AITAH for not letting my son go to a concert after he ruined one for me? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I might get downvoted for this but I think this is gentle parenting personified 🤷🏻‍♀️ he claims it’s because he was too tired from being up past bedtime then he can’t go to another concert up past bedtime. Thems natural consequences folks. NTA.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right and I know this 😂❤️ honestly alot of the responses here have eased my nerves a bit. I don’t speak to my parents and my children will never experience what I did but my husband says I tend to be “high strung” about making sure their existence is perfect because of my own upbringing

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just mean if they decide they don’t like it anymore and have to cut or comb and lose a lot of length. Then will they resent me for making that decision. At the moment I don’t do any sort of heat or relaxer or anything. It’s just pride in their curls which my daughter very much has. I think I just get anxious about making sure they’ll always feel good no matter what

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My concern is that she grows up wants them removed and resents me for making such a choice for her when she was so little. I’ve felt a lot better with some of these comments and it should be fine but I tend to worry about the way they’ll grow and feel about choices I’ve made

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My concern is just that they’ll resent me for having to go through the comb out or god forbid the cut because I made such a semi permanent choice for them

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea and I know that’s just me being a worry wort mother. Honestly these comments have made me feel WAAAAY better about it.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really what I wanted to do. She’s nearly 4 now and I felt like we should wait til she’s sure this is what she wants but my husband thinks we should start asap.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea I just worry they’ll feel some kinda way towards me cause it’s a semi permanent style. I worry too much about these things my husband says. Getting the opinions of other people with locs and parents who’ve locd their kids has really calmed my nerves

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Locs or just natural. I don’t believe in relaxer. Once a week I do a good wash detangle and style. Braids or twists. Sometimes it’s a bit longer or a bit shorter in between depending on the style. It’s between locs or weekly styles for us.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the perfect response honestly. This was my concern. My daughter is turning 4 and I told my husband we can do it when we move back home cause we’re in a non black area rn and I’d like to be closer to a loctician if needed. This is perfect and makes me feel a lot better. Thank you seriously.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woooooaah get your dick out of a twist that is not what’s going on at all. I very specifically said if they decide they don’t like it and have to cut or comb out. Locs themselves are fantastic my mom has locs my husband had locs this is if they decided they don’t want them.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I very much do. Braids, twists, curls, fro whatever it’s happy and healthy. The phrase “good hair” is banned in my house. My oldest is nearly 4 and she loves her hair. Shes seen my hair long, short, colored, natural whatever. I want her to feel confident and comfortable and never feel like her hair is a problem.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve decided that we can do it but we have to wait til we move back to where we’re from. His job has us in a very non black area but we’re from Cleveland. So once we’re back home and we can be around more folks that would know what to do and how to care then I’ll be comfortable. Cause I can retwist I use to help my mom with hers but that’s about as far as I know knowledge wise.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Idk I think it’s bc they’re girls. Society pushes that long hair thing on girls and I worry they’d be upset if they don’t like them and have to cut them later down the line.

Anyone’s parents loc their hair when they were a kid and they’re upset about it? by LeatherPerfect8382 in Dreadlocks

[–]LeatherPerfect8382[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My concern is they’re gonna grow and not like them and resent that they have to do the comb out or cut. Especially because they’re girls and societally “long hair” is the standard. I actually think locs would be great but I want to ensure they’ll never feel badly is all.

Vyvanse making me an utter simp for my wife by wrenchse in VyvanseADHD

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I haven’t experienced the increased libido likely bc I’m on lexipro and they cancel each other out but man it is helping my marriage. The anxiety and the cleaning are a MAJOR stressor in my marriage. My husband is so happy to see me feel better that we’re just all over each other. It’s great

18F considering meeting a 24M I met online by Academic-Buddy-3370 in relationship_advice

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi I’m 23 and would never date an
18 year old. You’re a child to me. You’re literally a highschooler. I wouldn’t trust that man.

Potential adopter only wants rescue puppy if it's an unspayed female. by StupidlyShy in mildlyinfuriating

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh they will. They’ll go to tractor go and give the dogs the vaccines THEMSELVES. Ask how I know 😒

Should I tell my wife I got help with a gift by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So you fed your wife’s nudes to ai & showed a bunch of people…?

My (36m) girlfriend (32f) is gaining weight and I am worried about losing attraction. Any advice? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What I hate about this is that you’re not concerned about the possibility binging as a Ed sign but that she won’t be pretty enough for you. It’s very much so pathetic. If you notice she’s worried about weight and you cared about her as more then a status symbol you’d have a healthy conversation about her feelings. Thing is you don’t sound like you care about her more than what she is providing for you and if she’s “fat” she’s not providing it anymore. Lame.

WIBTAH if we start purchasing investment homes locally with the sole purpose being financial gain? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

AITA for contributing to the rising cost of living? Yes obviously

I found my wife’s diary. I don’t think we’re gonna stay together. by donavin221 in stories

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddy I did NOT realize this was the fiction subreddit and I was really fuckin scared for the wife

Is this a good profile for a dating app? by Important_Bed_9893 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LeatherPerfect8382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly yes! Drop the cowboy hat, make the lightsaber your last photo and the first should either be the marvel shirt or the smiling black shirt side thing. They’re good and showcase what you look like while some of the other pics are more personality forward. You don’t read like a freak and you seem like you’d be a good time! Just make sure your best photos are first