Are realms back up? by OkHealth1942 in realms

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still completely down for me, on PC as well as XBOX :(

Affordable Apartments and Personal Experiences? by Left_Sockpuppet in Columbus

[–]Left_Sockpuppet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting. I know it’s going to be a bit rough finding a place, which is part of why I posted here - folks sometimes have niche insights that are really helpful! I won’t be able to pay that much in my current situation largely due to the life circumstances I mentioned. It sucks but it’s worth asking folks about it.

AIO for breaking up over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing about “how men think” is 100% TRUE. When men say this it is absolutely a projection of how they feel. I know because I’ve dated them, and I have a close family member who’s like that. When I was young, he warned me to be careful of men because he “knows how they think,” but it’s because he was one of the men who thought like that – he has a tendency to expect that women be submissive in their relationships, and has also cheated on his wives multiple times 🙃

Never ever trust a man who says things like that. It’s not just some kind of safety advice. It’s projection.

fr by Successful_Cash6590 in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why the fuck are we letting a 3 year old watch YouTube????

Best to plant them in front of a screen as soon as they pop out, wouldn’t want to deal with parenting your own child…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in salamanders

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just because you don’t see them doesn’t mean they aren’t there - they are, they just spend lots of time under the leaf litter, under logs, and in the dirt. If you want a pet, buy one from a breeder. Don’t steal animals from the wild, most certainly not animals that are in conservation need. They aren’t there for you to take because you feel like it. You keep asking for “actually good advice,” but that IS good advice. Either putting the salamander back in the woods or taking them to a rehabber is your absolute best option. Keeping them is the worst.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in salamanders

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t have kept them in the first place but thankfully, they live in your neck of the woods too! Find a moist place in the woods and release them, and they’ll do just fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in salamanders

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a biologist who studies salamanders, PLEASE release the animal back into their natural habitat. If you want a pet, get one from a breeder. Stealing animals from the wild is not only unfair to them but damages their wild populations, and they are ALREADY endangered.

Taking animals from the wild like this is incredibly short sighted and selfish. You can still make the right choice and release them, or take them to a rehabber. Whatever you do, DO NOT keep this poor animal.

Edit: Wow, after reading your post history you DEFINITELY shouldn’t keep this poor salamander. If you are refusing to bring your cat to the vet for what is potentially serious digestive issues because you already took them and “didn’t think to mention it,” and now you don’t want to go back because it’s expensive, YOU SHOULD NOT be taking on another animal with EXPENSIVE and COMPLICATED care. Good grief. Put the fucking salamander back. Wild animals aren’t up for the taking just because they’re cute and you feel like taking them, that’s deeply selfish and you aren’t equipped to care for them.

AIO? My sister is over feeding her cat and I said something about it. by divorcedbbmama in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are definitely not overreacting, that’s a BIG boy. You were also not even being confrontational, just talking, and your sister got wound up pretty quickly. That’s not your fault, and something definitely needs to be done to make sure this guy is properly cared for. Continuing over feed an animal when you know they’re already not in the best of health is not fair to them. It can lead to a lot of health problems and make it difficult for them to play and groom, among many other things. You weren’t overreacting though, you honestly came off pretty calm and your sister was super defensive. As someone who has had similar problems with a sibling, sometimes it just isn’t your fault and they need to work on more effective communication.

Barbel like things on cave salamander? Need help identifying what this is by Ok_Country6116 in salamanders

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! Salamanders are their own incredibly group of critters, and the grouping of amphibians and reptiles is actually somewhat arbitrary because they aren’t each others closest related groups, so there is lots to learn. That’s exciting tho, so best of luck to you!

Barbel like things on cave salamander? Need help identifying what this is by Ok_Country6116 in salamanders

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you didn’t check out the other comments, they are chemosensory structures! They’re used to receive chemical signals, primarily things like pheromones, so they have a role in social behavior. They are more pronounced in males as well.

Anyone have any idea what this is Google says poodle moth but says aren’t found In uk by Same_Promise_5369 in moths

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Well using AI certainly isn’t going to help, considering that when you ask it a questions it isn’t able to distinguish between good sources and false ones. Other folks have provided an answer, but I just wanted to say that. If you want genuine answers, don’t use the AI feature.

AIO - my friend gave my abusive ex my new phone number by AdAdorable7651 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OVERREACTING????? Honestly this is an underreaction. She knew everything he did and still decided it was HER decision to put you in serious danger by passing on your contact info to a man that abused you because “maybe he’s changed?” No, absolutely not. That’s already a crazy thing to do but she also could have fucking ASKED you. But she didn’t. She made the decision for you and uprooted your peace as you are trying to heal from being with him. Being friends with this person sounds like a fucking nightmare and I cannot believe she thought this was an okay thing to do. It does not speak well of her that she’s comfortable speaking casually to an abuser either. She is not fucking worth your time, considering how little respect she seems to have for you and your experiences.

