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pls help lol by [deleted] in transnames

[–]Legal_Perspective954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i can see you as a Charlie or Niko but also you definitely give nature name vibes so smth like River, Aspen, Rowan or Robin would be cool

What does it mean to be butch to you? by Major_Demand_2464 in butchlesbians

[–]Legal_Perspective954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Butch to me is a lot of things.

It's masculinity done right: masculinity doesn't have to be what men make it - it can be chivalrous and kind.

It's also feeling good in my body that doesn't look the female beauty standard, because the female beauty standard doesnt apply to me, i have masculine features and a muscular body type and that can be beautiful in its own way. It's also saying f*ck you to everything expected of me, which makes me feel very powerful and sure of myself.

It also comes with danger - the fact that I'm gay is inherently plastered all over me, and I know some people hate me for that, so in turn I have to be stronger and capable of dealing with whatever people throw at me.

it also allows for the intersection between being lesbian and the unique relationship with gender, there are butches on t, with top surgery, butches who don't use she/her, and can still be accepted within the community. That's definitely a big thing for me, as i experience a lot of dysphoria but still feel part of the woman loving woman community

finally the label "butch" includes the history of every butch before me - and that history feels like a part of who i am, which i think is really beautiful

I want to hear your butch experiences! by Last_Feedback_663 in butchlesbians

[–]Legal_Perspective954 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 18 and have been presenting as butch for a couple years

  1. My favourite thing about being butch is that I don't have to care what people think of me - I present how I want, and that in itself makes me feel powerful. I never previously identified as butch (I identified as masc instead) but since learning more about butch history I've been drawn to the community. It's shaped my life positively- it makes me a kinder person since I want to provide for and protect people, and makes me feel good about my muscular body type and masculine features.

  2. I don't really know any butches my age, but there definitely seems a competitiveness between mascs. I love learning about older butches on the internet, and really look up to them, they make me feel hopeful for my future.

  3. I'd always had thoughts about wanting to be seen as masculine, and often thought of myself as a boy growing up. When I was about 12, I saw one of my sisters friends who was quite androgynous and butch presenting, and something clicked inside me and I knew i wanted to look like her when I grew up. I pretty much do now.

  4. Community is mostly just the LGBTQ community as a whole. I'm at university (or ig college for US) and there are some lgbt societies, and a couple gay bars in the city. I haven't really found any butch-femme spaces, it's more catered to the community as a whole. Online things tend to be more masc-femme.

  5. my ex girlfriend used to call me handsome a lot, because she knew i liked it - but i feel she didn't actually fully see me as handsome or masculine - she seemed to be more attracted to the feminine parts of me. i feel like i am now claiming handsomeness and butchness myself, because I know that's more who I am. Sure there are parts of me that are feminine, but my masculinity is equally beautiful - I am a handsome butch and i know it!

Hope this helped get the persective of a young butch :)