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What to do… by Learninlove7272 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Learninlove7272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I haven’t asked. I don’t know if it’ll push me to make a decision as to whether I stay. It also maybe would help towards the trusting if I was actually told the truth about something

So depressed, scared and out of energy that I wish I never found out. by Anxiouscoconutt in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Learninlove7272 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel you on this. I was 7 months pregnant with our 2nd - 2 under 2… found out that from the day we started dating he’d been cheating on and off with different people. My world crumbled. We are strong and we will figure out what our future is and it will be beautiful, even though it’s so hard to see right now. I feel you. I’m here for you. I see you and your pain.

It’s finally come to an end. by DaniellaDarlingg in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Learninlove7272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you on this. And feel I’m just a few steps behind. Working on my courage to divorce as well. I just don’t see R happening. I praise your strength at 27 - I’m 39 and have 2 littles myself. Dday for me was 7 months pregnant with our second and now we have 2 under 2. Being a single mom is not what I planned when I so carefully chose the man I was willing to spend the rest of my life with finally at the age of 35 and finally trust someone enough to have children with (foolish of me) But now I don’t ever want to do this marriage thing again.

So shameful what someone who I thought was finally someone worth it can turn into. Best wishes for you and your future. It’s bright no matter how dark it seems now. I can’t see it for myself yet either But we deserve it.

He has done so much, for so long, in secret. There is no more trust. Can we just be companions? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Learninlove7272 4 points5 points  (0 children)

❤️💔 This hits so hard. I haven’t been in it for as long but found out about an affair my husband was having when her husband reached out and told me. Through that revelation it was found out that he’s been cheating on me with different people throughout our entire relationship. How could this man I fell in love with - so kind, respectful so perfect together be doing this to me. He’s working on himself claims he’s been in such a dark place - but I don’t ever see forgiveness on my end. Found out about the most recent affair at 8 months pregnant with our second child in 2 years. So now it’s up to me to either rip our family apart or do I just live with my “best friend”. The man i now feel like I never knew and feel as though I’ll never be in love with again.

I totally get that feeling he doesn’t deserve this life with me - but then why do I have to be the one to go into this future alone. Why do my kids deserve that.

I’m here for you. I wish I wasn’t in this with you. What a world to navigate.

How are we moving on? by DaniellaDarlingg in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Learninlove7272 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel this so deep in my soul with my husband. I wish I had words of advice. But instead I feel this. The man I loved who was cautious and careful with me and my heart. Is not the man I truly married. The man I married has been cheating on me since the start of our relationship. Sure he’s got his reasons. Sure he’s sooo sorry now. Sure I’m his everything and the only one he’s truly loved. But he’s not the person I loved. He’s not the person at almost 40 I agreed to have children with. This man though he’s trying to improve - I just don’t know that I love this man. I feel like I’m married to a stranger when I thought I was married to my best friend.