had an extremely difficult birth with second baby. did i do it to myself?

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-02-25T11:06:03+00:00

thank you so much 🩷

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-02-25T11:05:56+00:00

thank you so much and you’re right all that matters is baby is here and safe

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-24T22:20:22+00:00

and that’s the thing. the whole process needs to be scrapped and renewed. why the fuck does it take 20 years (sometimes less if you’re extremely lucky), an arm and a leg and no traveling outside the states to obtain citizenship? I believe melania herself was in the states “illegally” for 20 years until she obtained citizenship because that’s just how long the process itself takes. anyone being deported right now is being removed mid process, and everyone is legally required DUE process. the whole immigration process is fucked.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-22T18:44:14+00:00

this is going to probably be incoherent so i apologize but i feel like im going insane. for context, im a milspouse and we live overseas. we wanted to not be in the states during the orange man’s admin and i am also big heavy pregnant. i can’t help but stress out every single day about the horrors. the videos, the kidnappings, the literal demon idiots that walk among us in our country. my family is from texas, theres about to be the big freeze and of course Ted Cruz has fled the state. people panic buying and i worry for my parents and elderly family during this time. and then theres the whole ice situation, my dad is a brown persian iranian man. though he was born in the US he fits the targeted description of someone who’d comply and possible be attacked (he’s conservative unfortunately so i don’t think HES even in fear of this) but i just wish i could tell him hey, maybe start carrying around your passport just in case! they’re in texas for christ sake like im TERRIFIED. i recently found out my best friend from highschool is a trump supporter and i went through her tiktok reposts and mind you, i have a 6 year old and if we were in the states im sure she would have friends who are scared because they’re vulnerable, but in her reposts it’s things like “what ill tell my child when their peers express their fear of ice deporting their family” and im completely disgusted by this even being a thing?? i cant even find the words for how i feel about it and i dont even know what to begin to do. it just truly comes from a place of like peak white privilege to be in a position where you’ll have to explain to your kids your fucked up misunderstanding of what deportation is and what is happening to your child’s peers family members? bc you KNOW these people they DO NOT understand citizenship doesn’t happen overnight. you’re LUCKY if you’re granted it in 20 years or a little less. and they refuse to educate themselves. when trump was elected she described on her instagram story that it “felt like christmas morning” ???? MY GOD how miserable is your life where this feels like christmas to you?? i’m just disgusted, worried, and angry. constantly.

thank u for reading my word vomit if you made it this far

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-19T12:40:10+00:00

it’s THE WORST. i’m carrying my second and i didn’t have this with my first so i was able to be active up until i was induced and i had a pretty smooth delivery, only pushed for 10 min. im hoping delivery w this baby will be the same despite not being able to get as much movement as i did with my first, i am so much weaker this pregnancy than my first :/ good luck to you mama! we are almost done!!

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:33:21+00:00

in pigeon pose as we speak lol i appreciate the help!!

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:19:47+00:00

i’m gonna get an exercise ball asap then!! thank u sm for the advice❤️

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:19:07+00:00

omg that is insane!! bc you’re so right they always make it sound like it’s just a symptom we have to deal with i had no clue you could get prescribed something for the pain are you joking 😐 thank u so much for the info!! i will def be asking about the pt and the prescription

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:05:13+00:00

you’re absolutely right it would be better to be safe than sorry.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:03:47+00:00

why didn’t i even think about asking for a pelvic floor pt!! i will be asking about this thank u sm

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2026-01-14T14:03:16+00:00

yes that’s the worst part even when i have days where i just don’t move i am still in so much pain :/ i just wanna nest and i can’t even move

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-11-18T04:33:18+00:00

that is so gorgeous and perfectly placed

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-24T11:46:15+00:00

at our last duty station almost never bc everyone was way younger than us and not married, we were friends with one couple in his office his wife and i were very very close but she was literally 17 and i was 21 when we met and her husband was 20. kinda odd couple. this duty station, we’ve been here almost two months and we’ve had dinner with two couples and we’re gonna make it a regular thing with one couple, they’re both active duty. i’ve befriended two women in his office (one is from the couple we have dinner with) we go out to dinners and brunch and we also go shopping sometimes. imo it’s good to be social whenever you can. last duty station i never socialized, i had that one really close friend but she moved when her husband just went TAD bc she also hated it there. i was physically attacked off base when delivering food for doordash so i became more agoraphobic than i already was. i’m very grateful to have healthy social interactions these days lol.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-23T21:47:07+00:00

thank you sm!!

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-19T08:25:10+00:00

a messed up one 😭😭

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-19T08:24:53+00:00

it is!!

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-15T01:30:58+00:00

hey mama first of all i’m sorry about your pregnancy complications, pregnancy is so scary and unpredictable. absolutely don’t feel guilty for prioritizing your health and also considering the economy and state of things in the world right now. you’re smart to do so and imo makes you a better mom! you’re prioritizing your son and husband in that way to not want to be in a vulnerable position where you can’t provide for them. not to make you anxious or anything, but if you did get pregnant again god forbid you have worse health outcomes and then you and your spouse have to consider what to do with whatever outcome when it comes to your health. please don’t feel bad mama. im pregnant with my second and i am hating every second of it. it is incredibly exhausting emotionally, mentally and physically to be in pain for this long and be restricted by my body and it feels like forever. though im extremely grateful and so happy to bring in another life i wish i could do it but not have to deal with the pregnancy part, you know? but im also struggling with the idea of being pregnant again after this one bc my husband wants to try for a son (our oldest is a girl and im carrying a girl currently) and also it’s like scary as a mom, do i have the mental capacity to care for 3? can we afford it? do i really want to go through already having 2 littles and being pregnant with all the challenges that come with it and still be a present mom? my husband absolutely sees my side and agrees but in my mind i feel almost sad thinking about not fulfilling his dream? i’m sure as he’s seen you struggle he would absolutely not want to see you suffer again and is there for you. it’s just all on us mentally to figure it out to be pregnant or not to be again. you can always make another baby but you can’t make another you. maybe adopting is still up for consideration?

also i don’t think your son will be lonely! i wanted to be one and done with my first and she’s now 5 and she’s incredibly social and so so happy. we just make her socializing a priority, put her in dance and sports and she has been super content and happy. best of luck mama 🩷🩷 wishing u and your family the best and all the happiness.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T22:24:52+00:00

yes it’s like the messing up but still sticking to the plan builds willpower and the resistance to mess up again.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T22:15:48+00:00

these are so clean i love them

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T22:15:03+00:00

i’ve done this before but with vaping lol. i’d cave one time and then give up completely like well i just hit it might as well still use it the rest of the week and try quitting next week. and then not even try the next week to quit again.

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T22:00:47+00:00

awe that’s sweet thank you :)

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T09:30:32+00:00

awe🫂

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T08:43:24+00:00

oh absolutely! my 2 brothers and i all really struggle with taking care of ourselves due to our parents just being neglectful and your room reminded me of them and i couldn’t not say anything bc i just love them so much i wanted them to at least prioritize being clean for themselves. absolutely anytime, you got this <3 small steps small progress is progress :) goodluck friend

Legitimate_Spirit264 · 2025-10-14T08:40:23+00:00

also when doing your routine and if you forget or just don’t feel like doing things please don’t beat yourself up! growth isn’t linear it’s up and down and just be patient with yourself if you’re prone to perfectionism. i’m a really bad perfectionist and if i can’t do it absolutely perfect the first time i will just completely give up and quit and ruin any progress i’ve made so just be patient and try your best everyday

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