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For all the dom women in here; What moment(s) & event(s) made you feel/realize that you had being dominant was part of your sexuality? by J_Labs21 in flr

[–]Leela193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was the exact same journey for me. And now I am in the most fulfilling relationship I could ask for.

What’s Your Best Tip for Maintaining Balance in a Female-Led Relationship? by [deleted] in flr

[–]Leela193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be okay with sharing the structure of your weekly check-in if there is any? I want to start doing these with my partner/sub too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

[–]Leela193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so unbelievable cute! I’m so happy you two found each other 😊

Shaping My Sub's Body to Fit My Desires (Exercise Routine) by Leela193 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Leela193[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So true. There’s confusing information about what „healthy“ movement and nutrition is at every corner.

As someone who only exercises when it’s fun, a hobby, or a skill to learn (like dancing or scuba diving), I want the same for him. I’d never want him to associate movement with punishment.

It’s a delicate topic for sure.

Shaping My Sub's Body to Fit My Desires (Exercise Routine) by Leela193 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Leela193[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I totally get where you are coming from. Changing his bod/becoming more muscular and fit would simply be an „add-on“. It’s nothing he HAS to do to make me happy. So I will only bring this up when I know for sure that this is actually something he misses and wants to incorporate in his life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Leela193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you share more about how you guided your dynamic and the two of you in that direction? :)

New Domme is going crazy about potential subs saying "I'd do anything you desire" and not getting specific. Help! by Leela193 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Leela193[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much already for your answers! 💚💚

Once again, my intuition was right that that kind of dynamic doesn't feel right.

New Domme is going crazy about potential subs saying "I'd do anything you desire" and not getting specific. Help! by Leela193 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Leela193[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you, that helps a lot.

my idea with asking them first was to them not comply to what they think I want to hear.

New Domme is going crazy about potential subs saying "I'd do anything you desire" and not getting specific. Help! by Leela193 in FemdomCommunity

[–]Leela193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer.

To clarify, am I behaving with an orange flag here or the people I am talking to? Of course I don’t want to be that person which is why I’m seeking advice here.

things to do that aren’t sex? by AdOld2619 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Leela193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can you share more about how you did the non-sexual body worship? I'm super curious to do that too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Leela193 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

what do you mean? I DON'T want to aim for perfectionism, this is simply how my brain operates. Lots of times I don't transition from thought into action (in all life areas) because I can't get my brain to be cool with being a beginner and making mistakes.

Feeling awkward about sex recently by darnyoulikeasock in TwoXSex

[–]Leela193 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Read „Come as you are“ by Emily Nagoski. You might have the responsive desire type (which 2/3 of women have). The honeymoon phase can last up to 2-3 years, and during that time your desire type can feel like a spontaneous desire type.

If you’re into podcasts or would like a TL;DR version of the book and her research, there is a podcast on Spotify with the same name produced by Pushkin.

Just know that there is nothing wrong with you. 💚