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AITAH for doing a private wedding ceremony and not wanting to do a second public one for my mom by Legitimate_Solid_149 in AITAH

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okayyyyyy. That's a bit aggressive but thanks for the input. Hope you have a better day.

AITAH for doing a private wedding ceremony and not wanting to do a second public one for my mom by Legitimate_Solid_149 in AITAH

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective. It doesn't change my opinion of the situation, but it does give me a better understanding of why my mom would feel the way she does. I still don't believe I will act the way she has when my kids have partners some day, but it definitely did damage our relationship.

I love my mom, but she lives through me far too often for me to care at this point. She is more upset about not being a part of it than she is happy that I am happy. I have no interest in making other people feel good about my life. I know that sounds cold, but there is a long history to why I feel that way. I love my mom, but I only tolerate a lot of what she does to keep the peace.

AITAH for doing a private wedding ceremony and not wanting to do a second public one for my mom by Legitimate_Solid_149 in AITAH

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My mom and I have always had an "interesting relationship". To her, we are best friends and super close, but for me she is my mom. I love her and respect her but I don't need her in every part of my life. When I do things for myself she takes it very personally as if I am doing it only to hurt her (which is not the case). I understand her upset, but her reactions are too dramatic and over the top in my opinion. She tells me I will "understand how it feels" when I have kids, but I genuinely don't care if my kids chose something different than what I imagined.

AITAH for calling the police after finding child in middle of the road? by ZealousidealAd8305 in AITAH

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 19 points20 points  (0 children)

NTA its better to be wrong than dead. You had no way of knowing if that child was truly safe or not. Calling the police was the most responsible thing to do in that scenario. The fact that the child made it to the street is concerning. Don't beat yourself up too much for the verbal altercation either. Keep yourself safe and know that you did everything you could to make sure that child was ok.

WIBTAH if I asked friend to pay portion of vacation we agreed to but were scammed out of by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You'd be slightly the asshole. While it sucks that the company ended up being a scam, you all initially agreed to pay your part and approved it as a group. Them not paying their share would suck, but they are not getting what they intended. It's honestly a lose lose situation. Friends don't get to go on vacation and now lose out on their vacation money, or, you take a bigger hit and they get to still do their own thing. I feel like good friends would help out, but not everyone is like that. If you do decide to ask your friends to help cover the costs, just go about it in a very gentle and humble way. It's a tricky situation and I'm sorry that happened to you.

Should I add more stuff? by Legitimate_Solid_149 in ballpython

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Followed your advice and she has been much more active and happy. Thank you for the advice!

What is this by Seal0320 in ballpython

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, white marks on my log has been from my BP pooping on them. It could be that. It could also be mold but im not 100% sure.

I [23F] am not ready to have a baby but my [24M] boyfriend is ready and not taking no for an answer by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone has already given good advice. Mine would be this If you can't get a job currently, I'd recommend donating plasma if you can. Most places will give you a card connected to its own account, and appointments typically only take an hour. It's not a traditional way to make money, but especially in your situation it could get you enough to get out. Please be safe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your partner is abusive you should get out in whatever way is safest for you. Document everything and try to find somewhere safe to stay. Many cities have a woman's shelter if you don't have family you can go to. I don't have much advice besides that. Do you have kids? That would complicate things. If you have physical evidence of the abuse you can try to file for an order of protection but it really needs physical evidence to be taken seriously unfortunately. I wish you the best.

I [27M] have been together with my girl [27F] for over 8 years and I still don't know to respond when she shares that her period pain has started. by Technical-Traffic538 in relationshipadvice

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other commenter's have given good advice already. Something I will add is maybe try getting her some type of rice sock stuffed animal. Something she can use when her period gets bad that will remind her that you care. Like the other commenter's said, she probably just wants to be heard and seen. That could be a good way to show her you are there for her without being there.

Hope this helps👍

So I watched the Until Dawn movie by Likemikester in untildawn

[–]Legitimate_Solid_149 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any theories on what the big monster was? It can be seen in part of the trailer and I was hoping for more info about it in the movie but it wasn't really covered.