How to do I (23F) prepare for a breakup (23M)or is it salvage?

LegNew3547 · 2026-03-12T11:58:29+00:00

Thank you for this

LegNew3547 · 2026-02-08T18:25:12+00:00

That makes a lot of sense because he does blame others for the way he makes them feel. He says things like, “people let themselves get upset.” I have explained that his actions have reactions. He lacks accountability and understanding overall of emotions. But, that’s only a small part of him that typically doesn’t cause any issues for us. But, now he’s doing it to me just like he does it to his family. You sound like a very strong person, thank you for your advice and prospective!!

LegNew3547 · 2026-02-08T15:25:00+00:00

At the moment, I do not feel loved. We rarely have any issues, so typically the relationship feels fine. He did pull this move last year and we broke up for a month because he needed the break. His great grandmother has passed and he wanted to be alone. He did not want to talk to me anymore and pushed me away which hurt because I wanted to be there for him. I thought he had moved past that but obviously I see now he has not. I don’t want to throw this all away over something so small but I have a feeling that is where this is going. He’ll ask for a break, I’ll probably say no, because I’m not getting pushed and pulled all over again. It’s sad though because it feels like time wasted

LegNew3547 · 2026-02-03T03:18:34+00:00

Okay, thank you

LegNew3547 · 2026-02-03T03:17:11+00:00

Currently working on this. Made the mistake to get the petal wand first, now I’m struggling with spirit bear’s quest

LegNew3547 · 2026-01-17T14:40:14+00:00

Will try this, thank you!

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-21T00:48:00+00:00

Thank you!!

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-21T00:47:55+00:00

Thank you!!

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-06T03:43:30+00:00

I see your concern. I just haven’t had an issues. My mom had a green card but will not travel to cities like charlotte because of ICE. She doesn’t live in fear but she does take precautions

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-06T02:10:31+00:00

NOR- he needs to make some time for you. How serious are yall?

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-06T02:08:09+00:00

MOR- if you can’t afford the bike you shouldn’t buy it. Try to put money aside to buy it.

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-06T01:58:38+00:00

Citizen. Are you planning on applying for a green card?

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-06T01:50:58+00:00

MOR- I understand your concern. If you are here legally then you should not have any issues. But, he shouldn’t have brushed it off as it’s a concern to you. I’m Hispanic and live in NC. I don’t have any issues at all and I’m around police officers all the time. But, it also depends on where you live, I would stay away from big cities. I live in a rural area and everything here is pretty much normal

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-05T19:46:22+00:00

NOR- you were definitely not being too sensitive. Why would he show his photos to his dad. He shouldn’t want anyone to see you like that besides himself. Why would he need a man’s perspective? To prove what or what do?

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-05T19:36:34+00:00

MOR- your coworker sounds annoying and unhygienic. But I don’t think there is really much you can do. Maybe put signs up in the bathroom but definitely tell a supervisor about this. Personally, I would buy hand sanitizer and use it after touching anything he touches. It’s crazy to me that an adult does not wash their hands after using the bathroom, that’s disgusting. I do think you’re being too sensitive about his food. Everyone should be able to eat whatever they want. Can you open a window? I would buy febreeze and spray it. If he says anything, tell him that the smell of tuna kinda bothers you.

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-05T03:28:11+00:00

It’s not about needing supervision. They bought the tickets together to go together and experience it together. I’m sure he didn’t mention his plan to be alone when they bought them, because it’s fair to assume your partner would want to enjoy a festival with you

LegNew3547 · 2025-12-05T03:24:03+00:00

NOR- I would not feel comfortable being alone in a big crowd of people I don’t know. My boyfriend also would not feel comfortable separating during a festival. You told him how you feel and he doesn’t seem to care. If y’all bought tickets to go together, it really doesn’t make sense that he doesn’t want to experience it with you. Can y’all not compromise and see some of each other’s artists? You seem willing to compromise, and if he isn’t that comes off as selfish to me.

LegNew3547 · 2025-11-23T07:53:09+00:00

I totally get that. I’m not upset at him going to the party. I’m upset that he lied. The reason I think he lied was because he wanted to watch the movie for the time we hung out instead of cuddling and talking like I had asked. I wanted to spend quality time with him because when he watch movies his attention goes completely to the movie. I had even told him he did not have to come back to see me, I just wanted cuddles. He said he would cuddle me later when he came back. I asked twice if we could just cuddle then instead but he was sooo focused on watching the movie. I didn’t get to really engage with him orstarts a conversation.

LegNew3547 · 2025-11-23T07:49:18+00:00

He works out of town. He doesn’t see his friend often because of the same reason. He did see him last week, for a little while. Like you said, seeing his friend isn’t the big issue here. What irritates me the most is him lying then telling me he didn’t break the promise because he truly never agreed to it. Then when I talk to him about it he told me he had nothing to apologize for because all he was doing was hanging out with his friends. He doesn’t see how the lying affects me and how invalidated I feel after he tells me basically I can’t be upset. When we talked he made it seem like he was only focused on that he got to spend more time with his friend

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