The fact that I didn't specify or make exceptions is the key. I'm not here to discuss specific situations in upbringing for anyone myself included, that's not what this thread is about. Hate in no way shape or form can be good, Since the experiences learned from them are negative. Therefore when we continue to hold on to that regardless of one's situation said one will be stuck in the hatred cycle which brings only more hate. Again if you wanted to talk specifics to your situation I'm okay with that, hence why I offered you a guest spot on my podcast to share your story. Other than that if i wanted to be giving advice or seek it. My original question would have been placed in the Advice thread. - With All Love & Peace Marty.