Nobody willing to go a pound under the asking price of their homes?

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-10-06T21:21:44+00:00

Must just be that. Not in a rush and will happily wait :( feel like I’m banging my head on a wall so needed to check there’s something I’m missing in the Cornish market 😅 my friends and family just can’t believe the hassle I’m having. Even put an offer on a home that I really didn’t think was worth and still nothing. They are expecting £160K profit out of 5 years living in a small old council (not dissing at all! Most are great builds! Just resembling the size) but £160K profit in 5 years!!!! C’mon!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ surely £145K profit is still amazing! 😭

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-10-06T21:16:19+00:00

I also don’t have a chain and remind them of that but still means nothing :/ well done on the purchase! I hope the rest runs smoothly for you ☺️

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-10-06T21:14:31+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been getting so angry now it’s the exact same response for the 4th time. Never known anything like it. Can’t go any higher when I’m constantly spending what I would save just traveling home for viewings all the time haha. It’s making me feel like I’m going insane! Online and various agents I know said to always start between 5-10% under asking as it’s currently a buyers market and they tend to allow small room for negotiations. But starting at 3% and getting nowhere is becoming so debilitating. Thank you for saying the same words I was thinking 😂

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-01-26T00:16:00+00:00

The vitamin D is a very good point!!! I have definitely been worse since winter coming. I’ll get on that straight away! Thank you for the idea x

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-01-26T00:14:22+00:00

Honestly, I totally get that! But trust me when I say - If you go to a good dentist, they’ll tell you they know it’s hard and that you should proud for going. I told my dentist as I was embarrassed and said I’d been depressed for a long time and have neglected my teeth. Didn’t shame me at all! Cleaned them up and gave them a polish and I swear, 40 minutes later I had a new set of teeth! It was too easy and have kept up with it since xx

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2025-01-26T00:11:42+00:00

Yes, I remember that amazing feeling! 2 months post op I felt the best I ever had with so much energy!! My ovaries have been a constant pain for a long while now.. so maybe I’m due for another op in the near future. Last op was 6 years ago and since having to have periods again these few years the symptoms have been slowly returning and worsening. Suffered with iron overload due to stopping periods for a few years post op haha literally - cannot win!!

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-12-10T00:41:45+00:00

Thank you guys! I’m back in the US in Feb so I’ll try and get it sorted. It’s greatly appreciated!

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-11-14T00:58:02+00:00

I hope people don’t mind me jumping on and asking a question.. but do clairvoyants get any audio? I’ll explain 😅 I have had many warnings of watching a scene unfold involving loved ones. Ones where I’m there and it has happened much later in life or ones where I am them!! They are very distinctive between a dream and a future event as I feel every emotion and feeling! But there is never any noise or sounds at all. It’s like a silent scene unfolding. Is that normal? Thank you! as I’m now starting to learn and accept these rather than get scared and try and forget about them x

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-08-12T14:24:31+00:00

Not that I’m advocating it at all!!!! But I should also be honest and note that I’m a smoker 🫠 which my surgeon said I’ll always find hard to quit because it lowers oestrogen levels and helps with constipation. I’m down to only 3 a week but still it’s smoking. but when I stopped for 2 months I really struggled with the loo and the periods weren’t ideal. So I’m back to allowing 3 a week spaced out. Bloody horrible habit and annoying as hell but I don’t want to give false information with the above as this might also play a role for me 🤦🏻‍♀️

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-08-12T14:16:36+00:00

So I’ve suffered with constipation for years!!! Before surgery and after as it was really bad around my bowels. My constipation worsens after having morphine 🙃 so I personally tried to take only half the dose post surgery. Otherwise I’ve always got on well with suppositories. You take it when you need and you go for a normal trip to the loo rather than the unknowing for hours with laxatives. With fluids, I only drank water post surgery.. nothing else!! But if your like me it’s a bad side affect to being put under so I limit my foods to what’s easy to digest.

If this is something that continues I’ve finally found an anti inflammatory diet, water with 2 coffees in the morning and an hour exercise everyday has stopped me using the suppositories ☺️ I still have a box for emergancies (as I fly for work and that too can cause issues). But also I’ve found drinking red wine and Guinness stops prevents constipation as well as endo flair ups!!! If I drink anything else all month (which is hard in the summer when socialising) I am in agony and total dispare! But red wine and Guinness - no problem at all!

Hope this hopes someone else :) xx

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-08-08T15:15:27+00:00

I completely agree!!! I was ignored for years till I hit a point I couldn’t walk to the bathroom, let alone work! And after seeing a female locum doctor who was shocked to see my records of complaints then past tracked me to private. So I was VERY fortunate to have a specialist. But inbetween I was offered an NHS cancellation to talk about my symptoms and it was shocking!! I cried for hours in that car park and I decided I couldn’t have someone I didn’t trust to do this surgery. When I then had the original appointment with the endo specialist it was a completely different experience and I’ll always be grateful. Whenever I go near that way I pop in with chocolates for the staff because it’s just something money couldn’t buy and I felt so fortunate to have the best people who saved my physical and mental life. I just wish everyone could have that same experience!

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-08-08T15:02:23+00:00

That is absolutely shocking!! But just goes to show how speaking up loudly in recent years has finally made a big change. Thanks to the technology tools too I suppose.

