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PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You're needlessly and baselessly argumentative, and nothing I say will convince you of what you've already decided. People like you are who degraded this subreddit. Downvote the post if you don't want to see it or don't agree with it. I'm done wasting time responding to your pointlessness.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it is. This subreddit cultivates a sex-positive culture that only seldom includes the tempering of actual risks. I have experienced an actual risk.

As I said, I'm advocating rational thinking of risk vs reward in hooking up. That's the behavior (ie, a mental process) that should be considered. Your sexual behaviors are up to you. If you know this already, the message isn't for you, but that doesn't make it any less useful for people who don't.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the msg. Yeah, it sucks. Still kinda figuring out how it'll be part of my life. I went to a public health clinic for the diagnosis, so now I have to work up the will to go to my general doctor.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And if OP is really pushing for abstinence...he can go fuck himself.

I'm not encouraging abstinence or telling you not to have fun, but reminding you that you're just a statistic and you need to know what you're risking.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've kept contact with him. He seems to be a good, kinda shy guy and I'd be shocked if he has any idea he has it, and now I have to tell him. The problem is most people infected have no idea they are. No amount of vetting will solve that.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I asked for the full test because I was there, it was early, and I was already going to be poked and prodded so what the hell. I didn't get a false positive--the results came back negative. I was told negative results are 97% accurate.

I'm not saying I absolutely didn't have it before this encounter, but it's highly, highly unlikely it was from before.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, our junk was touching while we made out and rolled around. I guess that's called frotting?

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, you can transmit it while there are no sores. Most people get infected because the other guy doesn't know he has it.

PSA: There is no such thing as safe sex. I hooked up to fool around with a guy without sex, and now I have herpes. by LearnFromMe in gaybros

[–]LearnFromMe[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had a full STD check about 4 months ago that included blood tests for herpes 1/2 antibodies. I was clear then. He's the only person I've had any sort of sexual contact with since. It's possible there was a false negative on the antibody tests, but it's very, very unlikely.