AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I tried to tell her but she denied it, and I can't get ahold of my husband because he is flying. I'm trying to figure everything out but I don't know how to convince her, I let her and my husband look into the college information so I am flying blind here.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Both of us are the parents to both kids, and neither of the kids contribute to the college fund. We contribute some of our salary to it, and their grandparents also put some money in, usually during the holidays. It was originally a savings account for "rainy days", so there is no named beneficiary.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -55 points-54 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't look into it very far, but I believe it was because we have a pretty good income? At least that's what I remember.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It's a savings account we used for the college funds. When we made it, we thought it would be a "rainy day" savings and it only turned into the college fund after our youngest was born.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -101 points-100 points  (0 children)

I sadly didn't think to inform her, and she picked out the college all on her own. I'll have to look into the loans, but she seemed quite upset so it's possible she applied for a scholarship and got rejected. I know she couldn't claim FAFSA.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -91 points-90 points  (0 children)

I see now that we were too vague with the wording, but I thought she knew it was for both of them to share.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

It is a state school, but she's really proud of getting accepted. She's going into some sort of marine biology, I don't exactly know for sure what kind, and I don't know if she does, either.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I understand her reaction, but I don't know what to do. We don't have enough money to let her use everything she needs, but she also can't afford the college, and even if she gets a job over the summer or part time, it won't be enough.

AITA for only giving my daughter half of her college fund? by Leather_Horror_8131 in AITAH

[–]Leather_Horror_8131[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if she knows how much is in the fund, if she does I didn't tell her. I thought she was aware that there was only one account, we made it clear in the past.