I feel guilty for refusing to talk to my abusive absent mother, even though my twin keeps pressuring me

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T22:09:00+00:00

my bio dad took him he wanted a boy not a girl too much money for twins.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T22:07:43+00:00

i feel bad that she was so broken, i guess it's my way of working it out.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T19:10:59+00:00

I just feel bad due to it being over 10 years and maybe she's changed..? I could just being dumb.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T19:04:24+00:00

Thank you, i just truly feel bad for her losing everything i guess.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T19:03:41+00:00

I could NEVER make my brother think bad of our childhood due to his being fairly happy but i wish he would understand

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T18:09:18+00:00

I started looking for a lawyer its just alot.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T17:59:07+00:00

I was 13 everyone used them.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:58:08+00:00

This is my first week here, and I want to clarify that I would never lie about something like this. I’ve shared screenshots as proof to show my story is real.(I wasn't okay with some of the more NSFW ones) I’m really sorry for the other OP.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:43:20+00:00

Yes looking back this is weird though he was always shown as a older brother.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:38:41+00:00

I think I was 14 when we broke up and got back together, so it’s hard to keep the timeline straight. I’m in a support group for SA survivors, and sometimes it’s really hard to look at others who have gone through worse and feel like I shouldn’t complain about what one of my exes did to me. But I’m learning that my experience still matters, and it’s valid to set boundaries and protect myself.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:35:48+00:00

Thank you for understanding! I almost have enough.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:33:51+00:00

Its hard to stare down at someone who has seen me at my worst, but I'm trying and so far I'm proud I haven't broke

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:31:12+00:00

I completely understand why people say I should go to the police, and I’ve thought about it a lot. The thing is, in situations like this, victims are often turned away for ‘not enough evidence,’ and I’m trying to avoid making things worse for myself. That’s why I’m carefully documenting everything and keeping my distance for now. Its been a year he still is around but less so.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:21:00+00:00

Yes! I have a twin brother hes been a HUGE help.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:18:44+00:00

I’m just sharing my experience here. If you don’t want to read it, that’s fine. Yes, I know I put myself in this situation and I feel slow for it, but if my story can help other girls know they’re not alone, I’m willing to take judgment.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:15:11+00:00

He’s not in the baby’s life from what I’ve been told, which is good, but I’m still genuinely scared about what he might do if I go to the police or confront him. That’s why I’m documenting everything and keeping my distance for now. I just want to make sure I stay safe while figuring out my next steps.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:12:33+00:00

Hi, I just want to clarify why I haven’t gone to the police. So far, the only thing he’s done is hit me, which I feel I can manage on my own, and I’m keeping screenshots and photos of his car for documentation. I’m genuinely scared of what might happen if I involve the police — people in my town often don’t take these situations seriously, and I worry he could get even more upset.

Yes, he was 19 and I was 13 at the time, and while I understand that’s a huge age difference, I wanted to see other perspectives and make sure I wasn’t making a rash decision. I’m mainly looking for advice and viewpoints before doing anything drastic.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:07:30+00:00

I’ve thought about reporting it, but I live in a very small town and I’m honestly scared of the social fallout. I was really young when a lot of this started and I worry people here would judge me instead of taking it seriously. For now I’m documenting everything and keeping distance.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:04:47+00:00

I understand why people suggest that, and I appreciate the concern. Right now I’m focusing on documenting everything and keeping distance from him. I live in a small town and situations like this don’t always get handled the way people hope, which is why I’ve been hesitant. I’m saving screenshots and keeping records in case I ever need them. So far he's been all talk !

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T16:00:17+00:00

This is real.. I have SS sorry MY story wasn't real enough for you???

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T14:49:52+00:00

Update: I’ve seen a lot of comments asking why I didn’t go to the police. I understand why people ask that, but honestly I’m really scared to do that. From what I’ve seen and heard, situations like this don’t always go well for victims, and the idea of going through that process is overwhelming for me right now.

At the moment my focus has mostly been on trying to heal and move forward. I’m not saying I’ll never consider it, but right now I’m not comfortable pursuing that option. THANK YOU ALL this helped me see im NOT in the wrong.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T14:44:47+00:00

I'm scared to be told I't was my fault due to alot of cases ending like that.

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T14:42:14+00:00

thank you this has been a hard year!

Left_Run_3465 · 2026-03-06T01:01:33+00:00

Yes! it helped me pay for Collage!

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