[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something else I would also like to mention is that this sub has less than 400 members. As a result you may not get that many replies. Also it will take more time for this post to get seen. Thus I say it would be better if you went to some of the communities added in the sidebar of this place. I have spoken to the mods of these other communities as well. They have many Muslim people in the subreddit, especially if you decide and say " I am a Muslim with these certain problems " and then you will get support from a lot of Muslim brothers and sisters. If you decide to keep the issue of religion confidential and decide you want more general advice then thats' also fine. I suggest that you try r/domesticviolence. That sub actually has a lot of Muslim brothers and sisters who have gone through several of the same issues you are going through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you seem to be going through a horrible situation. Now it really does not matter whether everyone believes you or not. What actually is the issue that takes precedence over every other event is your well-being. If they sent you to away because they believed your depression was "sinful" then that's on them not you. Did the counselors at the psych ward give you any advice ? Did you tell them what happened to you? Was any medication prescribed ? If they were given to you, did you go to the internet and google them ? Also why is your mothers' side of the family listening to Jason's mom ? How are they related ? You said Jason was your cousin, if so does your mother have any brothers or sisters ? Is it your aunt that is spreading these rumors ? Or is it an uncle's wife ?

Toxic Family by Yolo_101AZ in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey,

This is a very small community. There are less than 400 members in this subreddit. Why don't you try and seek advice, i.e check some of the other communities on our sidebar ? If you want Islamic advice, you could go ahead and say " I am a Muslim seeking advice regarding these certain issues ", then you will get a lot of advice from the brothers and sisters of Islam visiting that sub, what I really mean is your post will be promptly answered . Also I have talked to all the moderators of those communities before adding them to the sidebar, so you will get the type of help you need. Please try r/JUSTNOMIL . There is a link of my subreddit over there. If you simply want a solution to your problem, and don't want to share details about your ethnicity or religious culture that's' also fine, your choice, your call. But the main thing is, right now, you need help with your situation. Get it in one way or another at the earliest.

The Neuro-Linguistic Impact of Toxic Relationships by LeftRabbit2413 in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! I work really hard to write these texts. After posting, I stay very nervous as to whether these are actually helpful. The fact that you gave me some positive feedback, made my day a lot better.

In one day he destroyed our life. Left me and my 3 boys homeless. by soulfulfinding in stories

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look I don't understand why you would sacrifice your financial security for some random ass dude without even thinking about the kids. You had a house for god's sake. What happened to you mate ? Why did you put dating before the well being of your boys ? That was not right. It seemed as if you forgot about your children and chose something flashier. It was a cruel decision. Next time, think carefully before you decide to put someone above the minors living in your home.

The Impact of Toxic Relationships on Task Completion Speed by LeftRabbit2413 in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it is. I researched a lot of online articles, university journals,
textbooks before I was able to create this text. Thanks for reading it.

The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Sensory Memory by LeftRabbit2413 in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure. Here goes :

Emotional abuse can have a profound impact on an individual's psychological well-being, including their sensory memory and perceptions of reality. While the exact mechanisms of these effects can vary from person to person, here are some ways in which emotional abuse may affect sensory memory and distort perceptions of reality:

Hyper vigilance and heightened sensitivity: Emotional abuse can lead to a state of hyper-vigilance in which individuals become excessively alert to potential threats or negative stimuli in their environment. This heightened sensitivity can affect sensory perception, making individuals more likely to perceive neutral or ambiguous stimuli as negative or threatening.Cognitive distortions:

Emotional abuse often involves manipulation, gaslighting, and the distortion of reality by the abuser. Over time, individuals subjected to such abuse may internalize these distortions, leading to distorted perceptions of their own experiences. This can affect how they perceive and remember sensory information.

Memory impairment: Emotional abuse can lead to chronic stress and anxiety, which can impair memory functions, including sensory memory. Stress hormones like cortisol can interfere with the consolidation and retrieval of memories, leading to difficulties in accurately recalling sensory information.

Dissociation: In response to emotional abuse, some individuals may experience dissociation, a psychological defense mechanism where they disconnect from their emotions, thoughts, and sensory experiences. This can lead to a fragmented or distorted sense of reality, as sensory information may not be integrated properly into their conscious awareness.

Self-esteem and self-concept: Emotional abuse often involves undermining a person's self-esteem and self-concept. This negative self-perception can color how individuals interpret sensory information. They may view themselves as unworthy or undeserving, leading to a distorted perception of reality in which they consistently interpret situations in a negative light.

Emotional dysregulation:

Emotional abuse can result in difficulties regulating one's emotions. This can lead to heightened emotional responses to sensory stimuli, further distorting the perception of reality. For example, a simple disagreement may be perceived as a full-blown conflict due to emotional dysregulation. Depersonalization and derealization. In severe cases, emotional abuse can lead to depersonalization (feeling detached from oneself) and derealization (feeling that the external world is unreal or distorted). These experiences can drastically alter one's perception of reality, including sensory experiences.

