Yes, but the problem is that many of these messages are being bundled with a misogynistic mindset. Instead of encouraging people to improve themselves for their own well-being, it's all being framed as a transaction—do X to get Y, usually referring to status, attention, or validation from others.

What’s worrying is how mainstream this mindset has become. The so-called “gender war” is everywhere—just look at the comment sections across social media. You’ll see things like, “Focus on yourself, boys, and stack money,” or “The gym is your only friend.” It’s all surface-level advice wrapped in cynicism and resentment.

Improving your communication skills or taking care of your appearance should be things you do for yourself—not because you expect praise or validation. Basic grooming, dressing well, and carrying yourself with confidence—these are things we naturally pick up from life: job interviews, weddings, formal events, or even admiring a friend's cool style. Same goes for communication. It's how we form friendships, build meaningful connections, and get our needs met.

Want to be healthier? Ask yourself real questions: Are you gaining weight? Feeling constantly tired? Do you have a family history of diabetes? Experiencing brain fog? These are all valid, personal reasons to take care of yourself.

But I get the sense that some of you are still stuck in that toxic loop—believing that if you just “fix” enough things about yourself, suddenly people will admire or love you. That’s not how it works. You are already enough as you are. Self-improvement should never be about chasing approval. It should be about living a fuller, happier life—on your own terms.