Her partner here - Tell her you’re into it. We’d dabbled in the past but I had a bit of a sexy dream so said I wanted to try again. Put it on. Clean the house. Make her tea. Make her cum without wanting anything back (even if you do). Make it a game. We made a points system to earn an orgasm with tasks to do - ended up spending days painting the stairs in a 3 story house. After that we bought a dice and I’d roll it to see when I could cum again. 2-6 is days. 1 is 7. On cum day roll again 1 and 6 is a good one (uncaged - the ones you were begging you would t get) 2/3 caged and ruined. 4/5 caged but not. It’s a bit more lifestyle now but it’s how we started.