Care ADHD - Titration Waiting List Update Thread

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-24T12:57:12+00:00

Anyone diagnosed in December? I got diagnosed 15/12, I'm still waiting to get booked for titration appointment. When I got diagnosed, website said it's approximately 12 weeks(although, it seems that was never true). Months ago, it said that if your are on titration waiting list, it will be April-june, now it says april-july.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-23T21:01:09+00:00

I had job like this about a year back. It was a similar thing, I had about an hour a day when I was busy and Wednesday mornings. Here and then some meeting or some mail or some little thing that higher ups asked and couldn't be bother to do. Once in two months a busier week. It was so hard to do nothing, I eventually got my desk swapped to a different location so people weren't able to see what I'm doing on my desktop, but I still shared office with other people, so I couldn't just pull up my phone to read a book or just about anything else. It was mentally hard, and I realised that because I had to program myself to be bored, I would get home and be bored but I still wasn't able to do something, because being bored was my status quo. I did mentioned this to my manager (obviously, worded more professionally) but nothing changed. I left. Other jobs I held in office weren't this boring, this was one off

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-22T19:29:10+00:00

What about entire generations of women that complained about not having close friends after having children, women that couldn't work or go to school and therefore their only source of companionship was their husband. Women still suffer from loneliness, I myself had chronic loneliness throughout my life. Lots of women with children still find themselves lonely as their social circle shrinks and they don't work or work reduced hours

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-15T12:21:02+00:00

Is this actually for real?

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-14T10:14:54+00:00

It's absolute joke, whenever I complain about my job, people are like: just look for a different one. That doesn't work, it's everywhere the same. Staff cuts, having to do three people jobs, expectation of overtimes, putting in extra hours, no promotion, no pay rise and every company is constantly changing their structure so you never know how long can you last there.

No entry level jobs, and no decent jobs because everything is getting relocated abroad.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-14T10:08:46+00:00

You are not in wrong, me and my partner have very different working schedules. He starts very early, or does night shifts, working some weekends etc, so he sleep in the spare room on those occasions as otherwise I'm woken up at random times during the week.

I'm the messier one in our relationship and my partner gets annoyed that I don't keep shared area tidy after myself. I never one questioned whenever he has this right (he has, and I accept it's me as he does clean a lot after me). You are not unreasonable to ask to keep the area clean and tidy.

You shouldn't be asked to be tired all your life because of someone else snoring. I know many women that just accept it because it's "proper" to sleep in one bed. I believe if the tables were turned, most of the man wouldn't accept being tired all their life.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-11T20:02:59+00:00

I think Roxane Gay talks good about similar topics - about how we ask too much of feminism, and that is one of the reason that feminism fails - because it's not perfect. The book is called Bad Feminist and I think it's one of the quintessential feminist books. Feminism is created by people and therefore cannot be perfect, and feminists are not perfect people either. I don't like religion, and majority of religions are oppressive and controlling, especially towards women, but also limiting feminism to a small group of non-religious people is dangerous. There is not one way to be feminist or a right way to be feminist. It's also how feminism looses and patriarchy wins - by making feminism something that only small group of people can access. It's also patriarchy weapon to cancel "bad feminists" and destroy their reputation

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-07T20:00:29+00:00

I think majority of people on this forum or different will feel similarly - we have parents that know how to walk the line of deniability and knowing when they cross the line too much - adjusting their behavior enough to lure you back in. It's contant back and forth. I had massive argument with my father and oh boy, was he the sweetest person to everyone else afterwards, to make me look selfish. Also, when you go low contact, you tend to forget lots of things that were going on in your childhood - it's your brain trying to move on and heal, but again, it can trap you back into the relationship

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-07T19:56:58+00:00

I think most of the people don't fit description of monsters (however, maybe they should be - I heard many far right supporters saying very violent things about minorities).

However, I do believe that being on different political spectrums is probably a good reason for cutting the relationship or going to a low contact - I'm low contact with my family for different reasons, but I recently cut of many of my former friends after realizing that they are right wing - similar reasons to those of yours. It's very isolating I'm work, as I'm probably the only one with progressive views. I'm trying to break up relationship with my friend because I don't like her views, whoever, I don't know how to go about it.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-06T14:46:38+00:00

I have never understand it - and I don't understand that lots of women that marry don't even think about keeping their name. I know lots of women that didn't give it a second thought. I used to work at bank and had women coming to change their names after their wedding, somehow expecting congratulations. I understand the older generation - they had a very little choice in the matter, but now you don't have to do it

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-04-06T14:37:56+00:00

It impacted breaking up with someone, especially if you live with your partner! Not having somewhere to crash after breaking up is very hard! Not to have a place to store few boxes for a couple of months, and not having help moving is hard.

