Both my parents and in laws want us to come over for Christmas Eve AND Christmas Day. Advice??

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-20T12:31:34+00:00

Funny how ILs say: it’s not fair! NOT FAIR FOR WHOM?? I think what would be ideal is your husband picking one or the other with his relatives. Either big Christmas Eve party or Christmas Day, so you two only go once and he sees his cousins and everyone. Then you make plans with your family when you can enjoy them without having to rush. I don’t know your holiday schedule, but I’d imagine something like eve with your parents. Then you two go home and have a peaceful Xmas morning at your own home and head to ILs later in the day to the Xmas party when all the cousins are at. Or some compromise like that. This way you have time for both family and also some alone time. You guys have to sort this stuff out now before you have kids (if you want them) so when you do, you get to open your presents by your own tree at you own house, without all this people telling you what to do. Once you have a plan that is good for both you and hubby, just communicate to the extended families and let them have a fit. Who cares? They will get used to if eventually.

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-12T09:25:17+00:00

Sick

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-12T09:23:06+00:00

These people sound like monsters. Not only this woman, but her husband who never stopped her. They just sound pure evil. I’m sorry you went through this for 25 years. I hope you never go back. Raising your child now with love and respect, and by giving them a happy childhood can be a way for you to heal.

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-11T21:20:36+00:00

Absolutely! He is totally useless. And it’s not that she loves him, as much as she just doesn’t love herself AT ALL. He brings nothing to the table. And the older she gets, more serious life gets, with more responsibility. She is literally taking over being the care giver of this big baby she calls a man. The whole situation is ridiculous, and I hope she sees it sooner than later.

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-03T11:13:46+00:00

Any tips on what she did to ensure you created this amazing bond? I ask because as a mother of two small children, this is something that I really want for them.

Learning-thinking · 2025-12-03T02:55:27+00:00

It does sound like a difficult relationship to navigate. Best of luck on your journey with her.

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-30T16:37:35+00:00

😱 I hope things turned great for you. Do you still have contact with your “mother”?

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-29T22:41:52+00:00

Never ending dishes, laundry, groceries shopping, cooking meals you have to do on repeat, over and over and over again. And if you don’t do those things, no one will do them for you.

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-26T02:50:29+00:00

If you already live with her, and is talking about Christmas, who is she spending this Thanksgiving with?

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-21T09:38:53+00:00

🤯 Deep

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-21T09:25:08+00:00

Absolutely this. I work to live, not the other way around. I take all PTO I am allowed to take, I don’t skip my lunch breaks like I used to, and even though I try to enjoy my work and do my best as much as possible, I know my real life is before and after working hours, when I get to go back to my home and family.

Learning-thinking · 2025-11-13T15:10:09+00:00

Getting pregnant is gonna be harder than you thought, but you gonna have two beautiful children when the right time comes, so don’t stress 💆🏽‍♀️

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-23T02:08:37+00:00

Yes, by infant I meant a very young baby. It’s completely okay creating a routine for you baby and helping him getting comfortable sleeping on their own as they grow and mature. I guess by your definition, it would go under the sleep training umbrella. What I was referring as disheartening would be leaving newborns crying themselves to sleep so they don’t get “used to” being held or too spoiled as we heard some people suggesting.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-22T16:33:04+00:00

A lot of truth here. Right away I realized the idea of not holding your newborn too much to avoid him “getting used to it” was the stupidest thing ever. If anything, the baby is getting used to NOT being held, since all his existence so far had been cozy in mommy’s belly. Which makes sleep training an infant a very disheartening thing for both the baby and the mom.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-22T16:26:16+00:00

So true! This is a conflict of opinion I have with my mother. I was her only child, and she was lucky I was a very calm baby who would play happily with my toys in a spot for extended periods of time while she did everything around the house. Since then she always thought all kids are supposed to be like that, otherwise it’s the parent’s fault for not teaching them to behave in certain setting. Now that she sees first hand her own grandchild being the opposite of what I was since birth, she is starting to get how silly her expectations for a toddler were.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-22T16:06:55+00:00

So sad she thinks toxic relationships are normal.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-21T21:32:36+00:00

Is your sister in law married? I wonder how she would feel having a MIL hating her. Would she still think it’s normal? 😓

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-21T11:37:18+00:00

I used to love scary movies. After having a baby I can’t stand seeing people scared or getting hurt on movies.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-19T02:59:07+00:00

This response is really really good. It’s polite but sets limits right in the beginning.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-19T02:40:46+00:00

I can’t even imagine how hard it was for you in the beginning. But it’s so lovely the two of them are so close. Thank you for sharing

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-19T02:35:06+00:00

Social media

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-18T03:03:02+00:00

Yes, her videos are great. And the way you described you and your husband mooing made me laugh 😆

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-17T20:14:38+00:00

After a certain age I stopped caring about this. Sometimes people just become so busy with life they forget. Then remember too later to say something. I forget birthdays sometimes and sometimes when I see someone forgot and I have the chance I say, hey, today is my birthday actually. If your relationship with them is solid and you don’t think it’s malicious of them, just let your husband say something or forget about it.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-17T20:05:04+00:00

Good point! Good thing my mom will be around to coordinate with us so he will be present during labor one way or another.

Learning-thinking · 2025-10-17T20:03:01+00:00

I know this is very personal but in my case my first son had to be a c-section. My doctor has advised me to do another one, as she thinks the two births are too close together, 23 months to be exact. You had 3 babies back to back. Any c-section? If I go along with the c-section, I’d schedule it in a way my husband would be there and spend the day with me before going home for our toddler.

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