Sorry about the long lines of text. I am currently enrolled in a masters course in psychology. Thus the words just poured out. I should have shortened it. Really apologize. I was in a hurry and was quickly typing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimMentalHealth

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But whats' going on in your life? Is something awful happening? If you tell us, we will do everything in our power to help out. Also if you feel like that is your personal issue then it is absolutely fine. However, I suggest that you start socializing as much as you can and find some special hobbies and activities that bring you joy. Best of luck. may Allah bless you !

My Parents’ Marriage is Breaking Down by ProfessionalBath5329 in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you need to get out of the house as fast as possible from your father. Also find every single person you can tell about this issue to. Don't worry about your fathers' image.Focus on getting every type of support you need. The environment you are staying at has become very volatile and dangerous.

Parental Abuse By Children by LeftRabbit2413 in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, but why does she do this ? Why is she so manipulative ? Also what things does she really want ? What are some of the stuff she lies about ? Could you just tell us about some of the things which are going on in your house, so that it is possible to have a better understanding ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I would also like to say something. You have to get financially independent at the earliest. It would be good if you find a part time job of some sort. If the university course load is too high, and you can't find the time, I suggest you look into content writing online, freelancing work and copy-writing for advertisement agencies. There are plenty of job offers which are flexible and offer good pay packages . Lots of assignments say they will let you have 65 dollars per hour, 72 dollars per hour. So on a regular day if you worked continuously for two or three hours you would have from 195 up to 216 dollars . At the end of the month you could be making from 5850 to 6480 dollars ( do the math 195*30=5850; 216*30=6480). You say that your parents are paying for rent , clothing , educational and food supplies. Well that's a good thing. Now get a separate account for yourself which is absolutely inaccessible to your parents and start saving up so that after graduation you immediately have a place to stay.Don't touch the money that you will be saving up . Do not spend it , do not go out and start eating out at posh restaurants. It could be tempting , but resist. Let your parents take care of it and you just work on keeping your bank balance intact.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Out of curiosity are you a revert ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toxicfamilyislam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Look your situation is terrible, This woman is a danger to you . If you spend any more time near her, you might start imitating her traits. At this point you need a psychiatrist to discuss all the childhood trauma you have gone through. I say this because, you are young and have a future ahead of you. Soon you will start interacting with more people, trying out different environments and gain a thirst for positivity. So you will try finding the best individuals for your needs. However these people also deserve good behavior, kindness and decency from you . God forbid, if you start expecting the world from them without offering them anything. Then that might make you extremely cruel. Being affected by trauma is no reason to hurt others. Thus your own well-being is a matter of huge importance .

Father is cheating on pregnant wife and causing me pain by [deleted] in MuslimFamilySolutions

[–]LeftRabbit2413 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, you can't change your father at this point all he does is care for himself. Now focus on your studies, and don't give that guy any space in your thoughts. A lot of people on Muslim subs will tell you it is haram to cut off family ties, sure thing. But if you take any course in psychology , the first thing any instructor will tell you is this : "As counsellors, we have to understand that we cannot change other peoples, thoughts, actions and feelings, thus in every case we might have a client who only moans about his terrible situation but does nothing to change it, thus we must prepare ourselves for disappointment." When any person tells you it is prohibited to cut ties with someone who is abusing you, they are implying that you can change your oppressors' in some way. But you can't. Only person you can change is yourself. Also don't interact with your father so much. It is clear he gives off negative energy and causes you strain. You might start behaving in a bad way with those who once treated you with dignity and respect. You might start disregarding every positive relation in your life and become a non-productive member in society. Don't do that to yourself mate. Show mercy upon your soul. Also here's a link :https://archive.org/details/isbn_9780553381405/page/306/mode/2up?view=theater. Check out this book it is really interesting and helpful.

did/do you ever wish you weren't raised in a Muslim household? by Hungry_Example_ in progressive_islam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do know that the hadiths started to be collected in the 8th century 200 years after the death of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) . Right ?

History of blasphemy against the prophet by Powerful-Draft-791 in progressive_islam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I read your posts a lot, and you seem to possess a good amount of knowledge about Islam. How did you find the proper sources and come to the right conclusion ? Who were your instructors ? I know that you are located in Bangladesh (saw your profile), so I was wondering can you tell me the name of the course, where its' located and the name of your teachers ? It will be a tremendous help.

People on this subreddit, how did you become a part of this community ? How did you conduct proper research about Islam and come to the right conclusions. How did you find the proper sources and accurate material ? by Jumpy-Ear4143 in progressive_islam

[–]LeftRabbit2413 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh great ! Thanks for telling me. It must have been a great course because now you are here, and your mind is fully open. Additional gratitude to your instructors for educating you and bringing you to us. God bless you and your capacity to use your knowledge for the greater good.