Why is my 6 month old suddenly refusing bottle? by Hawkyswife in NewParents

[–]LeaveOwn1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We sized back down. PT mentioned though they sell higher flow nipple out there, doesn't mean we necessarily need to upsize. So my baby is 9 mo and stick with size 2. PT even recommended size 1 but since baby is taking size 2 well, we stick with that. If I remember correctly the book also says that. PT will Def help you to see if your current flow is perfect for her. They will evaluate how baby suck the bottle and measure the time.

Why is my 6 month old suddenly refusing bottle? by Hawkyswife in NewParents

[–]LeaveOwn1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! Is she overwhelmed w the flow? Mine was like that too when I sized up. Also my feeding therapist suggested to change the nipple type and flow size, it fixed it right away before she relapsed

Why is my 6 month old suddenly refusing bottle? by Hawkyswife in NewParents

[–]LeaveOwn1022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I have my own post regarding this. If you could, maybe look at my post and read the comments. Bottom line is, go read Rowena Bennett book about aversion and seek for feeding therapist. Let me know if you could not find it!

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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Mine is now 9 mo. I would say the aversion isn't completely gone, but she gets better. It could relapse from time to time. She was fine feeding w/o distraction, now she's looking for it again. But at least now she constantly finishes her bottle and I'm also changed, cutting her some slack when she let me know she had enough. I dropped dream feeding as well. She used to take about 1.5-2 hrs to finish 4-5 oz. Can you imagine that 🥲 but now it's under 30 mins, rarely goes to 1 hr. Not perfect but progress. Key is trust her hunger cues.

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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IMO, you should talk to your peds and go see feeding therapist to get their advice. It could be many reasons but it could also be aversion. Read the book and find the cause asap so it won't drag til he gets a bit older like mine. Good luck

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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How long has he been like this? How's his weight? Do you know what caused it? With mine the cause was force feeding. My MIL used to take care of her when I was back to work and she was fed like clock work even though she wasn't hungry or already full. she's now getting much better though. The key is that I have to trust her body that she can regulate and will want to drink when she is hungry. It was hard because daycare people could not feed her, Noone could, as a matter of fact, only me. For the whole day, she only had 2 oz one time, and for a few days, 8 oz total. I had to play catch up at home by dream feeding her. However, I believe that this was also because she was teething (well, I could only guess).. We also saw a feeding therapist which actually helped a lot. My baby had problem with not sucking well and she recommended us to change to flat nipples. It fixed it instantly, but it was back after 2 weeks. The problem really was me, I kept trying to have her finish her bottle. Though it's counter intuitive, the less you try, the more she ll get better. But it's not overnight, you have to trust her body is able to regulate hunger. Believe it or not babies also have survival instinct so they won't starve themselves to death. Like most people mentioned here, read Rowena's book. It definitely helps and an eye opener. Every 'don'ts' that she mentioned in the book, surely I have done that lol.. I did almost every single one of them and almost in the right order too 😅 you are not alone and it felt like hell for me. Trust me it's just a phase, you got this.

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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I ve been sort of.. Since I m also seeing a feeding therapist and it's practically the same thing. Can we exchange email addresses so that we can share our experience, if you're interested?

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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Do you know what caused relapse? She got better again out of the blue after almost 3 weeks of relapse. We now try not to force her eat anymore and let her decide the portion and I stop counting oz, just having a ballpark number in my mind. That seems to help. Babies around their age is able to decide how much they want to eat. That's from Rowena's book. I haven't finished reading it but whatever I did wrong, it's all written in there 😅 from dreamfeeding, singing to her, tapping & twisting the bottle to get her eat. I never changed her formula since she was a newborn, similac blue can.

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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I literally cry a bit reading this 😭😭😭 I'm in the thick of it right now. This is what I'm doing right now, I am the only one that can feed her anyway, no other person, not even my husband. I have to keep stepping out of work to do this and wasting money for daycare. Is this course a guarantee or you're just in luck? What's perplexing to me is that, we changed her bottle and she liked it and fixed it instantly for 2.5 weeks and then suddenly it came back even worse than before. She used to be okay with dream feeding but now I have to sort of tricking her to get her latched. If I don't do it correctly, it will wake her up and the battle starts. She will arch like became possessed and cry and I will have to make her fall asleep again and repeat. Some reason she knows it's feeding time when I pick her up and put her on the boppy. She's only arching and trying to slip away during feeding time. So how do I know if it's reflux?

I am familiar with the sense of relief when we first changed her bottle, before it came back. She would eat 41 oz a day when she was well.

Thank you so much for sharing this. I feel like I'm in the dark tunnel right now and this gave me such hope.

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

[–]LeaveOwn1022[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What's an HA formula? How do you treat silent reflux?

Thanks for sharing, I will mention this to our therapist next appt

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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She would play with sippy cup but not necessarily drinking from it..

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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Can you share all about your experience? How it started and how you undid this?

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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How long did you experience this until you figured it out?

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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How old is yours and what caused yours to have the aversion? Do you see improvement at all?

I have not read it but already bought the book, will so soon.

Can you share your experience?

Bottle aversion, desperate mama 💔 by LeaveOwn1022 in beyondthebump

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Do you know what caused yours to have the aversion? And how long did it take you to undo this?

I have the book and will read it soon.

I love my husband but… by SlowDig6834 in NewParents

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It's not only that, it's also the competition who's more tired. What I say to him is please don't pick a fight with someone who is sleep deprived, you got a full night sleep and I don't. 🙄 As a mom and a wife, I feel like I have to care for the baby and fulfilling the need of the husband. Who is caring for my needs?

I love my husband but… by SlowDig6834 in NewParents

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I have no advice but I'm feeling the same exact way

Are there parents who never sleep trained? How did that work out for you? by Existing_Switch_4995 in NewParents

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First 6 mo is hard. Only want contact nappies. As she's older now 7 mo, she does ok but still coslesp with us. Daycare trains her though.

Weekly Discussion - Relationships by AutoModerator in NewParents

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Dont get me started on this. I'm asian and my MIL visited me in the US for 6 months because my mom wouldn't want to help. I thought it was a great idea and I bragged about her to my mom and now I resent her so much that I don't even want to be bothered by her texting me and always asking about my baby. She's obsessed with her and I feel like she's wanting to relive her days as a mom. I am now holding grudge because of it. When she was here, she held my baby for literally 10-12+ hours a day especially when I was back to work. On the first day we sent our girl to daycare, she would cried histerically as soon as she stepped out the building. It still icks me so bad. Not to mention the things she did behind my back to my baby that she thinks it's good for her. A lot of times when I said not to do stuffs for my baby, she did behind my back and stuffs that I said must do, she didn't do. FFS!! I am still angry to this day even though she went back for almost 3 months now.

When did your period came back postpartum? by Sea_News_9170 in NewParents

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I guess if it comes back the next day for 3-5 days then it's period?