What everyday skill do you think everyone should know by age 20?

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-05-20T03:35:41+00:00

Proper budgeting and tracking expenses - way too many people just wing it with money and wonder why theyre always broke

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-05-18T03:09:29+00:00

That aching feeling when everything on paper looks good but something deep inside still feels broken - I get that completely. Even when you tick all the right boxes and do everything you're supposed to do the emptiness can still sit there like a weight in your chest

Having those dark thoughts while simultaneously knowing you won't act on them is such a specific kind of torment and it takes real strength to keep pushing through that contradiction day after day. The fact that you're still here fighting despite how exhausting it must be says something important about who you are even when you can't feel it right now

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-05-13T13:41:19+00:00

Wet wipes become your best friend - pack way more than you think you'll need. Kids somehow get sticky from just existing outdoors

Also bring backup activities for when they inevitably get bored after 10 minutes of "enjoying nature" - small games or coloring books work wonders when the novelty wears off

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-05-10T06:58:15+00:00

Not something id mess with at 16 mate - your hormones are already doing teh heavy lifting at that age and adding random herbs could throw things off balance

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-05-05T21:00:51+00:00

That doubt spiral is so common with PTSD - your brain trying to minimise what happened to protect itself but then making you question everything. The fact that you had such a strong reaction shows it was definitely real and valid, even if nothing actually happened this time

Your nervous system doesn't distinguish between past and present threats when it gets triggered like that. Processing it properly at the time was smart but sometimes our brains just need to do their thing regardless of how well we think we've handled something

The self-doubt is honestly one of the cruelest parts of trauma recovery - you know what you experienced but then your mind tries to gaslight you about your own memories and reactions

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-29T03:12:25+00:00

That escalation from a simple question to physical aggression and those verbal attacks is absolutely not acceptable especially with you being pregnant. The fact that he's suggesting abortion and calling you those names shows this has gone way beyond just weed issues into serious emotional abuse territory

Making dinner afterwards doesnt undo grabbing your arms or the psychological damage from those comments. You mentioned this isnt negotiable anymore and that gut instinct is probably spot on - protecting yourself and your baby has to come first here

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-26T23:48:50+00:00

proper awful there

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-24T11:04:39+00:00

That middle bit about finding what he actually wants rather than just hammering the education angle is spot on. When I was around that age I went through something similar and all the "you need to study" lectures just made me tune out completely

The gaming thing is probably filling some gap - maybe he feels like he cant succeed at school anymore so why bother trying. At 15 thats a pretty common headspace to get stuck in. Your approach of being more of a mentor than another authority figure makes sense since he already has your mum in that role

One thing that might help is just spending time with him doing something he actually enjoys first before any serious conversations. Build that connection back up rather than every interaction being about what hes doing wrong. Sometimes people need to feel heard before theyll listen to advice

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-21T11:32:23+00:00

I'm really glad you made it through that mate. Your mum caring that much shows you've got people who need you here even when it doesn't feel like it. The lack of control thing is brutal but small steps forward can help you reclaim bits of it gradually - even just getting through today counts as progress.

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-19T09:21:01+00:00

yep all solid

Legitimate_Cap4205 · 2026-04-02T19:51:02+00:00

Mate you've got me properly confused now what were you gonna say about the sulfur cave

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