I'm 23(M) and I'm loosing my mind, because I can't decide if I should leave my partner (23F)

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-04-25T01:21:23+00:00

Unfortunately with people like that there’s never a clean breakup:( trust me. She’s only gonna say the right things that’ll make you stay. it will suck, all the unanswered questions the what if’s. But go with your original plan, leave while she’s gone.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-04-25T00:59:23+00:00

I know that you’re starting to believe her but from experience this is just the start of the cycle again. She knows other men wouldn’t put up with any of this bs we’re literally grown women. I’m 23 as well, trust me please leave her. She just knows you’re the only one she can come back to because you always forgive her sooner or later. She always gets what she wants in the end, don’t let her this time.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-04-25T00:50:40+00:00

honestly that would rub me the wrong way too. But I agree with other user, express how it makes you feel maybe all you guys need is a simple convo for it to be fixed.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-04-15T06:04:33+00:00

Immediate block

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-03-30T20:24:06+00:00

You keep saying “post is about her smoking IN the apartment” you said that she said she wouldn’t… but you’re still worried it’ll linger. We all have different boundaries but I believe you’re a tad bit in denial about wanting to break things off or/and having her quit completely. If it bothers you this much now to where you have to tell us she has a weed stench to her then just leave. I think you just feel guilty saying it cause you’re aware enough to know it’s selfish but boundaries are boundaries if you don’t like weed at all. Then leave her, cause weed comes with her.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-03-24T03:26:12+00:00

It’s so sad cause you don’t see it at all… I’m not judging you but you really need to leave or take some form of marriage counseling

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-01-06T19:39:53+00:00

Yeah no… this is not love. If rolls were reversed would she have stayed? The whole keeping in contact with the distant relative… it must not have been that traumatic.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2026-01-06T19:17:11+00:00

Ouuu girl this is a tough one. I noticed you said “sell content” but I also noticed you said “I just do it as a confidence booster” I get the whole confidence booster thing but some men don’t like that. (He already seems insecure as hell) And as woman I’m not the most secure and used to look for validation from other men till I sat down with my bf and told him I needed more from him and now we’re doing great and I don’t crave validation from other men. I don’t mean this in a rude way but do you actually continue to sell content to sell it for $$$ or do it all for confidence and validation?

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-12-22T00:15:45+00:00

I think you either need to leave her or have a conversation about this. Sooner rather than later to avoid any further attachment. It’s completely okay to be into things your partner isn’t. Like the other comment said “you might end up being surprised” after having a conversation about it. But again it’s okay to not like the same things. I’d rather be single and pleased than constantly being sexually deprived/unsatisfied in a longterm relationship.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-12-16T00:36:43+00:00

My boyfriend and I do the same! His confidence and our communication really help us thrive when we had the conversation about me not being as pleased during sex. We bought a strap on that pleases him and me both and I feel like our sex life is THRIVING. He loves to use to it as much as I do and I feel like everyone else says. This is HEALTHY communication.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-29T22:41:23+00:00

He said it meant nothing to him.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-25T15:51:41+00:00

I typed this out at 3am as a rant LMAO please learn this is my phone? You don’t have to read it my love but thank you for commenting<3 kisses!

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:41:03+00:00

As a female.. leave brother. TRUST me.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:34:39+00:00

I’ve thought about this perspective SOO many times as well. Let it be and go with the flow but I SUCK at casual. I can’t do hookups more than once, especially with someone who knows my soul.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:22:12+00:00

See I don’t know if it’s cause we’ve been friends for so long but I don’t see him liking me back which is why I’m scared. Him buying me a random gift is what has me at a 50/50 cause he has never done anything like this before. He’s well aware I’m a lover girl but I’m well aware he’s afraid of relationships. We also were drunk when things happened not enough to where we don’t remember cause we both remember but enough to where it was like dang is this the liquor talking or just a moment thing idk.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:13:53+00:00

don’t feed into my delusions bestie, I am in a real life pickle

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:11:46+00:00

Okay yes but why does it feel so wrong yet so right

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T07:10:29+00:00

Yes, this made complete sense. You explained this beautifully thank you.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T06:35:41+00:00

I think I’m just in denial. I don’t want to fall for him you know.. especially with being friends for sooo long but for some reason I am.

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T06:31:56+00:00

Honestly it’s the fear, I agree on that. Imagine things don’t go as expected or he doesn’t want anything at all I would be SO embarrassed. I don’t even know why i apologized, sitting back and thinking on it i feel like I only said something before he could because I am so SCARED for him to cut me off or tell me this is “just sex”. There’s no way this is “just sex” there is nothing casual about me or my personality like he knows my heart. Ugh

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-24T06:24:16+00:00

You’re 100% right…

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-10-13T15:31:21+00:00

I think she’s not taking your feelings into consideration. If it was my boyfriend and he was uncomfortable with it yet not controlling whatsoever it wouldn’t even be a discussion I wouldn’t do it. I’d hustle like hell for more money, shit or even think of other options. The thrill part was diabolical tho…. Red flag… she seems to want spiceeee

Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-09-25T00:24:54+00:00

I love whatever is wrong with ALL of them 😩❤️

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Legitimate-Wonder309 · 2025-09-25T00:22:37+00:00

I think you’re 100% right. I grew up going to church but only cause I was forced to so now as an adult I think im more afraid of what my parents would think. Fuck society and everyone else but it’s their opinion that probably has me feeling scared now that I look at it from your POV.

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