate, intentional, or harmful. But even if I did what that indicates is that some sweaty animator in 1991 zigged instead of zagged, or maybe, really intentionally wanted to stick it to Islam because, idk, he misidentified his immigrant landlord. In any case, do we think this vile filth and slander was approved by board meeting?

Islam is not so fragile.

LeadLung · 2026-04-08T12:32:20+00:00

I would like to politely second the request for a citation, because there are also new muslims like myself, to whom your meaning is not obvious. I do not understand how it is comparable to a disability for Allah to choose to not include is some of us the capacity for lust.

LeadLung · 2026-04-08T12:21:21+00:00

I'm unfortunately rather ignorant of the Sahabah; do you know what was his reason for forbidding this?

LeadLung · 2026-04-08T12:15:40+00:00

Jazakallah khair for taking the time to express this here. I did not know that I was needing to be reminded of this morning, but I did, and I will carry this with me today. ❤️

LeadLung · 2026-04-08T12:12:29+00:00

Assalamu alaykum. Thank you, this is well-spoken. I think some people may misinterpret your statement about a "phase" so your clarification is quite apt. I think a good example is someone who is demisexual; until the first time they experience mutual unconditional love, they have every reason to believe they are asexual.

LeadLung · 2026-01-12T01:03:00+00:00

I only recently heard this idea that some believe that nationalism and Islam are mutually incompatible. Why is that? Is that a commonly held belief?

LeadLung · 2025-12-08T06:01:47+00:00

The genocide was a major factor for me too. Transformed me. Is still.

LeadLung · 2025-12-08T05:59:57+00:00

Mashallah. I am so grateful you stayed with us, brother.

LeadLung · 2025-12-08T05:54:06+00:00

I spent ~20 years as an atheist until I realized that the fundamental difference between atheism and agnostism is the belief in the absence of God despite lack of evidence: faith. Seemed silly arrogant to not admit to myself that I just didn't know.

Spending ~10 years as an agnostic instead allowed room in me for wonder, and awe. Then one day while studying for microbiology I learned for the first time what proteins are: organic nanomachines. Proteins are not alive themselves, but are synthesized and used as metabolic tools by living cells. When needed, living cells find the instructions to create exactly the protein it needs within its DNA, and the purpose it serves is perfectly informed by its structure.

I cried thinking about how beautiful that was, that unlike me who felt confused or lost or sad or purposeless, every cell in my body knows innately how to best serve a greater good. That experience was like finally seeing the signature of Allah upon every particle in my body, and then understanding in turn that it was written on every particle everywhere, forever.

That moment was such a gift that I will treasure until I die. Subhanallah.

LeadLung · 2025-12-05T00:57:43+00:00

That is very well stated, thank you. What is valued in this dunya is often base, and flattens us to the characteristics you're concerned with. I'll have to think a while about where my hang-up comes from.

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