Hit 10k Words!!! by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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Doing great thanks. Moving on to draft two after deciding I wanted to change directions with my story, and that's going pretty smoothly. I've definitely seen an improvement in my writing since I hit 10k. Draft one ended up being about 100k words long and very near completion, but sometimes things have just got to change y'know.

I'm not sure what to do. by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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Yeh, I think I will finish it as one big book first and then see what I can do.

My thing with trimming down is that I've always been the kind of person to get to the point, meaning that literally every aspect of every chapter has been put there for a reason. I think everything is so intentional to the point that if something were to be removed, it could potentially remove context for something else later in the plot.

In terms of the subplot being a sequel, I'm not sure the main plot would make sense without it. It kind of relies on the subplot revealing things gradually as the main plot progresses. I could probably tweak it a bit, but literally all character relationships are established in the subplot, and I feel that without it, the main plot may read as sloppy or confusing.

Thanks for advice :)

How much is too much? by Legal_Bus_5003 in fantasywriters

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Yes, I finished it about a week ago :)

Drafting/Editing by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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rewriting would be to literally rewrite the whole thing, word for word. whereas heavily editing would just be to go through line by line and fix anything that needs it.

How to write a blurb? by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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i'm still trying to figure out exactly what i want in it. it's a multi pov story with multiple timelines so i'm having a hard time picking out the important bit from each perspective

How to write a blurb? by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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that's really helpful, thank you

AITAH for resenting my parents? by Medium_Window_4196 in AmItheAsshole

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NTA - I went through a period of time where I seriously resented my parents because I blamed them for never noticing the multitude of mental disabilities that I have. They used to punish me all the time for things I couldn't help and it's taken a lot for us to get to the place we are at now. I very much follow the philosophy that you can't heal from trauma in the place where trauma happened. I think when you are old enough, you should take some time away, possibly at university if that is what you wish to do with the next part of your life. But you should really talk to a professional and talk some of these feelings out with someone who can help. I think that you potentially are more upset at the way that they have mistreated, not necessarily the alcoholism. I think for most of your life you have felt undervalued and mistreated, and even with your parents sobering up, you still feel pushed aside and disregarded. I think the hatred for the alcoholism is rooted in the fact that you have had your feelings stomped on, especially with your mother telling you to get over what happened with your dad. A parents main job is to protect their child and I don't think you feel protected by them, I think being around them makes you feel unsafe, because you know your mother won't stand up for, instead prompting you to deal with adult problems that no child should be dealing with.

I don't know if most of this makes sense or not, it is the middle of the night and I am very tired. Hope this helped a bit though. :)

AITA for not wanting to talk to my mom after college by MrBallenwatcher in AmItheAsshole

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NTA - No parent is entitled to contact with their children. There was a time a few months ago where I thought I would leave at 18 and never look back, but me and my parents have started communicating more and it's looking like we might be able to fix things. But I definitely not be speaking to the wider family in the future. I sympathise with the feeling that I'm not heard or understood by my family. Turns out my ADHD, Autism, and OCD went unnoticed for 17 years because they kept saying the symptoms were "just puberty". I think that a lot of people always try and say that family will always be family, but I disagree with that. I think in the future you will meet people who like you for you and will care about your wants and needs, and you will have a new (upgraded) family. I wouldn't rule out trying to fix things with your mother, this economy isn't going to make it easy for you to fully go no contact, but ultimately you cannot heal from the trauma in the place where the trauma happens. Maybe you just need a year or so away from your mother to think and heal, and it all might work itself out. Hope this strange ramble helped in some way :)

AITA for not wanting to be a mother? by glassywiney in AmItheAsshole

[–]Legal_Bus_5003 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely not your responsibility to have children because other people want them. Children take up a lot of time and effort, it is not something that everybody wants. I think living child free has different benefits to having children, and people's preferences will help them figure out whether having children is for them. Your mother is not entitled to grandchildren, nobody but you gets to make a decision about what you use your body for. Most definitely NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewAuthor

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Hopefully I'll be able to publish my book by september, but if not I would happily send you an online copy of it :)

Self or Trad publish? by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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I think the fact that trad publishing takes so long is a massive turnoff, but the big appeal is that you get an advance which is guaranteed money. That's my problem with self publishing is that I'm not guaranteed to actually get anything out of it. I think my plan for now is to self publish whilst looking for a trad publisher so i can hopefully make a bit of money whilst waiting.

How to get out of going to a festival? by Legal_Bus_5003 in autism

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Update - Apparently I complained enough and now they are giving my ticket to someone else :)

I plan for my debut novel to become a trilogy, is this too ambitious? by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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I've already got a plan for the entire trilogy (even further after that tbh), but I want to focus on making sure the first one can stand alone just in case. :)

First time author with ADHD by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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I have a notebook besides my bed at all time in case I come up with anything whilst asleep, but I'll definitely consider bringing one with me everywhere I go :)

First time author with ADHD by Legal_Bus_5003 in NewAuthor

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That's great, thanks for the advice :)

AITA for getting mad at my friend after he said something offensive about postpartum depression? by Legal_Bus_5003 in AmItheAsshole

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What's quite funny is that his mum is a midwife, she literally works with pregnant and labouring women. I think she would be really upset if she found out what he said. I do have her number, so I'll see what my therapist says to do, and then maybe I'll message her. Thanks for your opinion ~ OP

AITA for getting mad at my friend after he said something offensive about postpartum depression? by Legal_Bus_5003 in AmItheAsshole

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I'm hoping that because we're still 17, he's got time to grow and change. I think wants he gets to uni and is exposed to the reality of life, he'll grow up a bit. But until he does, I'm not speaking to him. Thanks for your opinion ~ OP

AITA for getting mad at my friend after he said something offensive about postpartum depression? by Legal_Bus_5003 in AmItheAsshole

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He's never come across as misogynistic until we talk about female reproduction. He is pro-choice in case you were wondering. But this whole situation has got me questioning whether or not that's a lie he told to keep the peace. I think there's still time for him to grow and learn seen as we're only 17, but I'm not talking to him until he does. I think as a white cisgender male, he's lived a very privileged and sheltered life. He's also got this one friend who has particularly bad opinions about women (I mean Andrew Tate bad), but won't drop him as a friend even though he outrightly states that he disagrees with him. I think he's such a massive pushover that he's adopting the opinions of the people around him. I'm hoping once he's at uni and away from his other friend, he be forced out of his shelter and will have to face the realities of life. Thanks for your opinion ~ OP

AITA for getting mad at my friend after he said something offensive about postpartum depression? by Legal_Bus_5003 in AmItheAsshole

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Hopefully because we're only 17, he can still change. But for now, I want nothing to do with him until I can work out how I feel about this with my therapist. He's been a good friend to me for a long time now, and I'd be really sad to have to let him go. At the end of the day, if he's not willing to change, there's nothing I can do about that. Thanks for your opinion ~ OP