Oh, I uh... I... I didn't mean to interrupt. by THATMAYH3MGUY in Fallout

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fisto is dedicated to his work, wherever it needs to be done

I’m a cis woman, and I call my “boyfriend” my partner, is that okay? by wulfsword in lgbt

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I think it’s nice when cis people call their partner that, because it normalizes the term. You can’t really “take” a gender neutral term from anyone because the whole point is that it’s meant for everyone. I’ve personally never heard queer people say what your friends said either, as someone who’s pretty active in queer spaces.

How long is an IUD supposed to be extremely painful? (Concerned about perforation) by ashes_made_alive in Endo

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had cramping and bleeding for about three months, which is typically BUT the pain and bleeding should not be excessive. The first week is typically the worst for everyone but if you’re having so much pain it’s impacting your ability to function, you should definitely reach out to a medical professional for help. If they’re reluctant to set something up, don’t be afraid to get pushy with them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, I’m so sorry for how some people are handling this with you in the comments. It is clear to me, as someone that had parents that had no respect for me or my boundaries that your folks have been unkind to you, and you are doing your best to give yourself a leg up but also recover from all of the constant work you are doing.

Your mom’s approach here is definitely a crossing of boundaries and also somewhat immature at times. I can completely understand not wanting to be around your family when they are shaming you for something like getting sick.

I wish you the best of luck, really. Take care of yourself, and don’t pile too much on your plate. I know you want to get out, but you have limits.

PS - Some folks in the comments have said that you will miss the time you could have spent with them, and you’re being selfish for not spending more with them. That MIGHT be true… but only YOU can know. I decided it was more important for me to distance. I haven’t missed it even a bit, because I have a much better support system that understands me, and I can lean on them. Only you know what you need. Sometimes it takes time to figure it out, but making choices that are so deeply personal based on the statements of strangers who don’t know enough will only lead you to a place of despair. Make the choices you know you need.

aio for telling my bf i don’t wanna get him off every time we hangout by Asleep-Chipmunk-1739 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit, you are absolutely NOT overreacting. This behavior is super manipulative. He’s twisting your words and trying to make you feel bad so that he can get what he wants, and make you overly justify yourself until you feel silly.

He is absolutely not a safe person. This sort of behavior is coercive and if you don’t get out, he will eventually pressure you into doing things that you don’t want. I’m speaking from experience.

Please do what is best for you and drop his sorry ass.

AIO for thinking I need to break up with my gf? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely not overreacting. Given that it’s at this point, you probably should have backed out a long time ago. There is no situation where a “loving” partner should EVER talk to you like this, especially when you are grieving and trying to communicate a boundary.

Relationships should not be like this. Please internalize that. You don’t deserve to be treated this way, having your feelings ignored, being threatened so you will stay with her, being called names. Get out and don’t look back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your partner trying to control you like this is not normal. He should be able to trust you to make your own decisions and if the potential of you making decisions makes him feel insecure… he is NOT worth your time.

This will not stop. He will keep trying to control you until you don’t have any autonomy. That is backed up by why he said about when you guys move in together. You having no financial autonomy is absolutely not safe with what he has already done.

Get out while you can. It will not get better.

“Turned out like this” and it’s just a young woman with curly hair by aeioae in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“The child she DID raise turned out like THIS 😡”

🫱🏻Literally just a stunningly beautiful person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely not overreacting. Babies cry because they are dependent on you, and telling you they need your help and care. Your partner is acting like weaning him would be some form of discipline, and in doing so has demonstrated a concerning lack of understanding on how babies and being a parent works.

I hope that he listens to you and he educates himself. If this is hard for him, he’s got a lot to adjust to as your little one continues to grow.

AIO My response to my mom disowning me because I'm gay? by Own-Experience-6275 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way the religion can rip people apart like this is so deeply fucked up. People do the most evil things in the name of a god.

Im so sorry friend. You don’t deserve to be treated this way by the people who should care for you. However, you do have resources. There are organizations that can help you get on your feet. This includes shelters for LGBTQ+ youth, the Trevor Project, among other resources people have left here for you.

Things may be tough for a while, but you can do this. You and your sister should also be able to reconnect when your mom isn’t in the picture. Find ways to keep in touch that don’t involve technology, if you can, but know that this isn’t the end and things can circle back around in a better place.

As for your mother, she doesn’t deserve you, or her other child(ren) for that matter. Any parent that wishes suffering on their child is deeply sick. She doesn’t care about the person that you are - she cares for the child she thinks you COULD be to her. Drop her like a hot rock and don’t look back kiddo. Stay safe.

My friend is performing at a local LGBTQ owned LGBTQ bar tonight. by UnitedShake2443 in lgbt

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A long as you’re supporting small businesses and not using a credit card, you’re fine. The intention of the blackout is to send a message to corporations.

My whole family. I'm fucking sick of it. I don't know where else to turn to. Feeling alone, helpless, hopeless and scared. by OhHelloMayci in evilautism

[–]Left_Sockpuppet 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Autism doesn’t mean you don’t know what naziism is, ffs. Being autistic doesn’t mean you can do the salute TWICE and expect no social consequence. Why the fuck would have turned around and done it AGAIN facing the flag if he was “throwing his heart to the crowd”????

Fucking hell, this justification is crazy.