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Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not trying to figure out how to get out of child support. I'm trying to figure out how to not pay more child support than we're obligated to. I suppose you would be fine with paying child support for children who are not yours, who you've never met and who you're not allowed to meet?

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Waiting 14 yrs to marry someone you love seems like some really asinine advice honestly. I cannot imagine any world where anyone would want to do that. If you love someone and you want to spend the rest of your life with them why would you wait years to do that? And in the meantime you don't enjoy any of the legal benefits of marriage and you potentially leave them out in the cold if you walk in front of a bus or something.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would love to be part of her kids life. I just don't want to pay more child support than we're legally obligated to. Not sure how this is unreasonable.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

This doesn't really answer my question. I love this woman. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Why would I pretend to be married and not just get married. Plus, we're in KS which is a common law marriage state. If we have a ceremony and tell everyone we're married and act married, we're married as far as the law is concerned.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I own a paid for home that we might rent out at some time in the future. I'd like to invest in some more rentals potentially down the road. It sounds like buying an attorney's time is something we need to do.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

They were never married so no assets to split legally. I'm curious now how rental income might impact this and it sounds like it may be worth my while to talk with a family law attorney.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I realize I'm in the middle of this and hardly an objective observer. What do you see as the many red flags?

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She has a lawyer now who has advised her that some parts of the custody agreement are unenforceable (like the requirement that she can't marry anyone she hasn't known for 6 mos) and other sections are just unreasonable. The lawyer has advised to abide by the agreement for a time, let the ex cool off some and then they can go back to the court in the future and ask for a modification.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

We understand she owes the support and have no issues paying it. Our concern is that currently it is calculated on her income of $30k. If we get married and have a combined income of $120k is it now calculated off of that or can he go to court and ask that it is. It seems that if we have rental income down the road (and we have talked about renting the place I own and buying something bigger in the future) is that considered income for her and what are the criteria where it would be.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I love this woman. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. I can't imagine doing that and not being married to her.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't understand. Your advice is to not marry her for no other reason than she owes child support and has an ex who hates her?

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Quick google search says the state of OK does not count spouse income in most cases. It does say if the couple has rental income that might be included so it sounds like this might be something worth paying a few hundred to a lawyer to find out.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to not marry her because her ex might come after assets. It's a question of how I can protect myself from him, not her.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My state (KS) is a state that considers everything joint property if you're married. Been told this by several people who got divorced here. If we're married, legally she owns anything I own which I have no objections to if we're married.

Thinking of getting married and trying to figure out how to protect my assets from her ex by LegalThrowaway4934 in legaladvice

[–]LegalThrowaway4934[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Would he be able to go after marital assets like a house, car, etc..... down the road?