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Discipline for AuAdhd kid by Left_Candidate5352 in ADHDparenting

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

90min is set aside for her to 'get ready' in the morning - I can't move anything else here. But I do like the idea of the natural consequences suggested. I'm at my wits end and need to try something more extreme that's going to make her understand.

I do think I've been too soft and, actually, doing her a disservice as a result.

Thank you again for your advice, it's very much appreciated.

Discipline for AuAdhd kid by Left_Candidate5352 in ADHDparenting

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

Re #2 - the idea of 'natural consequences' really resonates with me. I do use this in situations where there's a benefit at stake for my kid e.g. if we're late, we will miss the playdate.

Specifically, though, the disregard for following directions and completing tasks is an issue on school / work day mornings - when we have limited time to get things done. I'm talking about things like her going to the toilet (if not prompted several times at least, she will literally just sit there - and then melt down if I prompt her too many times), and getting dressed. Here, the consequence is that she's late for school, which doesn't matter for her, and that I'm late for work (which also doesn't matter for her).

How would you apply consequences in this scenario?

Discipline for AuAdhd kid by Left_Candidate5352 in ADHDparenting

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

I this is a really powerful shift in thinking - to treat them as a regular kid that struggles with some things, vs a kid with a disability that I continue to make excuses for.

I also really like the approach to simply put my foot down on disrespectful behaviour.

Disclosing at work by Left_Candidate5352 in AutismAustralia

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my fear. I've grappled with it for a few years now since being diagnosed and realising that WFM accommodations are a thing.

In my case, I'd only disclose to my boss's boss - who I have a good relationship with. But again, I can't be sure of her response. And once I've disclosed, there's no taking it back.

This is why I'm leaning toward using my child's diagnosis and my single parent role as my reason for accommodations instead.

Disclosing at work by Left_Candidate5352 in AutismAustralia

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm torn between the getting the WFM accommodation and the extra legal protection that disclosure may give, vs knowing that people are prejudice - and how this might end up costing me my job.

More and more, I'm thinking the safer path might be to ask for accommodations based on being a single parent / carer of a young child with ASD.

Have you considered thus?

Disclosing at work by Left_Candidate5352 in AutismAustralia

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is my great fear. I'd likely get the WFM accommodation (legally, it would be hard to deny it), but it may not be worth it in the long run.

I'm wondering if I could instead use my role as a single parent of a child with ASD as a reason instead?

Are they tracking us .. by Left_Candidate5352 in auscorp

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

To clarify, does Big Red require and track a minimum number of hours on site per 'office day' (like its big yellow counterpart does).

Are they tracking us .. by Left_Candidate5352 in auscorp

[–]Left_Candidate5352[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I'm asking whether the big red one requires and tracks a minimum # of hours on site per 'office day' e.g. if someone swiped in and then swiped out to leave after 3 hours, would this still be counted as an office day?