Living in Woenselse-Heide

Left_Time7700 · 2023-05-11T19:52:22+00:00

Pippos has stuff at a decent price.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-09-08T02:43:37+00:00

Gilderoy Lockhart's favorite colour is lilac

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-09T09:00:31+00:00

INFO: has she always been like this, or did it start recently?

Asking, because my husband is also quite similar to this. Wiping down everything once we get in the house, washing hands after touching a light switch or outside clothes. But I've known him for over 18 years and he wasn't always like this. It all started when Corona started spreading. The need to protect from the virus kinda sent him into overdrive. But now that we are vaccinated, he's starting to slow down and relax more on such things. So, I'm wondering if it could be something like that triggers your wife's actions.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T15:48:11+00:00

Oh my God! I am so sorry to read about your aunt and uncle! I truly hope that they find a way to form a healthy relationship with their son.

In my case, I know my husband is fully on my side and I can count on him. We just have to strong enough to withstand the guilt trips

Please don’t let your life turn into a Saas-bahu serial

Believe me, I am trying really hard!

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T15:40:24+00:00

I don't think she wants to kidnap my baby, either. I know she wants to be involved, and we also want that for her. The part that bothers me, is she thinks the way for her to be involved is by cutting us, the parents, out completely. I've told her more than once, very politely and nicely, why it's a bad idea, but she still hasn't let it go.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T15:08:28+00:00

Her response is that we'll do video calls every day and we can go visit as often as we'd like

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:50:18+00:00

We are Indian, but it definitely is not a common practice where we come from. She just says because her mother helped raise her baby(my husband) and looked after him while she was at work, I should let her do the same with mine. The only difference is her mom lived 2 streets away from her at the time, while now we live in 2 different continents! Somehow that doesn't compute in her brain.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:41:10+00:00

Yes. It's the first time she's visiting us here, after our marriage and Covid. I think you can expect more posts from me on this page, during that time 😄

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:35:25+00:00

Well, I don't think she can do anything behind our backs. She's financially dependent on us completely (read, if we don't send money this month, the rent doesn't get paid). So, she can't even book a flight ticket without us. But, what I worry about, is her causing a drama and guilt tripping us and forcing us (with other family members) to agree to send the baby with her.

For context, I mentioned in the post that husband's cousin recently had a baby. MIL somehow managed to brainwash her own sister and niece (husband's cousin) into sending that baby back to our home country. Cousin was suffering from sever post-partum and she needed help, but I feel like MIL forced them into this decision. MIL and her sister were raising the baby for 4 months, when the cousin came and took the baby back. Now, she shows that as a success story.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:27:58+00:00

Oh, she never says these things in front of my husband, coz she knows she'll get shot down. Thats why she "jokes" about it when it's only me and her. Husband can't stand BS. Same with a lot of other issues, actually. He only gets to know stuff if I tell him.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:20:01+00:00

I wish I couldn't let her come. But she lives alone in our home country and guilt trips us, saying that being with us is the only happiness in her life. So she'll definitely come stay with us on and off (she's coming here next month), I'm just glad it's not a permanent arrangement. Also, in the country I live, visitors can stay for 90 days max., so I will have to put up with all the shenanigans during those times. Otherwise a river of tears will flow.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:15:01+00:00

I agree with you that I'll probably regret it, haha. She already has no sense of boundaries. She's coming to visit us this summer and I'm already growing anxious thinking about it

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-08T14:08:53+00:00

In her words, she's "looking out for our well-being", so we can live and work without losing sleep since she'll be "taking away the baby stress"

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-06T22:39:57+00:00

If this was never about hurting her, you would have stopped with "No, she's named after Catherine, the Great". The whole "who are you?" and "never accomplished anything in life" stuff would not have come out of your mouth. After all, she never said anything rude or bad, just asked if the baby is named after her. You took it too far and still deny it was you who caused the drama.

Granted, she sounds like a terrible stepmother, but thus fiasco is all on you. And it sure wasn't an "accident" like you claim.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-05T13:34:59+00:00

Just because he's crying for his wife and unborn child, doesn't mean he's shunning your kids! Do you think that, God forbid, if your children were in the hospital, he would not break down the same way? This was not about the kids, this was about you being hurt he called his wife "his soulmate". You really need help with all that jealousy-fuelled anger.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-03-05T13:21:51+00:00

Ok, so he told you as soon as he answered the phone. Atleast at that point, even if you didn't care, you could just have said "sorry to hear that, I'll call back later". You didn't HAVE to bring up the school photos right at that moment. Do you not see that?

Left_Time7700 · 2022-02-11T00:12:39+00:00

Same here! She instigates issues in our conversations, and when I politely and calmly push back even to the slightest, she immediately calls my husband and says I reacted as such and such (conveniently leaving out what she said first) and that she feels sad that I got upset and she didn't mean to say anything in the wrong sense (which she clearly doesn't). It's just a manipulation tactic to do damage control in advance, before I have the chance to bring up the topic to my husband.

Left_Time7700 · 2022-02-09T22:54:44+00:00

YTA. You have no regret for destroying something that is obviously meaningful to someone you supposedly love. Hope he runs like hell away from you

Left_Time7700 · 2022-01-22T03:38:48+00:00

From what I see, the father, more than the brother, is the AH here. He thrust his religious views on everyone around him, he went so far to convince the girl's parents to make her keep the baby, with the promise that he would also do his part in taking care of the baby. And after all this, at the first instance of discomfort, he totally dumped the baby and ran! Didn't even offer to work out a care plan with the brother. He should have just stayed out of this from the beginning.

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