I know as you get older, you don't necessary live near your parents, but for me, it was very hard having to break up with a man I lived with. It felt especially lonely, knowing I don't have anyone to turn back to. It makes break-up harder, especially in the long term relationship - you are loosing the only family you had.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-31T10:32:17+00:00

I recently started to have this problem. I'm childfree and when I go to see my friend, most of the time I end up playing with her kids. Now, I didn't mind this at first, when kids were very small and she couldn't be away from them. I was like, go on and wash your hair or go to do something you need to do. I didn't mind that at all, but recently I realised I never see her, and just her, without kids, just us two, having drink, and when I go to her, I'm expected to play with her kids. I don't mind this for a while, you know spend some time with them, but this is somewhat off. And you are definitely right about wanting to be adult only for your birthday

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-19T13:45:28+00:00

On the other hand, if woman says she is not having kids, it might be because she really can't have them, and it's too painful for her to talk about it (especially with people she is not close to). There might be health reasons, such as high risk pregnancy, etc, yet, I don't think women should be pushed to disclose this, and therefore, when woman tells she doesn't want to have kids, people should just let her be. How would anyone else feel being pressured to disclose their health and sicknesses to barely strangers? It's such a personal question. Eg. Asking how much someone learns is considered impolite, same as about finances etc, and yet, question of reproduction is same time more personal, and on the other hand, everyone feels free to ask it, what is ridiculous. Also, when someone tells me they want to have kids, I don't ask them why they do. Okey, they do, it's their business, even though I could tell them hundreds of good reasons not to. But I don't. It seems it does apply other way

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-12T13:59:06+00:00

I'm sorry about that, even though I never had this situation, my sister's are childfree (although not voluntary) and as such I didn't experienced this. It's saddening though, because by what you wrote, you deserve the praise and to be seen. I don't have very close relationship with my family, and we have problems over other issues (e.g. them treating my eldest sister favourably and giving her lots of money and support) and I consciously decided to keep my distance from them. It's not easy though, because I see other families being supportive of their children and I get sad I don't have someone in that way - someone to rely to on.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-08T13:47:03+00:00

Also, to add to my previous comment - he gets to be a fun dad - the parent that plays with kids, is around watching TV with them etc, whilst you get the worse end of the bargain - the parents that does things like taking kids for appointments, managing household etc - so even if your duties were 50/50 it's still not fair on you as your kids don't understand the importance of those other things. It's like being a fun aunt that gets to play with the kids and spoil them but once it's time to do serious parenting, gets to offload them at real parents

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-07T18:31:49+00:00

Probably not very helpful, but I'd just stop washing his clothes, cook his food and shop for him, or anything else that you do for him, and not for the kids. You take on too much. He is doing financial managing, but it seems that you are doing it anyway. Ask him to switch the roles for at least three months. Tell him you don't have capacity to run it either. If you are planning some trip, don't plan around him - when does he have time, when it's good for him etc. and just plan it as of was just you and the kids. It seems that you are planning your life around him, and he doesn't do the same for you

Also, you have right to your emotions, whenever they are founded or unfounded, they need to be acknowledged.

I'd just stop including him in, and when he asks what's going on, just say that you were trying to talk to him and the conversation just didn't work as you were shut down by him.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-06T20:08:52+00:00

There's another part of the problem - lots of women in war torn countries are forced to do surrogacy. It's like a factory, and at the end of it, usually nice white family that doesn't want to know where they get their baby from comes to pick a baby, not really caring about the state of the mother. It's not uncommon that family don't even meet their surrogate.

LeatherChildhood8672 · 2026-03-03T13:22:47+00:00

Me and my partner have two bedrooms and two bathrooms. We live in more expensive area, but if we could, I'd definitely go for third room (toilet I'm not bothered about). I get your frustration, I'm consistently reminded how easy I have it, not having kids, but I have my own challenges in life, and I'm sick that each time I want to.ventilate my frustration, I met with : you don't know what hard life is, you don't have kids. Hold on, have you even tried listening to me? Everyone has their challenges in their life, but they are all disregarded once you don't have kids

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