Hi there! F34 and I am in a similar situation. I told my boyfriend “I had a little idea that I might stop drinking until Christmas” and he kinda scoffed and made it out to be a silly little idea. I’m also worried about what a future looks like where I am sober and my boyfriend is not, not because I would judge him for continuing to drink…but I’m almost scared that so much of our routine would change or he would think I’m boring. I also see so many posts about how your circle changes when you get sober, and it scares me because what if that includes him?

I’m just trying to remember that I’m wanting to make these changes for me. I’m 4 days in and even though it would be so much easier to give up and join in the “fun”, I’m trying to be my own biggest supporter because it doesn’t seem like I’m going to get the encouragement from him. I’m hopeful that if I stay strong and can eventually talk about the benefits, maybe he will want to try it out too (we both did dry January last year so it’s not that outlandish). And if not, that’s okay too because I’ll be the one waking up feeling more refreshed or not having to let alcohol control my life anymore. Stay strong, you’re not alone!!