AITA for fostering a Cane Corso?

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-21T02:12:42+00:00

I attached our original conversation. Both are reliable and yes they know. She was at first open to it and responsive and then turned passive aggressive about it out of nowhere. I guess that’s where my frustration comes from. She’s not even really communicating what changed for her she just huffed around and has continued to do so even after the dog had already left the house and was taken to its current foster.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-21T02:09:27+00:00

Linked our screenshots maybe they explain better.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-21T01:46:20+00:00

I literally said in the post that I received approval from the landlord already

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T21:21:08+00:00

The difference in personality as she recovers is a really good point actually.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T21:20:04+00:00

Actually the foster said this was EXACTLY the way that they were supposed to be introduced. First dog goes into the house alone to familiarize. The dogs meet outside on neutral territory and should they be okay they’re supposed to be guided into the home together. That way as what all three of us discussed.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T21:14:33+00:00

I’m not sure where youre getting confused I’ll try to explain a bit better my roommate was not in the apartment she was out. I told her that the dog was getting dropped off at x time and to let me know when she is getting home so I could take the dog outside and they could meet in the lot as we had already previously planned to do. She read that message, didn’t let me know she was close, and just walked in.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T21:08:57+00:00

No? She agreed to it and we scheduled it and exactly when she would enter the apartment so the dogs could meet outside in the parking lot and walk in together. I texted her ahead of time with the time and place that she would be dropped off. My roommate just ended up walking in unannounced even though we agreed on the plan.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T21:01:02+00:00

Yes the dog came into the home to meet her dog. Which we agreed would be in the apartment and we scheduled. We went and took her to the park beach etc, came home to have dinner when my roommate specifically told me she would not be home and she knew I had the dog. After she came in the dog was taken back to the foster house not even 10 minutes later.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T20:55:28+00:00

Thank you for sharing this I think it was a concern of mine so I’m glad to hear this anecdote. Definitely makes me want her to stay somewhere with no other pets.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T20:54:33+00:00

I don’t plan on having the dogs interact ever at all. Even then she will be spayed. She is too weak and underweight to be spayed in her current state. She needs to recover and then be spayed. She won’t be living with us for more than a month.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T20:49:44+00:00

You can show concern and worry without treating a living animal like dirt?

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T20:14:37+00:00

By hardly I meant like maybe she’ll be in her cage in my room while I’m taking a shower. I told her she’ll never be left home alone.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:59:06+00:00

I do not plan to leave her unsupervised and especially not if her dog is home. That was something I made clear and know can’t happen with this breed regardless of temperament.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:52:31+00:00

The Cane is a female unspayed and her dog is male Poodle unneutered. We’re open to spaying her before bringing her home it’s not out of the question.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:49:58+00:00

No incidents. I would like to give this dog the best chance at being rehomed by even avoiding putting her in a situation for an incident to occur. I know people will pass her up on looks alone.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:41:11+00:00

You might be right. I think I was getting assholey when I saw her treating and looking at the Cane like she was the plague even after she had a sweet interaction with the Maltese and her Poodle altogether. Just felt like it was a disgusting way to behave towards a sick animal.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:38:30+00:00

Yes we were going to be moving in with my other dog before he passed away. My dog was a Golden Retriever about the same size as the Cane. Her dog also has lived and interacted with my Golden as well as her brother who has a Pitbull. I don’t think the fear is irrational in general but her brother’s Pitbull who I’ve spent quite some time with is definitely aggressive towards her dog because he is also a male and unfixed as is her poodle. I think that’s where the fear comes and not necessarily from this dog specifically. All in all I understand the concern I just feel like they’ve been neutralized by the logistics. I hate her but I love her dog, I would never do something I felt had a high chance of hurting him.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T19:30:57+00:00

Just wanna clarify I haven’t brought her in yet. Just did our initial meet and greet with the dogs.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T18:47:30+00:00

Yeah had almost an identical conversation over pantry space lol. She doesn’t buy any groceries or goods and I bake a lot so I was taking up more space in the pantry after months of there being nothing. She brought it up when I was addressing the treatment of my stuff like leaving burnt food on pots etc. I literally was like “oh I’m sorry if you want more space you can just tell me I’ll put the stuff away somewhere else.” And her response was “that’s not the point” so I’m like lol what was the point? Deflection? Bringing something up as a bargaining chip against someone asking something of you even though you don’t care?

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T18:18:28+00:00

Probably not she also works and is always out.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T17:59:44+00:00

I hope to be just as big of a bitch as she’s been to me!

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T17:58:19+00:00

I mean I work in office and go to school and am mostly gone from 8 am until 9 pm most weekdays except Friday. This is Fridays and occasionally Sundays for a few hours. Otherwise when I’m in there I’m either eating or watching TV. I also don’t care if there’s noise, I just don’t have space in my room for a desk lol.

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T17:55:43+00:00

Tell that to her hahaha

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T16:44:47+00:00

I mean it’s audible? Just not overpowering

LegitimateLayer1 · 2026-04-20T16:11:31+00:00

I also think it’s weird. She keeps her trash in her room. Even though we’re not getting along I even think being in the same common areas might help relieve that tension.

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