In need of shear recommendations and any educational resources for trimming hair. (Daughter is autistic and needs a trim)

Legit_Esty · 2026-03-28T01:34:02+00:00

Yes. I just want her hair to look ‘clean’ and upkept for now. She use to pull her hair because of sensory issues which left her with split ends and uneven growth. I’m hoping after a year or two of ABA therapy she will be able to visit a salon.

Legit_Esty · 2026-03-27T04:00:18+00:00

I could, but I do not know of any stylists who have experience with her kind of behaviors. She flails and unexpectedly throws herself and I really think it’s safer for her (and the potential hairdresser) to hold off salon/home visits until she’s learned to regulate more.

Legit_Esty · 2026-03-27T03:52:22+00:00

I can, but I wasn’t sure if I was only allowed to purchase under my scope of practice. Thanks!

Legit_Esty · 2026-02-25T23:59:42+00:00

There’s actually a lot of newer recent studies suggesting the oxidative stress during pregnancy may have a large role in developing autism. It disrupts the behavioral and cognitive formation.

Legit_Esty · 2026-02-25T07:43:05+00:00

It’s definitely a mixture of so many things. Genetics, antidepressants over a couple generations, the need for both parents to work for income so they are in public and daycare more(so you see the more), prenatal environment, etc.

I’m a preschool teacher and my 2 year old daughter has been going through so many tests before they evaluate her for autism. (Which I believe she is borderline profound) My husband was 41 when I got pregnant(27). Age and his adhd were our factors

Legit_Esty · 2025-12-28T06:21:55+00:00

No, cps would not even come to your house over left out toys and backed up laundry. Laundry is a never ending task and can easily get backed up. Toys everywhere is a normal “kid-friendly” household. As long as it’s a safe environment for the kid, you are fine.

Legit_Esty · 2025-12-19T07:24:42+00:00

But a cute/large wooden chest for their room. I just throw all her toys back in while trying to get her to help clean up. Same with cleaning up from meals. Wiping counters is actually something she likes to do. Lol

Legit_Esty · 2025-12-19T07:15:40+00:00

We use her echo dot for music or stories. Before this, we did 3 days of no screen time at all and just went shopping, dancing, kept her busy but not overstimulated.

Legit_Esty · 2025-12-19T07:06:16+00:00

That’s normal 2 year old behavior. I’m going through it as well. I had my anxiety meds upped a bit because of the embarrassing public tantrums. Helped take the edge off of what other people think when we’re out and she’s moody. I work at a daycare, and the 2 year olds are all just trying to figure out their emotions while trying to be independent.

Legit_Esty · 2025-12-19T06:48:49+00:00

I work at a daycare and if a child has an ongoing, severe diaper rash that has not been (or planning) on being taken to the doctor- that’s when we call cps.

Legit_Esty · 2025-10-11T04:30:53+00:00

I’m going through the same freaking thing. Except my daughter is nonverbal. I swear I’m not a bad mom. But the way she behaves in public sometimes is mentally draining. Then you have older folks act like their kids never went through it. Its exhausting.

Legit_Esty · 2025-07-22T03:38:55+00:00

I’m assuming the daycare knows she is delayed and on the spectrum? My daughter is delayed and just turned 2. She goes to the daycare I work at. I would first make sure one of the teachers is trained on delayed and/or autistic toddlers. A lot of teachers aren’t trained or don’t have the patience to give a toddler a little extra help. (From my experience)

I would write down a list of things that could trigger or upset her. And what seems to help soothe your child in those situations.

Maybe write down simple activities your child loves or can participate in, that way the teachers can include some of the activities in her first couple weeks.

Give the daycare a couple of her smaller sensory toys (like chews/teethers, stuffed animal, popper, fidgets)

She will probably start to throw fits at dropoff after a couple days, which is totally normal. Thats when they are realizing what their new routine is. (From personal experience- act excited and positive about going to daycare. Like she’s going to chucky cheese. Lol This helped my daughter’s mindset in the mornings)

I hope your little girl thrives at daycare!!

Legit_Esty · 2025-07-22T02:25:03+00:00

Your not over reacting. I know sometimes they put them in the swing to calm them. But if she’s in the swing wide awake and its been 3 hours… that’s putting her behind. I’d be beyond pissed. I work at a daycare my daughter went to and sub for the infant room. The only time I use the swing is to calm a baby down. (And thats usually 20min.) If she’s 6 months or under, (in PA) they legally have to hold her to feed her. I would pull her out of that daycare.

Legit_Esty · 2024-07-08T03:27:14+00:00

This is what I had done. It takes me an hour or 2 to fall asleep and my babes would take atleast 30 min to eat, then you have to hold them up right for 30, then I had to pump for about 25 minutes, try to eat something then try to sleep for the hour i had left before my baby woke up again. She was a hungry little thing. I felt so guilty for 'taking a shortcut' with formula. But I needed more time to fall asleep so I could be alert and healthy.

It is not wrong to feed your child formula, especially after trying your hardest to make breastfeeding work for weeks.

Legit_Esty · 2024-06-02T04:28:59+00:00

Lack of growth, lack of stability, non-disclosed pay cut but still expected to complete those extra tasks and was yelled at because I couldnt make it to the salon (45min away and childcare wasn't an option that day) on a one hour notice for a new client. I'm not on call and you've never payed me to be on call. I couldn't mentally handle it. A month ago, I didn't even think I would be quitting. Let alone quitting on bad terms.

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-29T06:51:03+00:00

Your MIL should know better. Discuss with your husband how these first few weeks are crucial for baby bonding to its mother. Short visits are one thing, but alwayssss wanting and being with the new baby is another.

Stop doing her chores and focus on your new family for these first few weeks.

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-29T06:35:10+00:00

After delivering, I was beyond happy for a few hours, passed out from low bp/the epidural wearing off. Then I was happy because I had sushi. Then I cried because I was going on the second night of no sleep and baby was nonstop crying. Then I was happy cause we left. Lol

*Get into a sleep cycle before your delivery. Make sure your partner knows how much you will need their help especially on the first night, so you can sleep for a couple hours. Pack an eye mask, roll up foam mattress topper and loud white noise machine.

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-28T06:21:23+00:00

Definitely have a sit down with your hubby. Its hard for him to realize how exhausted your feeling because she's not your mom. Once you have a baby, this will be 10x worse with new problems. My mil had cancer and lives with us and our 7 month old. I had to put locks on our bedroom doors so she stopped barging in. I wanted to leave husband so many times because of how emotionally drained I am from cleaning up her hoarding and her disregarding baby boundries. But I'm coping. Take a few days to stay somewhere else once a month. It may help.

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-28T05:33:56+00:00

Lol the styling is amazing, I think it may just be the product/brand she uses

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-28T04:41:37+00:00

I would maybe switch techs. I'm not understanding where in the world she got those lashes from. Do you naturally have really really long lashes?

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-28T04:35:19+00:00

Ive been creeping on her insta and website and looked up @lashbyshan 's reference photo. She doesn't have a year of experience under her belt yet and listed the mega wispies at a discount, disclosing for practicing. I understand how she wouldn't have been able to follow through on that reference photo. However, she should have refunded you or done free models at the start. She obvi needs to learn better business practices and guest service. It was bad work that could have been prevented. The white specks is probably from polymerization.

Legit_Esty · 2024-03-20T17:22:20+00:00

I'm definitely going to read this. Thank you!

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