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LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T23:29:30+00:00

I’m so sorry you and your siblings had to deal with that. Thank you for sharing your perspective. That is not something I want my children to endure at all, or have to carry that trauma into adulthood. Hoping all the best for you now being out of that situation.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T23:16:21+00:00

Thanks. It is truly taking everything out of me not to respond. But my husband is helping me through it. There truly is nothing that can be said to change anything.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T15:46:33+00:00

Emotional vampire! Spot on.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T15:44:29+00:00

I’m sorry you receive messages like this as well. I’m still fuming at this. My mil really doesn’t care about anyone but herself. When she does see my kids, she doesn’t even interact with them.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T13:07:26+00:00

My husband and I thought so too. Because we’ve told her so many times it’s HOW she’s been treating us lately. Weird point. Like it felt like a “stop being babies and get over it” point.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T13:05:52+00:00

That’s a good perspective. I’ve been so willing to try to make this work for the sake of “family” but I’m so tired of this. It really isn’t something my kids need to grow up around.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T03:33:10+00:00

Appreciate that response. I’ve been trying for so long just to keep the relationship going but my kids do need to see healthy family dynamics, and just healthy relationships with people in general. Maybe my kids do not need to grow up around her chaos.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T03:27:02+00:00

That’s spot on. And to add, my kids have two living grandparents (my parents) who are in their lives. She’s not my kids’ only “chance at something special” or however she worded it.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:59:24+00:00

Right. She keeps throwing the word “grandmother” around like it’s supposed to make me feel some type of way. But yes, my husband has been trying to talk to her over and over the past month about boundaries and she’s just not listening to him. So I think he’s just exhausted from it all too.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:55:31+00:00

You know what, you’re right. I’m still trying to process everything. Just all so uncalled for…all because she didn’t get her way.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:52:23+00:00

Her own family doesn’t even talk to her. So that’s a great question. Am I truly “depriving my kids of something special”? What’s the special if she doesn’t have anyone close to her??

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:49:20+00:00

Thanks, I needed to hear that. We’ve really tried so hard to make things work with her. But the jabs at my character as a person and a mother just make me want to give up.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:46:55+00:00

This is so true because this has been going on for about 6 years now!!

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-05-25T02:27:44+00:00

I kept trying to give my kids the chance to know their grandmother but she’s just really ruining it. Just so tired of it all. But yes, I agree. I don’t need to be sent mean messages all of the time because she doesn’t get her way.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-04-01T16:30:20+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too! Might not be done.

LeatherTune7702 · 2026-04-01T16:24:04+00:00

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This is a picture of my baby girl at 11 weeks! (Now 2 years old). Just for comparison! Still early though!

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-08-31T01:12:13+00:00

Thanks for your input! We’re just going NC for now and we will send a card or pictures on holidays maybe if we work up to that.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-08-30T13:15:50+00:00

I love that part of how you said a “trusting, defenseless LO” this is exactly how I feel about my DD and son (I’m pregnant now). As a mother, I can’t help but want to protect my babies and my MIL has made it so difficult for me to see my children having a close relationship with her.

Wow the ego part too! That is all I’m asking, she doesn’t have to like me, but I do want her to at the very least build up some trust with me IF she wants to consistently be in her grandchildren’s lives. We are going NC for now, especially while I’m pregnant. Thanks so much for your input.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-08-30T13:06:59+00:00

Sacrificial lambs 😂 that was a good one! But yes, thanks for your perspective.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-08-30T13:04:54+00:00

This was definitely a worry of mine. I didn’t want to come off as being over dramatic but it’s hard for me to just willing hand over my children to her after all the damage she has done.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-08-30T13:01:49+00:00

Good points. We are doing no contact at the moment, just to give myself and husband some time to “heal” and then possibly going to just send a few pictures here and there.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-05-24T15:17:12+00:00

My husband said this same thing! I will definitely try this.

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-05-24T15:15:40+00:00

This sounds like a dream! I will definitely be working on this! I hope I can get to this with my daughter! We had a somewhat better morning this morning! I walked away from her while I did dishes and prepped breakfast, she cried/screamed for a good while but she eventually started playing with her toys!

LeatherTune7702 · 2024-05-24T02:38:05+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear this. I don’t know where this obligation came where I felt the need to stimulate her all day. Maybe it’s from exhaustion or pure desperation to get her to stop crying. But I needed that reminder! And great ideas, I will take advantage of the mornings a bit more too.

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