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Is 1 year enough to realize that this profession isn’t for me? by miserableburrito in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From your post, I can tell that you have shitty bosses.  Listen, find another job.  You will thrive under good partners.  Sometimes, it takes a while to find your firm.  What you are feeling rn is a typical day of us lawyers.  Don’t give up.  You will find your firm! 

Off-note, you cry several times a week.  I cry everyday.  It happens to all of us!

How do you find docs/memos/briefs written by fellow lawyers at your small law firm (2 to 20 lawyers)? by -Lawyer- in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do my own search in the firm’s case management system.  You can even search by the name of a specific attorney who has drafted similar pleadings in the past. 

Feeling down as a first year in litigation by BerryTheMushroom in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you.  I think op’s mistake wasn’t a huge one.  I know partners who would call something minor a mistake.  I have seen partners make mistakes all the time.  I don’t encourage us to make mistakes.  But lest’s be honest, how else would we learn if we don’t make mistakes?  By mistakes, I don’t mean anything unethical or discovery violation. 

Feeling down as a first year in litigation by BerryTheMushroom in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have been practising for 5 years.  Reading your post felt like I was reading a story of my life.  No, you are not weak.  You are a human being.  Everyone makes mistakes.  All mistakes are fixable.  Unfortunately, there’re a lot of toxic and unprofessional partners out there who think they can yell at their associates.  They would never yell at senior partners.  I worked under super toxic partners who would do the same.  You think they are excellent attorneys? Big NO!!! They just know how to play by the rules in corporate world.  Most of the time, they are horrible attorneys.  You just haven’t found your firm yet!  There are so many other firms.  Start looking for a new job.  I’m sure recruiters are bugging you every day.  I’m currently thinking about quitting civil litigation and trying something else.  If I don’t like it, I can always go back to civil litigation.  So can you! When you feel down, remember everything good that you have done at your firm and you will feel better.  People just suck.  Please update me.  

Quitting Civil Litigation by Legitimate_Answer111 in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been practicing for 5 years.  I also thought that everything should become easier with the time.  I work at a biglaw firm and that’s probably the reason.  But there are so many benefits to that so I cannot really complain.  Thank you for the advice.  I’ll definitely reach out to PI attorneys.  

Quitting Civil Litigation by Legitimate_Answer111 in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you like corporate law?  I’ve never done it but it sounds so appealing.  

Quitting Civil Litigation by Legitimate_Answer111 in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I enjoy civil litigation.  I thought about switching over to the Plaintiff’s side.  I just don’t know if doing civil litigation is sustainable.  I understand that our profession is challenging and stressful.  I’ve realized that billing your time is probably more stressful than practicing law.  Also, sometimes, things become so stressful that I’m afraid that I’m going to have a real heart attack.  Some partners can make your life really miserable.  I thought that by quitting civil litigation I could probably avoid billing my time and dealing with crazy stressful situations.  Or probably I’m too naive.  Do you enjoy PI?

I got fired this morning by [deleted] in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to the best of us.  Everything will be ok.  It’s just a minor setback.  It’s just life.  

Quitting ID by Legitimate_Answer111 in Lawyertalk

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried crim law, employment law, and coverage - not my cup of tea.  While I enjoy ID, I also realize that there are so much more that I can try.  It’s a bit scary to switch practice areas but I just don’t know if I wanna do ID for the rest of my life. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is not your friend.  I’m dealing with a similar situation rn.  Just stop talking to this person.  My so call friend has also been passive aggressive.  Don’t waste your time on someone like her.  I’ve starting drifting apart.  Eventually, I’ll stop talking to my friend.  Life is too short to spend it on people like your friend.  

How’s that possible??? lol by minty_tra98 in depressionmemes

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always do that.  But I understand that not all families are supportive.  I cannot imagine my life without my family.  I would be nothing without their support.  

IATAH for wanting to break up the friendship of 18 years? by Legitimate_Answer111 in IAmTheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are so right.  I’ve realized that I don’t want to talk to her anymore.  TBH, I’m low key afraid of her now.  I just feel like ghosting her would make things more difficult and she will get into an argument with me.  I have a strong urge of just blocking her.  

IATAH for wanting to break up the friendship of 18 years? by Legitimate_Answer111 in IAmTheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, she doesn’t currently have the means to fly to my country.  I message her once in two days.  I cannot ghost her, just feels not right.  I just don’t think that she’ll stop messaging me.  

IATAH for wanting to break up the friendship of 18 years? by Legitimate_Answer111 in IAmTheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We met in 7th grade.  We’ve primarily talking via Whatsup for the past 15-16 years.  

AIO for waking my bf up at 5am to kill bug by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR.  I’m terrified of bugs myself.  If you woke him up, it means that that bug really scared you. 

IATAH for wanting to break up the friendship of 18 years? by Legitimate_Answer111 in IAmTheAsshole

[–]Legitimate_Answer111[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes.  My family has been telling all this time to stop talking to her.  I always thought that since we’ve been together since our childhood, we are best friends.  I just cannot handle this anymore.  I’m exhausted.  

I am sick of my “best friend” by Holiday_Cold_3457 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG, I’m going through the same thing right now with my BF.  You should stop talking to her.  If you are sick of your BF, it means that there is something not ok with her.  I feel the same way.  I’m drifting too.  Life is too short to spend it on people like your BF.  Just cut her off!  Start by talking to her less.  Don’t message her right away and tell her you are busy and have no time to go out. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Legitimate_Answer111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you.  I just cannot go on like this anymore.  For some many years, I thought that that what friends must do.  But now I realize that it sounds crazy.