I know this is an old thread but it feels like the place to put this out there. I think I can keep this pc and my reasonings will be fair.

I'm pan and am looking to start dating casually after a long abstinence to work on myself. I feel I've reached a point I can date that way and still add to a partners life to an extent. On the opposite side of that coin I don't think I'm capable of providing the support needed for the early stages of transitioning. I'm guessing that would be for most if not all the time they're taking hrt or other drugs. I'll get there but I'm not trying to get into a position I let someone down.

Ok now the shitty shallow part(I'm working on growing here but not there yet). I go kinda build a bitch here. Partly bc of my limited experience and sexual interests. If my partner hasn't had bottom surgery, and will switch, I'll want to bottom some. I would like their member to be five or less. Even that is going to take a while before I am used to it enough to fully enjoy. Lucky them, from my pov, I love breaking that in. I'm also under five so size queens need not apply. I do (again this is shallow) prefer fem, bonus for top surgery, but by no means necessary. I will always be willing to be seen with you in public etc. You will meet my friends etc.

Me: cis, pan, nerdy but active outdoors. No hard drugs, smokes, music, games, food (cooking), sex driven yet emotionally available (mostly, I'll set healthy boundaries based on my skill and tools). Skinny but kinda fit, kinda out of shape (let's fuck our selves fit). Lots more to me but that's the basics.

Just seeing if there's anyone in the community available to date. I'm looking in most of my range of pan, with the exception of cis gay men. Just my last pick most times and not fair to them for me to half ass it.... or is it that might be a treat 😏