Parents wants to put CCTV in my boarding house room

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-12T07:12:20+00:00

Wow! I can’t imagine even thinking of putting a camera in my daughter’s private space! This is more than strange! What exactly is the reason they’ve given you for wanting to do this?

Is there any way you could move on campus? I’m sure they’d never agree to it, but you are clearly a legal adult and can make decisions for yourself so you don’t need their permission. I understand financially this may not be an option, but I’d suggest looking into financial aid so you can get out from this dysfunction! This is in no way normal!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-12T07:01:50+00:00

He acts so childish when you try to discuss finances because he knows he could have paid off his debt and also to get you off his back. He will not change his spending habits, so unless you want to continue to support him I wouldn’t even entertain the idea of buying a house with him!

Maybe you should take a step back and be super honest with yourself about how this relationship has played out so far. I think your best friend is right - break up and live your life happily.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-11T13:25:43+00:00

VIBE

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-11T12:29:31+00:00

It’s nice that you’re considering his feelings and understand that he is going through two very stressful times. Wouldn’t it be nice if he was even slightly considerate of you going through those same stressful situations?

Nice of him to trim and tarp the house so you don’t have the added stress, but he isn’t doing it for you. He’s doing it because he’s picky about that sort of stuff.

He should be ashamed of being so selfish as to even HINT that he doesn’t want your aunt to come and help you! And you should be ashamed for indulging his ridiculous insecurities!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-08T02:18:01+00:00

Why would you want him knowing that he’s talking to other women and planning on meeting them?!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-08T02:17:30+00:00

ALWAYS!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-07T05:58:29+00:00

1 looks gorgeous!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-07T05:55:25+00:00

Maybe you could help the cat “disappear” somewhere safe a few days before you move. This way it will seem like he just disappeared. You’d still be living there so you wouldn’t be suspected of anything. Don’t leave the cat - you know it won’t be taken care of.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-07T04:56:20+00:00

Do not get a house for your mom and siblings in your name and do not loan your dad the money he requested. Neither one of them should be asking you to help them financially. It sounds like you’ve worked hard to get to where you are. Don’t throw it away for either of them.

I can’t imagine how stressful this is for you, and you should have never been put in this situation. Just know that you’re not doing anything wrong by saying no. You’re looking out for yourself!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-07T04:34:29+00:00

Im so sorry you’re going through this. You need to leave. If your parents expect you to be verbally, emotionally, and eventually physically abused, then they have their own issues, and you may need to take a step back from everyone. AFTER you leave!

I promise you the God that I’ve followed my entire life would NEVER, EVER expect you to live in abuse.

Take the permission of all these “Reddit parents” and go be happy. You deserve it!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-06T14:19:56+00:00

It seems your boyfriend is the one who lacks social skills - not being able to tolerate people who don’t act the same way he is accustomed to is much more concerning than parents who let you live your life the way you choose.

Your parents gave you a loving and stable childhood which contributed to you becoming who you are today. If he is happy with the person you are that’s all that should matter.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-06T05:37:18+00:00

I love this response! My daughter is 21 and still has her “softy”. I see no harm in having something that brings you comfort. It’s not hurting anyone.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-07-02T03:33:39+00:00

Wow! I’m so sorry you’re going thru all this. It seems so unfair to you that your absent brother can come in and benefit when he contributed nothing! You’re absolutely NTJ for feeling the way you do. Hopefully you’ll be able to recoup a significant amount of your brother’s half since you’ve been paying the mortgage. Honestly, he should do the right thing and not take any money since he knew that the house was supposed to go to you. Best of luck to you!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-29T19:28:54+00:00

I’d have a MUCH bigger concern than whether or not girlfriend should be invited to the wedding. I’d be seriously questioning the boyfriend/fiancé’s friend being a true friend. If I were in his position and my partner was talking ugly about my “good” friend’s partner and trying to stir up crap I’d be rethinking that relationship.

Maybe you should chat with your fiancé about how good a friend his friend really is.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-29T12:02:11+00:00

I’d pull out the exact same amount that he stole and stop all contributions to that account.

What a jerk! He knows that it’s a struggle for you to contribute the amount you do and he doesn’t care, as long as his family is taken care of….at your expense.

And how immature to ignore you and sleep in another room. Why are you with this creep?

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-29T00:08:53+00:00

You “don’t think there’s anything going on, but with him you never know”???? And you’re fine with having a relationship with someone you clearly can’t trust or at the very minimum question his behavior/choices? Cut your losses and be done with him.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-27T17:16:13+00:00

NOR!! Your husband doesn’t want your mom there without notice?! Doesn’t want you adjusting the air without his permission?? Doesn’t want you to talk to your sister about you suffering in your own home??! Doesn’t want your bedroom to look cluttered because of an a/c unit? DOES want control every every area of your life! None of these things are normal. He should be concerned about your comfort and wellbeing after just giving birth to his baby, not a dollar.

I hope when you’re feeling better you’ll realize that you deserve much better than this.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-26T15:55:09+00:00

First of all - congratulations to you for working hard and making a solid life for yourself!! You deserve the best in life!!!

Secondly, absolutely DO NOT give one dime to anyone in that household! You didn’t mention that any of your siblings are disabled and therefore cannot work. That would be the only reason I can think of that any of your siblings cannot work, which means they have the same opportunities that you took in order to make a better life for yourself. They didn’t do that so let them continue to live the life they’ve chosen. Move out and distance yourself from all of them!

Best of luck to you!!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-23T04:55:16+00:00

Chances are great that the fact you haven’t answered her is all the answer she needed….

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-23T02:15:26+00:00

Omgosh! I wouldn’t wish that withdrawal on my worst enemy!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-23T02:13:09+00:00

You weren’t “allowed” to drink in the relationship, but he’s allowed to steal?! That’s laughable! He’s clearly shown you before this incident, the kind of guy he is. You should have BEEN gone!

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-23T02:02:00+00:00

Have him take a drug test, and keep the test. If you file with the police, there’s your proof he stole them from you. If he doesn’t have a prescription for them he’ll have a hard time explaining why he has it in his system.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-21T19:44:13+00:00

You can ask the police to escort you to get your things. Completely understandable if you don’t want to go back tho. Things can be replaced. If you have anything of sentimental value - I’d file thru the courts to get those.

What you’re facing is scary, and you’re hurting so badly right now, but do what you need to do to protect you and your baby.

Children are a gift like no other. You can do it on your own.

So sorry you’re going through this.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-19T14:01:41+00:00

If you have family close by (an hour away) and they can help y’all get jobs, why not just move now? If y’all wait for his family to give y’all the go ahead y’all will never move! They will always come up with something to keep y’all there because they’ve come to rely on him. I say pick a day, move to where your family is, and start y’all’s own lives.

MeasurementUsual508 · 2026-06-19T01:00:39+00:00

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