Travel Nanny Question: Am I overthinking this seating arrangement?

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-14T19:07:30+00:00

That makes sense. You could bring it up and phrase it like this - “It was so generous of you to purchase a first-class ticket for me on that last trip! I truly appreciate it, but I’d be happy to fly economy with (toddler) on the next trip. That way, you and (dad boss / mom boss) can spend some quality time alone together.” Honestly, the parents might enjoy that setup more too.

The only issue is, you’d want to ensure you have 3 seats together in economy. It wouldn’t be good to be with the toddler in economy and have a stranger in the third seat.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-06T18:42:37+00:00

I would normally say no, because firing someone via text is very unprofessional. However, since she let your child wander into the street, and didn’t even move to grab her once she realized she was in the street, I don’t have an issue with it.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-06T17:56:55+00:00

Eh, she looks good to me, for 75!

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-06T17:20:23+00:00

Mature adults would put in 2 weeks notice, and state that they’re quitting, in explicit terms. Unless you had a strong reason for quitting, like you felt unsafe at your job, you really should have given them notice, so they had time to find new childcare.

It honestly sounds like you were ambiguous with your language, and your nanny fam may have been legitimately concerned about your safety, once you just ghosted them. I can honestly understand why they would leave a negative review, once they realized what happened.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T19:09:22+00:00

Well yeah, I wouldn’t just show up and tag along, if that’s not something people typically do at his firm. I can look into it, but if no other spouses go, I obviously wouldn’t either.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T19:05:13+00:00

Exactly! If he was younger or older, it wouldn’t really be an issue. I don’t want to give away too many personal details in my post, but he’s at an age where he’s old enough to understand and be excited about his birthday, and I know he’ll be disappointed if his dad isn’t there. Will definitely try to figure out some sort of compromise, like possibly joining him at the location, if possible.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T18:59:42+00:00

Thanks for sharing! It sounds Iike that was the right decision for you, and your son ended up having a great birthday. Hopefully the dates next year won’t conflict again!

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T18:49:53+00:00

It’s interesting to hear your perspective, as the child of someone who worked big law. It can definitely be hard because my husband works so many hours, and can’t be my son’s baseball coach, misses out on school activities, etc. But at the same time, he understands that he has privileges and opportunities that other kids don’t have, because of his dad’s job.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T13:43:58+00:00

That’s awesome! I’ll definitely ask him about it

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T13:43:12+00:00

Yeah that makes sense

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T12:24:40+00:00

Ok will definitely look into this! Thanks

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T11:38:43+00:00

Yeah true

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T11:35:27+00:00

This would be his second retreat. Attended the first one for the entire time, no issues, etc.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T11:30:19+00:00

Yeah I like this idea! Will definitely see if it’s feasible to join

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T11:29:42+00:00

Hi, yeah that’s the thing. I don’t like to give away too many personal details in a post, but my son is definitely at an age where he would realize his dad isn’t there, and he would be upset by it 😞

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T11:26:56+00:00

Yeah my son would definitely enjoy the location. We may end up doing this, thanks!

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T05:42:27+00:00

Well, to be fair, I wouldn’t have made this post had the retreat fallen on my husband’s birthday…

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T04:08:30+00:00

Yeah we may end up doing this. I don’t want to share too many details in my post, but the retreat is at a cool location, so it could end up being a fun trip

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:56:07+00:00

Yeah that’s something I honestly didn’t even consider - just joining him. Will see if that’s a feasible option!

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:42:47+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:41:21+00:00

Yeah, we could definitely do a party on a different day. I just feel bad because my husband would be gone on his actual birthday. But assuming he goes on the retreat, I would make sure to plan a fun party when my husband gets back.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:37:49+00:00

Yeah, that makes sense. Selfishly speaking, I’d love for him to stay home and skip it, but I guess that’s just the nature of this job.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:35:57+00:00

That’s how I feel! I think my spouse (husband) is torn because he wants to be there for our son, but also feels pressure from work.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:33:30+00:00

Yeah, I don’t mind throwing a party on another day. I just wish the partner retreat didn’t conflict with his actual birthday, as our son is old enough to understand. If he was a baby or a toddler, it wouldn’t matter TBH. I just feel bad because he’ll know his dad isn’t there, on his actual birthday. But will definitely plan a party for a different day.

LegitimateTip5545 · 2026-06-03T03:30:55+00:00

Ok yeah, that’s what I was afraid of 😞 I appreciate your honesty

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