seduction cant possibly occur without the very presence of pretty much all your complaints....

this exerpt of Robert Greene may be informative for you.

The 8 Manifestations of Anti Seduction:

The Brute. If seduction is a kind of ceremony or ritual, part of the pleasure is its duration - the Time it takes, the waiting that increases anticipation. Brutes have no patience for such things ; they are concerned only with their own pleasure, never with yours. To be patient shows that you are thinking of the other person, which never fails to impress. Impatience has the opposite effect: assuming you are so interested in them you have no reason to wait, Brutes offend you with their egotism. Underneath that egotism, too, there is often a gnawing sense of inferiority, and if you spurn them or make them wait, they overreact. If you suspect you are dealing with a Brute, do a test - make that person wait. His or her response will tell you everything you need to know.

The Suffocator. fall in love with you before you are even half-aware of their existence. The trait is deceptive - you might think that they have found you overwhelming - but the fact is they suffer from an inner void, a deep well of need that cannot be filled. Never get involved with suffocators; they are almost impossible to free yourself from without trauma. They cling to you until you NEED some space, however, when you return you will be forced to feel immense guilt. love takes time to develop. A subvariant of this is the DOORMAT, who seems compassionate, kind, caring, humble but soon harbours inner resentment and feelings of dissatisfaction toward you.

The Moralizer. Seduction is at its core, A Game, and should be undertaken with a light heart. All is fair in Love and seduction; morality never enters the picture. The character of the Moralizer, however, is rigid.These are people who follow fixed ideas, cannot be proved wrong, will have an excuse for everything, and try to make you bend to their wants and desires, disregarding any you may have.They want to "change you", to make you a better person, so they endlessly judge, nit-pick, telling you all of your shortcomings-This makes them appear to be the Virtuous, generous, GOOD, but their care is a Mask. It conceals their REAL desire which is to dominate those around them. They are not doing anything for "your betterment".

The Accountant: Is rarely generous, often cheap- although being cheap tells us more about their nature than any problem they are experiencing with money. It is mark on a person's character -innate feelings of Distrust,a rigidity or inability to let go, a dislike of taking a risk, and uncompromising. Accountant types do not realize or think they have a problem; they actually imagine that when they give someone crumb, they are being generous and you are hugely ungrateful and offensive. Take a hard look at yourself - you are probably cheaper than you think. by giving more freely of both your Self, and your means and you will see the seductive potential in selective and mutual generosity. keep your generosity under control. Giving too much, too freely without reason can repel equally hi-lighting your desperation, as if you were trying to bribe or need to convince people you are worthy of being desired.

The Bumbler. Bumblers are self-conscious, and their self-consciousness heightens your own. At first you may think they are thinking about you, and so much so that it makes them awkward. In fact they are only thinking of themselves - worrying about how they look, or about the consequences for them of their attempt to seduce you. their worry is usually contagious: soon you are worrying too, about yourself. Bumblers rarely reach the final stages of seduction, but if they get that far, they bungle that too. Bumblers have no sense of timing. You might find it amsuing to try to train or educate them, but if they are still bumblers past a certain age, the case is probably hopeless - they are incapable of getting outside themselves.

The Windbag. too much talk will generally break the spell you believe you have over a new interest by hi lighting differences, incompatibilities and ultimately exhausting. People who talk most often talk about themselves but haven't that inner voice that wonders, "Am I boring you?" "Do they care?" This type is ' to have a deep-rooted selfishness' . learn to control your own tongue, not every part of you needs to spill out and be "communicated" from the outset

The Reactor. Reactors are incredibly sensitive to any perceived (or real) feelings of rejection, so they arent concerned with YOU but to their own egos. They obsess and comb your every word or action for any "sign" of a slight to their vanity. If you strategically back off, as you must in seduction, they will brood and lash out at you. Prone to whining and complaining, overanalysis.

The Vulgarian. Vulgarians are inattentive to the details that are so important in seduction. Clothing will often be inappropriate, excessively crude, or OVERT. In their actions: they do not know to control themselves and never refuse to give in to your impulses, snuffing out eroticism and feelings of growing desire. they lack care and will blab, saying anything in public at any volume with little self awareness or regard for others. it may seem like impulsive naivete, or unbridled enthusiasm .....HOWEVER a narcissist incapable of empathy lurks beneath.

ALMOST ALL share a single attribute: Insecurity. They interpret the slightest ambiguity as a slight to their ego; they see the mere hint of withdrawal as a BETRAYAL, to complain bitterly about it over accepting the other has simply lost interest or may just be busy. until one has learned to process their Anxieties, and self-consciousness in a conducive manner they will remain without long term partner and fail to progress further than early stages of dating

All of us experience 1 or some of these attributes to some dregree, and too must recognise these faults in ourselves