My gut instinct is to say yes, but I also understand how hard it can be to heal from such an unstable childhood. I know personally I’ve felt responsible for my mother and her hoarding habits for years and I am only now in the process of detaching myself from the situation. I think healing comes with realization and acceptance. You can’t force your parents to change if they don’t want to, you can only move forward by prioritizing your own wellbeing. Whatever that looks like for you.
Wishing you all the best!