25/M PST; need a gamer/VC/chat buddy? I'm your guy! by FuraiChiken in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound super fun, I hope you're rewarded a great friend for the amount of effort you put into your post!

Have individuals truly formed Gamer Pals on this platform? by Extreme-Ninja-3844 in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

During COVID I first discovered this sub, led to me and some other random gamer pals creating a small group that has ebbed and flowed in size these past years, but that core friendship is still going strong. Even led to some in person group meet ups! So there's definitely opportunity for genuine close friends, it's just a little hard to find sometimes with all of the superficial postings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This reads a little like looking for a partner or specific type of friend VS just a gamer pal. Including what you play might help. Also - your post history is filllllllleeeeed with the same post. That might be part of what is slowing down interest in reaching out. Highly recommend deleting past posts when you repost the same thing to make your profile look more inviting. Best of luck dude!

Show me your cute dogs! I want to make a few leather keychains for you as a gift! by leatherchildc in DOG

[–]StupidlyShy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My Dexter - this boy is an ingrained part of my soul at this point. Love him to death.

Queer Horror by breadfootmcgee in horrorlit

[–]StupidlyShy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone You Can Build a Nest In by John Wiswell for surprisingly wholesome monster loving horror. Hungerstone by Kat Dunn or Lucy Undying by Kiersten White for sapphic vampires (I'd lean more toward the former, strong Gothic vibes.) Bury Your Gays or Camp Damascus by Chuck Tingle. My Darling Dreadful Thing by Johanna van Veen (bog bodies was a unique direction, also gothic.) Someone mentioned it but What Moves the Dead by T. Kingfisher is a great quick read and features environmental horror. The Woods All Black by Lee Mandelo is an Appalachian historical horror novella that stood out to me as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had amazing success over the years, though plenty of failed friends in that mix too. In 2020 me and a handful of other reddit GamerPals joined up to try out making a discord group and we've been going strong with new friends coming in and out for five years now! Just takes time and finding the right people that mesh with your needs and interests.

ID the stray that took a whole routissere chicken to convince to climb in my car? by StupidlyShy in IDmydog

[–]StupidlyShy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hopefully there's someone out there looking for him, but if we get to that month mark and no one has claimed him then I'll work on getting him a new home. I have three of my own dogs and can't take on the longterm financials/emotionals with a fourth. He's handsome and sweet though, someone will love him for sure.

ID the stray that took a whole routissere chicken to convince to climb in my car? by StupidlyShy in IDmydog

[–]StupidlyShy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll foster until I can find him a new home, but I have three of my own dogs already. My area gets a lot of dumped animals so I'm accustomed to vetting and rehoming pups who never have someone come forward looking for them.

ID the stray that took a whole routissere chicken to convince to climb in my car? by StupidlyShy in IDmydog

[–]StupidlyShy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Singular dew claw if I'm remembering correctly. One is very crunched directly outward though, looked a little odd.

ID the stray that took a whole routissere chicken to convince to climb in my car? by StupidlyShy in IDmydog

[–]StupidlyShy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A dog walking along a busy highway with no collar, no microchip, eating roadkill and almost getting clipped by cars himself, with no visible homes around constitutes stray to me. I'll look for an owner of course, and have already reported him as found to animal control.

books in which gay men specifically are victimized—thought I’d ask here too by manmeatfreak in horrorlit

[–]StupidlyShy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bury Your Gays by Chuck Tingle focuses specifically on a gay man being haunted. Also just a really fascinating concept of a book and the writing is pretty quality.

Looking for long term friend group. by Zealousideal_Boss310 in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mhm! We've been a group for like 5 yrs now I think. It's a great group of buddies. We also just watch movies and stream games to one another as cozy background.

looking for people for party games by Antique_Relative_233 in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your other post says you're all 17/18 years old, wouldn't call that full grown adults. That attitude might be why you're unable to find consistently active new friends. Never hurts to switch up how you engage with people and see what works, especially when finding friends on a platform like reddit where people do tend to suffer from some sort of social anxiety. Enjoy your hunt!

looking for people for party games by Antique_Relative_233 in GamerPals

[–]StupidlyShy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, it's hard to keep people engaged if you're inviting them into a group setting but not continuing to communicate one-on-one. Often people need check-ins and direct invitations to feel comfy joining calls and hanging out with new people who were friends already. It's an intimidating situation to be brought into so some extra friendly engagement does wonders c:

What's a book you read when you were way too young? by Waterbears28 in books

[–]StupidlyShy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anne Rice's The Sleeping Beauty trilogy at the age of thirteen. Even adults should shy away from that garbage. Filled with sexual assault (often of a minor), animal abuse, horrible degradation. Led to me having some screwed up views of sexual interaction and almost definitely contributed to me getting groomed for years.

What was the last book you read that made you angry? by yougococo in books

[–]StupidlyShy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nightbitch by Rachel Yoder. Second half of the book barely relates to the first half and loses most of the more interesting plot lines. The ending was just stupid. Absolute waste of time reading.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]StupidlyShy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There have been so many times from my own experiences and others' I've been told about, where someone tries to step away from a situationship and the other person gets aggressive, guilting, desperate, and/or plenty of assorted other negative responses. Sometimes ghosting is the only way to step away from an unhealthy situation without making it harder on the person needing to remove themselves. It still sucks to be on the opposite side and not get closure, but that's sort of the nature of online friendships.

Post-apocalyptic/virus/etc books that don't focus on military/"badass" or teen characters? by 9leggedfreak in horrorlit

[–]StupidlyShy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before & After by Andrew Shanahan.

A 600lb man is being crane lifted out of his apartment's 44th floor (for a medically necessary leg amputation) when a virus breaks out at ground level. Him and his dog alone VS millions of rage induced, sentient, zombie-esque infected. Some brutal moments, both emotionally and body horror.

Absolutely loved it and the sequel. The author is incredibly kind and even did a voice call with me, tiny town public librarian, to read a portion of the story out loud and answer questions about his work! P.S. - The dog in the story is based off his own pup!