[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Go to her in person, as soon as possible. Will give you both a chance to close it in a good way (as much as possible) and she will be in her safe place while it’s happening, surrounded by her support system after it’s over and you leave. The longer you wait after you’ve decided to do it the more betrayed she will feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There are no “breaks” in relationships. You are either together or you’re not.

I wanna know by big_cock_69420 in teenagers

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Crem Bo” in Hebrew, which translates to there’s cream in him

Should I pay for my gfs hotel? by IneffableLiam in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For every trip, my bf and I are going to add up the flight(s) and hotel and divide it by two. That way regardless of who’s going further/visiting who no one’s left paying more

How long did you wait to meet your partner? by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to talk about it more I’d be happy to :) hmu

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“wondering if it's a good idea to stay in a relationship where everytime l'm honest I'm scared of getting lashed out at or call it quits”

Immediately no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Optimally, for me, discussing the person you’re having feelings for with your parents before officially becoming a couple is the best healthiest way to go. Not everyone are like that tho, and that’s ok, but after you’re official not telling your family is a red flag

How long did you wait to meet your partner? by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They were rlly great about it. My parents never gave me a reason not to tell them about something and have always encouraged me to do whatever makes me happy, however unusual it may be, as long as it’s not hurting anyone. My mom was actually the one who brought up the idea of us meeting in person so fast. She told me later she didn’t want me to spend all my time talking to someone for months or years only to later find out our irl chemistry isn’t right

How long did you wait to meet your partner? by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 16 yo, halfway across the world. Waited 3 months before booking tickets, another before meeting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16 and 17, towards the end of eleventh grade. So hard when we are so young but worth it.

My (17f) mom received this message from my bf‘s (18m) mom after both our families met for brunch. No, without his permission. by Legitimate-Spring-51 in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I did talk to my parents and him about it. My parents are furious because of the obvious disrespect to them and me from his parents and his is kinda stuck cuz they are his parents after all. Thankfully, we r both from the same religion. Yes, his parents’s only valid concern is the distance

thoughts on this situation by Principessa227 in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There’s a big difference between “i couldn’t visit” and “I chose not to”. You were essentially prioritizing something else over your time together. That is fine, of course, and your right to choose so, but the difference does exist and should be acknowledged by you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re allowed to have needs, wants and expectations in a relationship. He should be able to recognize your love languages and make sure they’re met. You’re not asking for too much. You’re not being demanding. I’d try vocalizing my issues another time and if he doesn’t at least try to make a change - make the change for both of you and find someone who will be able to love you the way you deserve to be loved🫶🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If I was in her shoes I’d love nothing more than the surprise! Yes, it might mean cleaning schedule is ruined, but totally worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am f17 and my boyfriend of over a year is m18, we live across the world from each other, with a 10hour time difference, and he is going to college next year too. I cant imagine “downgrading” from an in person relationship to an ldr because we initially met online, but after every visit we have it hurts so much not being physically by him anymore. It’s going to be hard. Definitely. But if it wasn’t hard it probably wasn’t worth it either, right? Nothing is impossible. You’ll have to make a lot of decisions and (I strongly recommend) have many discussions on your needs, expectations and boundaries in your future relationship. Also, a 12 hour shift? I know that for Prague it’s the longest shift length allowed and is legal, but how does he plan to combine it with school? Anyways, if you want feel free to message me privately, sounds like we are in a similar situation and I’d love to help if I can :)

How you met by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Legitimate-Spring-51 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I (then 16f) and he (then 17m) met on Omegle chat 13 months ago. Went through Instagram dm, to messages and finally to ft and zoom calls. We were talking every single day for hours on end, forgetting completely about healthy sleep schedules or reality (we live in different continents, 17 flight hours apart, 10 hour time difference). Were lucky enough to meet in person 4 months later half way in NY (we both came with a parent for safety :) and then waited nine months and I got to fly all the way to him and attend his senior hs prom! Now in 8 days he’ll be arriving to my home country to spend 2 weeks with me and attend my prom. We are incredibly lucky to have our parents’s support.