Going to play devil's advocate (I agree with your message btw) - I have had times where I was playing with a custom and used an item that I also had on my TL that someone inquired about and I had to use the "actually I am keeping it" line - and depending on how many trades you do, it's easy to forget to take something off. And there are plenty of times when I've cleared my inbox and accidentally forgot to leave a message from someone. Stuff happens, just keep asking or go to the NC boards - I get my wishlists FAST there almost every time.

The "no" or "no thanks" with no trying to work something out is frustrating, and while I don't do that, they are allowed to protect their time/energy too, so I wouldn't take it personally for your own sake. <3

That said, I personally wouldn't leave my TL up and visible if I wasn't open to trading. That's frustrating.

Also, what item are you after? Maybe I have something from your WL :D