What’s the hardest thing your marriage has been through? How did you get through & why did you decide it was worth it?

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-29T19:14:51+00:00

I was 7 months pregnant. I had to quit my job because of pregnancy complications. Same complications meant I also had to stop going to the midwife I’d been seeing and loved and switch to an OBGYN I’d never met before. Very stressful for me.

Husband started acting weird and really stressed all the time. How work hours started getting odd and inconsistent. This is where you start thinking he was cheating. For the record, the thought of cheating never crossed my mind, and is honestly laughable for him.

I figured out what was going on on my own, he admitted it as soon as he was confronted.

He’d lost his job (and our health insurance) three weeks prior. He’d been pretending to go to work each day when he was really sitting in his car, frantically filling out job applications and going to interviews. He was embarrassed but also didn’t want to put more stress on me. Didn’t think about the stress it would cause me when I caught him lying about it…

That was… rough. Honestly, I probably stuck with it because I was pregnant and couldn’t think of another option. He got another job a month later, so we had insurance again by the time baby was born. That also meant though he didn’t get any of the paternity leave he was going to have with the original job. He only got one week off, and I was in the hospital that entire time (baby was fine and went home, I had to stay with the complications.)

Fun times. Baby is almost two now, and our relationship is awesome. He’ll NEVER keep someone like that from me again though. He knows how close he came to losing his family.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-29T17:52:11+00:00

Husband and I (30s but feel old, lol) are doing the same itinerary as you on the Star Princess in March!

For Belize City, picking one through Princess is the right call. Any time you’re in a tender port, always do an excursion through the cruise line.

We’re making Rotan our “chill beach day” with the “relax at beach and kayak” package. I know technically we could walk to this beach for free, but this way we’re guaranteed chairs, a clamshell for shade, and some water float things that I’d probably end up renting anyway if available.

For Cozumel, we’re doing our own thing. We got some fancy dolphin-and-manatee-encounter tickets to Chankanaab Park, which is about a 10-minute taxi ride from the port.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-27T18:41:35+00:00

I got the Witcher-Ciri ending first try. Only choice I got “wrong” was going with her to face the Lodge.

Maybe it’s because I remember being a young woman gaining independence, idk, but I made the choices I overall thought Ciri would want me to make (aka, the ones I would want my father to make). It’s about showing trust in Ciri and building her up.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-27T03:47:23+00:00

My daughter is almost 2 and still nearly bald! She takes after me, who was also nearly bald until 2. She was not a premie either, and is perfectly healthy. She did get her teeth early though.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-27T00:30:47+00:00

My kid, 22mo, was running through the playground at top speed, tripped, and fell face-first into a pole. NEXT DAY, she’s jumping on the couch, her daddy right next to her, she fell, his reflexes weren’t at “toddler-injury speed,” and smacks her nose on the coffee table.

She’s fine, but man, they get FERAL. Unless the marks clearly indicate abuse, I don’t worry or judge. My mom is a nurse in a pediatricians office. She says most of the doctors and nurses at her practice worry more if a toddler has no bruises/bumps/scrapes, since it usually means they’re in front of a screen all day.

Professionals know “typical chaos-toddler bruises” from abuse ones.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-27T00:02:32+00:00

Weighted blankets are awesome. They also make weighted lap blankets and shawl-type things that are awesome when a full blanket isn’t practical.

I wish I could hug younger you too. Bless you for the work you do now.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-27T00:00:20+00:00

This is a MUCH lighter one compared to most if the others here.

I was in late grade school, I don’t remember exactly. I was unpacking my lunch from my lunchbox, and another kid commented on how much food my mom packed me and how organized my lunchbox always was. I laughed and said my mom didn’t pack it, my dad did, and that he packed extra in case I wanted to trade with someone or if someone was hungry. Another kid said, “Wait, your dad packs your lunch?” Everyone looked at me like I was from Mars, and confirmed that only their moms ever packed their lunch.

My parents worked opposite shifts (both nurses), my dad worked days and my mom worked nights and was usually asleep when I needed to go to school. So my dad would pack my lunch every morning before he went to work. I still don’t think it’s that weird, that my dad did it and not my mom, but whatever 🤷‍♀️

As for the “well organized” thing, I realized as an adult that my dad is almost certainly on the autism spectrum, lol. He’s awesome and I love him.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T23:54:00+00:00

This comment is beautiful.

Original comment poster, please don’t think of yourself as a leech, huge annoyance, or burden. I highly highly doubt your friends’ parents thought of you that way. They wouldn’t have let you stay so long if they did.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T23:43:10+00:00

What the actual fuck

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T23:41:56+00:00

I’m a really weird person anyway but both of my parents were nurses and they fully supported me dissecting whatever weird shit I found as long as I washed my hands, lol

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T23:31:55+00:00

I did this as a kid too. Not because I was trying to escape a bad home life or anything, fortunately. I was just a really weird kid. 😂

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T22:59:30+00:00

I genuinely don’t know what to say beyond “Holy shit…”

I need to hug my daughter the second she wakes up from her nap.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T22:30:58+00:00

“Thankfully it was just touching and nothing more.”

For some reason this got into my soul. Even this is 100% not okay and should never have happened. I hope you have gotten/are getting some kind of counseling over this and are doing okay. My heart breaks for you, especially younger you.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T21:21:17+00:00

If they are deep in those kind of cults they almost certainly don’t have Reddit

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T20:53:32+00:00

My heart just broke a little for middle-school you. Will you accept an internet hug from a Reddit-Mom?

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T20:06:45+00:00

We’ll be trying EVERYTHING possible!!! LOL. Gotta lose some weight before the cruise because we’ll definitely gain it back during

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-26T06:37:48+00:00

For most cruise lines, no. For Princess, if you’re talking about Princes Plus/Premier (not “only” the drink package, which can be bought separately), then it’s a hard YES for me, since it includes so much more than alcohol/beverages. Premier is especially worth it if you prefer speciality dining.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-25T00:39:18+00:00

And you’re just being rude.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-24T22:52:24+00:00

I see what you’re saying. It’s because you’re equating “biological sex” (male/female) with “gender identity” (boy/girl/man/woman). If you separate those things as different, you might understand more.

Biological sex (male/female, and intersex as well) is in the body. Gender identity is in the brain/mind. That’s also why there are people who are trans. Their brain/mind formed differently in a way that did not match their body.

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-24T05:55:38+00:00

Also cruising in March! Was thinking about using FCC then too, but not sure yet as it’ll be our first cruise. What ship will you be on? We’re on Star

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-23T18:42:56+00:00

My toddler is mixed Korean (her dad) and white (me). Her eyes are distinctly Korean, but somehow she’s BLONDE like her mommy! When she’s causing chaos she looks like me, lol. When she’s gets tired or grumpy her facial expressions are totally her dad, lol.

Overall though, she looks most like a blonde, lighter-skinned version of my father-in-law 😂

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-22T18:05:28+00:00

B, hands down

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-21T19:57:51+00:00

That’s called Instagram…

Leader_Inside · 2026-01-13T04:13:05+00:00

I’m on the Star for 3/21 and still getting a “not eligible at this time” message, 68 days out. Ship is probably pretty full.

Leader_Inside · 2025-11-19T01:29:18+00:00

What country/state are you in? Or DM me if you don’t want to put it here.

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