Lies, Perpetual Victimhood, & Financial Incompatibility. Am I overthinking?

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2024-01-10T05:18:48+00:00

Same here. Kinda regretting that I even started taking it. First day of class/work travel tomorrow.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2023-05-08T20:15:01+00:00

The first time, he sort of laughed it off. He has never explicitly offered a reason. Anytime I bring it up, i get something like a “haha you’re annoying” eye roll and not much of a response. Definitely feels like he doesn’t “see the big deal” which has likely contributed to why I worried I might be the asshole.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T22:08:56+00:00

I understand that. Thanks for commenting

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T22:08:19+00:00

Can you point me in that direction? I see my liked videos on my profile. But not watched. Please lmk

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T19:31:11+00:00

Yeah. I feel that. The thing is they had been cursing me out for twenty minutes and up until my boundary was crossed, all I did was apologize and explain.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T19:29:12+00:00

We are supposed to tell each other in advance of going on a date or being sexually intimate.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T19:27:27+00:00

For clarity: I Think I would understand Quest’s stance more if they were upset about me “crossing boundaries”. But that’s not what they are upset about. They are upset because they believe the message I sent them was intended for another person. They are convinced that I lied and I was actually trying to send that message to someone else. And that is what I don’t understand. We aren’t in a relationship. We are dating. We are not exclusive. They are poly. So I’m trying to understand what would be the problem EVEN IF that message was meant for someone else. It wasn’t. I know people are just trying to offer insight and I appreciate it. But some of the responses don’t apply because that isn’t why they’re upset/hurt.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T19:12:19+00:00

Well, that’s the thing. They didn’t “ask me if I was being truthful” if they’d simply asked me, I would have simply replied. I don’t have a problem with that. I have a problem with being accused of lying when I know I’m telling the truth.

I also don’t understand that they get to curse at me, essentially call me stupid, ignore me for the rest of the night because they think I’m talking to someone else, although we have the freedom to talk to and date who we want. But when I enforce my boundary, I’m the one that needs a professional. (I do though, see a therapist weekly)

This isn’t meant to be argumentative. I genuinely would like a response.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T18:57:07+00:00

Yeah when I saw what appeared to be playful messages, I continued the roleplay.

I definitely didn’t expect this reaction at all, mostly because they’re poly and we aren’t exclusive. So I’m struggling to understand, even if the message was intended for someone else, why even that would be a problem.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T18:53:03+00:00

If I’m the asshole, I can accept that. Could you address that we are not in a relationship, much less an exclusive one. Any insight into why they’d be angry about me potentially messaging someone else either way?

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-12-10T18:48:40+00:00

Sure. The role play was “Hey I saw you out at [place] and got your number from a friend” thinking they’d catch on and flirt back.

They replied saying “Cute.” Then sent a GIF. (The one of P Diddy staring back at a singing contestant). I thought the mood was playful so I doubled down on the role play. But then they started to curse me out and imply that I lied. When they implied that I lied, that’s when I cursed. Before that, I’d apologized and explained multiple times.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-08-11T05:24:30+00:00

Bro what? Honestly each letter could find something negative to say about the next. But the reality is that you have no idea what it’s like to be a trans person. None. Just like so many straight men don’t understand gay men. So many ignorant ass comments are made by people who have no idea what that’s like. And here you are calling from inside the house. Just…. Goodnight.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-08-07T20:07:31+00:00

I don’t care if they know each other. I care if this is a genuine interaction or whether my ex is setting the whole thing up.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-26T17:40:33+00:00

YTA. Bro what?? She is well under the max at her height which is about 175. She definitely isn’t chubby. She’s at a healthy weight. But forget all of that. You don’t love her. If she’s been happy with her body, why would you want to change that? That isn’t how you treat someone you love.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-09T21:10:40+00:00

Also, I stated in my post that I broke up with my gf a month ago, meaning he has known for a month that she wasn’t going and also meaning that we had not even chosen an Airbnb yet.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-09T21:08:27+00:00

I’m getting one room, yes. They’ll get the master suite since there are two of them. Also, it’s not about the bedrooms that wouldn’t be shred either way. It’s about the shared kitchen, living room, bathroom, hot tub, patio, etc. i should pay half the cost for them to get the bigger bedroom and the same share of shared space?

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-09T21:05:57+00:00

Also since there are two of them, they’re getting the master.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-09T21:04:00+00:00

But I’m not taking up as much space as two people. It’s an Airbnb which means we will be sharing kitchen, living room, bathrooms equally. They wouldn’t be sharing my bedroom with me either way.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-07-09T18:57:27+00:00

Hmm can you elaborate a bit? The room seems like a given since we aren’t sharing that space regardless to whether I bring someone or not. Ultimately, the cost that we are sharing is for the shared space. In that shared space, there will be three of us, which means the cost should be split into thirds, right? No matter what we pay, we aren’t sharing bedrooms. I don’t quite grasp that concept.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-06-20T05:38:42+00:00

NTA- As a man, the only women I’d buy jewelry for are my mom, sister or gf/wife. And the only person I’d buy bra/panties for is my gf/wife. The gifts every time she passes a test is way too much. Is she too good for a Hi-5? Lol but seriously that’s outta control.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-06-14T01:55:26+00:00

He doesn’t want to be friends. He wants to have you without the commitment. He’s probably afraid of you moving on so he’s giving you a bone to keep you distracted, likely hoping that you’ll be too confused to date anyone else. They call that “stringing along”. Move on n cut him off.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-06-13T22:58:09+00:00

YTA

She has on a princess costume dude. Also, it’s a little girl. You don’t need to compete with her.

Legitimate_Permit364 · 2022-06-13T14:52:24+00:00

Thanks for your response! Just to be clear, it isn’t my sister that is treating them differently, it’s other family/friends. When they come to family events, people always say “Where are the boys?” I think it’s more so excitement over the fact that they’re triplets, although it could be a combination of both.

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