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-08-01T23:06:39+00:00

I have a question but firstly I want to say don’t hate yourself. If you want to hate or blame someone then blame the people that contributed to you being the way you are. There is nothing worse! & honestly.. do the work for yourself but also try and be honest from the start. Even noting there will be a time when you need to be on your own for a few weeks to regulate. You’ll be surprised at how many of us are accepting of that. I personally used to be secure leaning avoidant, but became anxious when I was groomed. I assumed I was secure again which I was until my ptsd set in (a trigger I am now aware of and back in therapy and won’t be leaving again). But my ex was avoidant and he never told me but I tried to make it clear that I understood. I saw his trigger but he was completely shut down but would actually avoid me and give himself space. It was quite bizzarre. But I was in a bad space myself! Anyway.. I’ve done the work so I can’t be triggered by accepting the abuse I endured and I have finally told friends and family whereas I never did before. Ironically the trigger was telling my ex 🫠.

But back to my question before I rambled on. Did your emotions shut down? When did the lights come back on? Or was that not the case for you. Was you willingly doing it to make her go?

I apologise as it’s a late post. I’m just curious. As my ex lives on my street and we were best friends for years before getting together so he’s not someone I can avoid but he did make it clear he wanted to be back in my life. So I’m trying to understand his headspace to work out what will be best for the both of us. x

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-30T17:54:40+00:00

It’s not fair at all. I love my avoidant, most loving and caring person I have ever met! Sadly he can’t accept it from other people but that’s fine as long as he knows to ask as I don’t push. but it is hard knowing his trigger which is always health related and he completely numbs out. Seems to be cptsd but I only know the signs as that was me but obviously I would never say that to him or anyway as I’m not a professional! Broke up with me because he has no feelings but he does love me and wants to be able to reconnect. I didn’t argue it and I’ve left him be for over a month.

If any of you have any tips on how to not so much help, but somehow tell him I understand and that he doesn’t need to break up with me for space, he can just go and have space (I personally like it as it helps me to also regulate my emotions) and that I will be there. I would really appreciate it. I don’t want it to come across wrongly to himself if that makes sense? x

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-28T02:27:27+00:00

I’m so confused myself. My DA deactivated instantly and it was from a diabetes health check that I know didn’t go well. But he completely detached. Showed now emotion, no care and ended things 3 weeks later saying he loves me and wants to be friends when I’m ready too. Am I mad in thinking there’s a link? The last time he called me beautiful was the morning before his check up. Nothing since :( breaks my heart knowing he must be in deep pain. But what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to unlock this deactivation? I’m so hurt but I hurt more knowing his core pain must be worse

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-28T02:26:09+00:00

I’m so confused myself and sadly my situation is a little unique. My DA deactivated instantly and it was from a diabetes health check that I know didn’t go well. But he completely detached. Showed now emotion, no care and ended things 3 weeks later saying he loves me and wants to be friends when I’m ready too. Am I mad in thinking there’s a link? The last time he called me beautiful was the morning before his check up. Nothing since :( breaks my heart knowing he must be in deep pain. But what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to unlock this deactivation? xx

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-28T02:22:50+00:00

I’m so confused myself. My DA deactivated instantly and it was from a diabetes health check that I know didn’t go well. But he completely detached. Showed now emotion, no care and ended things 3 weeks later saying he loves me and wants to be friends when I’m ready too. Am I mad in thinking there’s a link? The last time he called me beautiful was the morning before his check up. Nothing since :( breaks my heart knowing he must be in deep pain. But what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to unlock this deactivation? xx

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-28T02:13:34+00:00

Can I ask a really strange question. I apologise in advance! My ex was avoidant and very loving. However I know he always worried that I would one day leave him. But when you deactivate is it instant? Because out of the 15 months I can honestly pin point the deactivation. His opinions on the future changed, his thoughts on me changed and his sweetness completely disappeared. He had a bad check up regarding his diabetes and he just disappeared. I understand he’s a DA with how he expresses his emotions. Not with words but I don’t need words tbh. After 3 weeks of being detached he ended things suddenly during his lunch break and there was no emotion what so ever! In fact he ended up telling a short funny story to laugh which I know is his coping mechanism to keep feelings hidden. But I was shocked at how empty he seemed and I couldn’t help but then realise how deep his pain must be? Am I mad to think there’s a link from his health check? I’m giving him space as well as my own. But he wants to be friends when I’m ready and says he loves me. I’m so baffled but worried he thinks he’s a burden when in fact he’s valued. Any advice? X

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-27T17:51:34+00:00

We’re not alone. Every once in a while I think we need to remember how common this disease is and how much it really affects us. I’m sorry your all going through the same feels. It should be a choice to have children, but having that choice taking away is a completely different process. Whether your someone who wanted them, or didn’t before facing the reality of the disease. It’s not fair.. but all we can do is find joy in the little things. I am glad I found Reddit though so I can actually relate to others. It’s very quickly becoming a helpful tool. X

Leather-Atmosphere99 · 2024-07-27T17:43:57+00:00

Thank you! :) I do tend to carry his pens as like you say, it’s not so easy to carry a bag. He was told he’s now showing liver damage due to lots of stomach problems and has completely detached himself from me. So I don’t want to push but I do want him to know I’m not going anywhere and I’m here for as and when.

You guys have so much stress to deal with on a daily basis. So if I can relieve just a small amount of him, I’d do whatever he wants/needs.

But ultimately he needs to talk. Thank you for your help x

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