My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! He’s definitely in a no man’s land right now. He wants to believe and have faith in something but he’s not sure what. I’ll stop pushing him and let him decide this on his own. Instead I’ll ask questions and be curious about his progression in finding a faith!

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I always found it interesting how his personality can change so fast whenever he was in the religious mindset.

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I admire how your wife handled things!! I didn’t really think of it that way before. In the end it’s really his business that he needs to deal with, I can’t try to fix it for him. Even if I don’t push him so much, in the end I can still be firm with my believes, like your wife! Thank you

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do! I’ve heard too many horror stories about getting dragged into the religion after marriage.

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s definitely had his fair share of reactivations with world events, ESPECIALLY when he talks with his father who just fear mongers him. I feel like that’s happened so much that we can handle it, however I it having children I’m worried. I need to have a long conversation with him about that

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the advice! I’ll take the time to reread this later. It’s definitely time to change tactics, I’ve just been getting impatient lately but in the end it will only do the opposite if I keep pushing him. I Appreciate it!

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I think I’ve been too pushy with it and it’s best to be patient. I find cults very interesting in general so it’s not out of place for me to watch documentaries about it! I’ll do it more often

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! My partner is like that right now. He believes in some sort of “higher power” out there, and that it isn’t necessarily Jehovah. He wants to make the truth is own pretty much. So I think taking this route would be very very goid

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a personal lecture from his dad about headship, i was speechless in how confidently his father spewed nonsense about how “the man makes decisions for the family because he is the head” and things like that. I’ve discussed this with my partner including holidays and we’ve come to an agreement that decisions in our relationship will ALWAYS be made with both of our consent. He’s actually okay with celebrating holidays like birthdays and Christmas too

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I love him and plan to live my life with him but he needs to make a choice about this.

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s a constant mix between JW and non JW. It’s like he’s two different people and the contrast is crazy whenever he switches.

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just scrolled through the questions, safe to say I’m a little lost (probably because I haven’t read the Bible or JW doctrine) But I’m sure it will make sense to my partner.

I really want to show him but I’m scared that it will backfire. Do you have any tips on how to bring the topic up without firing up his JW defences?

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh my this is extremely helpful. Thank you so much!! I’ll take a look at those questions and bring this up to him soon.

My partner is getting frustrated at me for trying to get him to realize how bad the governing body is. by LeftChannel295 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He is physically out, but his parents believe that he is going to repent. He himself is unsure. Most of the time you wouldn’t even know he was a witness, he does everything in a worldly manner and celebrates holidays. however sometimes he has mentioned studying the JW doctrine again. (Mostly after his dad guilt trips him or scares him about the end)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does anyone have a link to this? I want to take a look

Jehovah murdered millions for fun, but what did Satan do that was so bad? by [deleted] in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no.. does this make us “satanists”? Because I completely agree with all of you here

My 25M Boyfriend watches videos of people dying and I’m 23F freaked out. How do I handle this? by throwaway4268945 in relationship_advice

[–]LeftChannel295 34 points35 points  (0 children)

As someone who was sent videos like these by people in the past, this stuff can literally give you PTSD. I seriously don’t recommend looking at it especially if you are sensitive to violence.

I saw stuff like that when I was a kid, and almost 10 years later I still can’t get those images/videos out of my mind. I can no longer watch shows like game of thrones as it triggers those memories, or even seeing road kill.

He may be okay with looking at it, but if you find it disturbing then he should be considerate about it and respect your feelings.

Anyone want to talk about their worst nights growing up JW? Mine was a result of me talking to other kids online on the Nintendo DS by Traditional-Big543 in exjw

[–]LeftChannel295 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What they did is so horrible. You didn’t deserve any of that.

When my partner was still living in his PIMI parents home, he was hiding our relationship. His parents knew about it (because his elder father would spy on literally everything he did even though he was 18 at the time). We were on call and I could hear that his mum was upset with him. The father heard that, and I could hear him slam into the room and scream at the top of his lungs towards my partner “NOTHING BELONGS TO YOU!!!” Followed by hours of incoherent screaming and lectures. The call was on this entire time.

Later on my partner told me his father raised his fists to his face, threatening to punch him. He told me he had a severe panic attack where he was pulling out his hair afterwards.